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This is also the first day I ever tried it. Also, even when he is sitting right by my he is hitting the other kids,even when they walk by. His big brother hits his big sister all the time, anytime she walks by, I have been told this by several of the family that pick him up. So I would assume thats where he gets the idea about the hitting? Because honestly those other kids arent doing anything to him. My bunch is not a violent one, aside from him.
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The thing is I really like the little guy. He is sweet aside from the hitting. Earlier I ment to say "he was on time out 4 times in one HOUR (not one DAY) for hitting" I really just dont know what to do with that little guy except seperate him. Grandma wasn't too happy at pickup today to know he was in the playyard during free play but I just honestly dont know what else to do :confused: Ive tried the "with me every minute" thing but he hits them sitting at my feet!
Plus, I feel like they need to do thier end. Why is the older brother allowed to beat up on the sister? In a house where that is acceptable I might be fighting a losing battle KWIM?
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I also talked to his old provider (who quit providing daycare) and she said he started this hitting when he was 18 months old at her house (not that its her fault I'm sure its home life) so I'm really not sure what to do cause it doesnt seem to be "me"????
As far as the school agers.....How much notice should I give? they have to do bus schedules and things.....Comment
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I want to help...I hope I can. I felt this way at 4 months in as well.
" 1)A few days a week I have to open at 5am. I HATE getting up that early and I dont care for the child too much. Plus its a school ager and I dont like school agers too much."
**i really feel you should term this child ASAP. You listed this first for a reason. 12 hour days are really too long. This is the major cause of your "burn out" feeling I think.
"2).... I really want a separate space for my daycare.... But I am wondering if this will make a difference to my happiness or not?"
**Yes! Separate your personal space and personal belongings as much as possible. Remove anything from the space you 'share' w the daycare that you love, like your antique rug. I suggest laminate or tile or linoleum floors. And faux leather (vinyl) sofas that are cheaper and easy to wipe off, and also tolerable for family use. I live 8.5 miles from my daycare space, so I really cherish the blessing of having a center separate from my home.
"3)I have one boy who will not stop hitting everyone!.... honestly just so sick of not being able to even leave the room..."
***there are many excellent threads here on the forum about hitting. As for being sick of not being able to leave the room without fearing an injury....sigh...you really should consider terming. it seems like you already know this is potentially a liability.
"4) I have one baby who I cannot term but he cries off and on all nap time!... then I can take out the IPOD and listen for him every few min? What do you think?"
***I think this is a very bad idea! I am sorry to put it so bluntly. And maybe even a dangerous idea. Unless your eyeballs are directly on ALL children at nap time, you MUST be able to hear. If you DO have an IPOD on, I really think your eyeballs better be peeled on ALL those kids big Big BIG time. Your hearing is so valuable! Sorry to be so strong on this point, but I am hearing impaired and take being able to hear as much as possible very seriously. I will listen to tunes @ nap, but I have my eyes directly on the kids AND I HAVE ANOTHER TEACHER THERE! I would never, ever, even remotely consider using an IPOD if I were there alone.
"5) I work a 12 hour day...."
***see #1. Eliminate family #1. This hour will be way better for your physical and mental health. Its not worth it. I think you KNOW this deep down. It is really burning you out. Honestly, you mentioned it first and last. I think this is the true crux of your burn out. Otherwise, your schedule seems do-able.
....Because I have a few kids that are just fine
I also love being able to be home with my kids....
***You WANT to do this, you CAN do this. You are the C.E.O. You are the president of the board. You are the Head of Client Relations. You are the BOSS! You go girl! Hang in there! Really! I sincerely want and hope for you to succeed!
Hugs. Peace. Happiness
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2 to 4 weeks is ample notice. If you send a letter home tomorrow saying that September 30th would be your last day of providing school age care, that should be sufficient.
Here's a sample letter to help you.
Dear Families:
After much consideration, I have decided to no longer offer childcare services for children of school age effective Friday, September 30th. This includes before and after school care.
It has been a pleasure to work with you all and I wish the very best for your family.
Sincerely,
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I understand what your all saying about the IPOD. If something happened to one of the children and I didnt hear it I would NEVER forgive myself. Thanks for the advice on that
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Sorry you are having a hard time. I have learned, like many pp's have said, that it is SO important to like our job to do it well. YOU set the rules!! I no longer worry about people pulling out, I will NOT settle if a family is not a good fit. Other families come along! Luckily I have had all wonderful families, but in between many phone calls and I was tempted to change things but didn;t. I had a great family that moved so I stayed open half hour later as they transitioned- won't do it again.
I only do full time (though had a family pay me for the spot but only use 20 hrs a week) I am only open 7-5, I don't take kids who don't take an afternoon nap. I don't take state assistance.
Figure out YOUR policies, then fill your Daycare with families that are a good fit! Good luck!Comment
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Thank you ALL for the WONDERFUL replies! I am so thankful for the support. Just to be able to admit that I am struggling helps
I am going to read and re-read these things. That way I can figure out the best solution for me and my family. 1st my sister is going to have another baby in december and she will then become a SAHM. So my nephew (who I watch for free and who is a new one year old (and sweet but lots of work) will be leaving so that will help. i am also going to get rid of the school age family. That will cut my hours back by an hour which will give me about 3 more hours a week - and more sleep! Also, I have an assistant who comes from 2:30 till 4:30 on Tuesdays so that I can pick my daughter up from school that day. I have asked her to stay an extra half an hour that day till my last child is picked up. That way I can take my little boy and pick up my daughter and we can spend the afternoon together 
I have more plans in the works too. I am starting to feel this may be managable
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