Saying 'No' Too Too Much!!

[blueclouds29]

I need your help!! right now i have 4 DCK's under 2. A 12, 14, 17 month and almost 2 years old, all i do is say 'no' ALL DAY! I know its normal for little one to climb on EVERYTHING, get into things, pull hair, hit, throw toys across the room, etc, you get the point....
What else can i do beside saying 'no' we don't throw toys, we don't hit... I feel time-out is not going to work at their age and they would be in it all day. I feel like the mean witch everyday. HELP!!! What do you guys do for little ones in this phase??

[GotKids]

My crew is all under three(6 weeks, 12 months, 14 months, 3 18 month olds, and 2 1/2). I know what you are talking about, you do play ref all day. Try saying lets use soft hands instead of no hitting, say feet on the ground instead of climbing. When you remove the negative they respond better and you feel better too. Good luck!

[Michael]

More no's: https://www.daycare.com/forum/tags.php?tag=saying+no

[Maddy'sMommy]

My girls are all under 2 as well. I try to say "sit on your bum", "soft hands","walking feet", etc. But I still use No during the day.

[godiva83]

I substitute " you need to" for No A LOT.
Instead of saying, "no climbing"
I say, YOU need to keep your feet on the ground." and tell them the reason. " you need to keep your feet on the ground, because you may fall." the only draw back is it is a lot of words and direction for a little one.

[dEHmom]

I need your help!! right now i have 4 DCK's under 2. A 12, 14, 17 month and almost 2 years old, all i do is say 'no' ALL DAY! I know its normal for little one to climb on EVERYTHING, get into things, pull hair, hit, throw toys across the room, etc, you get the point....
What else can i do beside saying 'no' we don't throw toys, we don't hit... I feel time-out is not going to work at their age and they would be in it all day. I feel like the mean witch everyday. HELP!!! What do you guys do for little ones in this phase??

i went through and am going through this with a 17 mth old. however, time outs worked somewhat. he still tests but that i figure is pretty normal. consistently placing him in timeout every time a behaviour happened and sitting with him for the few seconds he was in and explaining why he was there did work. at one point, i remember thinkin does he even understand the timeout? he did a bad thing, looked at me because he knew he did it, and walked himself to time out. that clearly showed me he understood

[Crystal]

look at the environment. make it a "yes" environment. make it an inviting, but also calm and warm environment.

then, change the way you say things " SIT on the sofa" instead of "don't jump on the sofa" "sit on your butt" instead of "don't sit on your knees" add an action when you do it and it makes it even more effective "you can throw some balled up newspaper in a basket, but you may not throw blocks, if you feel like you need to throw things, go throw newspaper" then let them. You can do it with all of the little things that would be a "no"...dumping - let them pour sand or water. yelling-put on music and sing, etc.