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So today one dcd says to his kids before going "Be good!" Then proceeded to ask me how the kids have been lately. I said "Well, you know, kids are kids. Dkb sometimes has a hard time following directions, but what 2.5 year old doesn't?" And he goes "Yeah, at home the soap works pretty well. We have him stick out his tongue and lick the bar of soap." Uhh... really? I honestly thought this was an outdated "technique" and so was kinda in shock. I just said "Oh..." :confused:
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Yuck! And I do not think I could do that. Torture! -
Furthermore I thought this "technique" was mainly used when kids say curse words?Comment
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Of course this is not soemthing that a DC provider would do to thier DCK, but when I grew up I had soap in my mouth on several ocassions from what I can recall.
I also recently had a DCM tell me that her DD went to grandmas and told grandma every bad word she knew. Grandma took it well, but mom put soap in the mouth... I was shocked when she told me, but I guess that was her way of dealing with it. I am sure now days it would be considered abuse, but I don't feel that the mom is abusive, so I just left it.
I also have a book called NO David, it shows a pic of the boy david with a bar of soap in his mouth and the words read: Well daddy says it...
I think people still do it, they are just more quiet about it than beofre. It seems the way we used to get punished is no longer acceptable....
I have no comment on the changes....
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2.5 year old?! Poor little guy...that's awful. He doesn't understand. I feel so bad for him.
That is outdated.
That was mostly used for curse words/back talk/etc.
Sounds like they might be using this the way some people use time outs.
Maybe buy them a copy of "Parenting with Love and Logic" or the Dr. Sears "The Discipline Book" or something. Make it a gift; "Here, I know toddlers and preschooler's can be challenging; I love these, they might give you some insight!"Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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I remember when me and my cousins said bad words and my aunt put soap on our tongues...Cashmere Bouquet! Being the smarty pants we are, we decided as a group that we liked the taste and continued saying bad words and begging for more soap. My poor aunt gave up in tears!
Sorry...off track...but brought back some fun memories (or traumatic in my aunt's case)!Comment
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My husband told me once that his dad made him and his brother sit down at the kitchen table and each eat a half an onion and a half a lemon. But they were 16 and 14 at the time! And they were fist fighting, dropping f bombs and cussing like sailors, admitted they deserved it! He merely mentioned this option to our 16 year old and that was the end to his cussing....
2.5 years old though!!! What?!? That's so ugly! Teens, ok. Toddlers-messed up!!!!Comment
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I remember the taste well........::
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I had a dad say one time "Ya, he's still putting everything in his mouth" (he was too old for this) "So, we sneak up and slap it farther into his mouth... feel free to use this technique"
"What.. so *I* can pay for his dental work?"
I don't see how punishing the mouth can work for any reason. Discipline is called "get off your butt parenting... it doesn't mean cause pain, it means, get up and intervene, help, teach, redirect"Comment
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I saw on the news a few years ago that a child had an allergic reaction to the soap after his mom "washed his mouth out." The child passed away.Comment
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I would think in light of the mom who used hot sauce as punishment to her 7 year old son and was charged with child abuse, I would think soap should be a really bad alternative. At least hotsauce is a viable food product. :confused:
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