Didn’t Answer My Phone So They Stopped Over....Last Night

[jojosmommy]

I was on the phone with my MIL last night and one of my parents called. I did not recognize the number plus I figured MIL would get all distracted and start her story over if I switched over to answer the call so I ignored it. Few minutes later dcd knocks on the door. "Hey, just called and you didn't answer so I thought I would stop over. Wife tried to facebook you twice in the last hour and you didn't reply. Is it ok if I bring the kids early tomorrow so my wife and I can carpool?" I do not mind the earlier drop off (within my open hours and they never stay even close to 9 hours a day) but seriously, once you leave and daycare is closed I am not waiting at home for you to call/facebook/stop over. I thought about it once he left and I should have said "why don't you just leave the kids here since its only a few hours until you want to drop them off anyway ::."

Have you ever had this happen and was it akward? The whole thing felt strange to me. Also, I couldn't help but answer, the guy could see in my windows (not closed shades) and my son went running to the door to go see who would stop by at this hour.

[laundrymom]

How late? ???

[nannyde]

Ah no I haven't had that happen.

[Meeko]

That kind of mentality irks me too. Did it never cross their minds that maybe you didn't answer your phone because you wanted privacy?! Geesh! They could have left a message!

I guess some parents just feel that we are on duty and waiting for their call, visit etc 24/7

[MyAngels]

On the flip side, at least they really take the whole needing prior notification for a change in schedule rule seriously, right? ::

[momofboys]

Wow, they must live close I guess for DCD to pop over? I would be a bit annoyed. Glad they notified you but why didn't they just leave a VM message - after all she already FBed you - it's not like you had to physically talk! - and it cracks me up that the wife FB you 2 x & you hadn't replied yet. Do some people just pop on FB every hour to check in?!

[sharlan]

Personally, I don't understand why you were upset.

You were still up as you were on the phone, so it probably wasn't that late.

I would much rather the father run over to ask if it was ok when they weren't able to make contact, than have him show up early this morning, unexpected.

[jojosmommy]

sharlan:

"Personally, I don't understand why you were upset.

You were still up as you were on the phone, so it probably wasn't that late.

I would much rather the father run over to ask if it was ok when they weren't able to make contact, than have him show up early this morning, unexpected."

That kind of mentality irks me too. Did it never cross their minds that maybe you didn't answer your phone because you wanted privacy?! Geesh! They could have left a message!

I guess some parents just feel that we are on duty and waiting for their call, visit etc 24/7

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I guess since this isn't Seven Eleven or Taco Bell and I'm not "open late" I figure once I'm closed there really isn't a reason to assume I would be waiting for them to let me know their schedule. The time between when the needed to drop off and when they usually do was 10 min so the guy actually spent more time calling/facebooking and stopping over than time he needed to drop off. The whole thing was just strange in the manner that he assummed that I would answer or fb reply within a matter of min. Like I do nothing else between when they leave and when they drop off again ::.

[sharlan]

How would you have reacted if they showed up early without calling?

I had a grandparent leave 2 messages on my cell and 1 on my home phone last week to say they were keeping the child overnight and he wouldn't be there in the morning. All 3 calls were after 8. I greatly appreciated the fact that I didn't have to get up at 4AM to open the door for this child.

[Daycare Diva]

I am open 6 am to 6 pm. I expect all business to be conducted between those hours. I don't want to do business on my personal time. If the grocery store closes at 11:00 you don't expect them to take your phone calls or open the doors for you at 11:30.

[Meeko]

How would you have reacted if they showed up early without calling?

I had a grandparent leave 2 messages on my cell and 1 on my home phone last week to say they were keeping the child overnight and he wouldn't be there in the morning. All 3 calls were after 8. I greatly appreciated the fact that I didn't have to get up at 4AM to open the door for this child.

I think the op was more irritated that they assumed she should get back to them immediately.. As if she has no other life beyond their needs.

The grandparent in your case left messages. That's appropriate. It's not appropriate to FB, call and then visit all within a short period of time. That shows absolutely NO respect for the providers free time and privacy.

[blessedmess8]

I think the op was more irritated that they assumed she should get back to them immediately.. As if she has no other life beyond their needs.

The grandparent in your case left messages. That's appropriate. It's not appropriate to FB, call and then visit all within a short period of time. That shows absolutely NO respect for the providers free time and privacy.

I agree! If someone doesn't answer their phone it usually means they are BUSY or can't talk! So, why would you assume it would be okay to just come over?? I don't usually even "pop in" on my close friends. I call first to make sure it is okay with them! They should have left a message and WAITED for her to get back with them. I guess everyone's different...

[Kaddidle Care]

OCD - one of my best friends is like that. If you don't get back to her quick enough she'll call you 10 times! She would probably pop over too if she coudln't get hold of me.

I usually pick up the phone even if I'm busy and say "Hey listen, we're in the middle of dinner, I'll give you a call in a bit."

Sounds like they were anxious about the whole thing - not a norm I'm guessing.

[Unregistered]

How do parents request change then?

I am open 6 am to 6 pm. I expect all business to be conducted between those hours. I don't want to do business on my personal time. If the grocery store closes at 11:00 you don't expect them to take your phone calls or open the doors for you at 11:30.

How do parents request a change then if you don't allow business to be done after hours? For example, what if dentist calls and can get kid in first thing the next morning, but parents don't find out until after they get home from work and you're closed and they're contracted hours are different then their request? Or what if mom or dad are having car trouble and need to get the vehicle into the dealership early the next morning and thus need to get kid to you early and their contracted hours are different then their request?

[Unregistered]

sharlan:

"Personally, I don't understand why you were upset.

You were still up as you were on the phone, so it probably wasn't that late.

I would much rather the father run over to ask if it was ok when they weren't able to make contact, than have him show up early this morning, unexpected."


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I guess since this isn't Seven Eleven or Taco Bell and I'm not "open late" I figure once I'm closed there really isn't a reason to assume I would be waiting for them to let me know their schedule. The time between when the needed to drop off and when they usually do was 10 min so the guy actually spent more time calling/facebooking and stopping over than time he needed to drop off. The whole thing was just strange in the manner that he assummed that I would answer or fb reply within a matter of min. Like I do nothing else between when they leave and when they drop off again ::.

Actually, no OP said dcd said they made contact 3 times last hour, so they could have been trying for an hour or more - OP never clarified exactly how long it had been that the parents had been waiting for a call back.