Is This Normal?

[Meeko]

"however one of the parents insists I hold off until after hours to have my son have his earned time because it's 'unfair' to her child."

Nobody has the right to "insist" about anything that is between you and your child in your own home. EVER.

[AfterSchoolMom]

"however one of the parents insists I hold off until after hours to have my son have his earned time because it's 'unfair' to her child."

Nobody has the right to "insist" about anything that is between you and your child in your own home. EVER.

Ditto. Parents continue to astonish me.

[cheerfuldom]

so whats the update? did you talk to the parents today?

[blessedmess8]

Sounds like you have a case of parents who view you as "just the hired help!" When, in actuality, this is a BUSINESS. YOUR business. So, you make the rules! I like to send out mass e-mails to all my parents, addressing certain issues so no one feels singled out! Lol

[KDC]

Update...

I have a lot of teacher kiddo's, so most of them are just returning after having the summer off. I requested the DCB have a onsie on before he gets here to avoid the #2 spreading issue, and the family has complied 100%. Also, maybe something to add to the contract under behavior for next year, just in case! I love the backward pj idea as well & if it happens again, it's going on!

As for the brushing of teeth, I will do it after meals only. I will refuse to do it first thing in the morning. It's the parents responsibility, not mine. Same goes for the hair, it needs to be brushed at least. If the Dad has a hard time putting the pig tails in, I'll do it when I have time during the day.

My son was in another room (basement away from other children) and he was either playing Super Mario Bros. or Mario Karts. He's 6. I will no longer allow the DCP to dictate what I do with my children. He's done really well in school and deserves some time to himself doing the things he loves for doing great in school & completing his homework. It's difficult because she's not just a DCP, but also a neighbor & friend. We are both conflict avoiders and have a hard time communicating with each other. But, I will stand up for myself when it comes to the raising of my own children.

Thanks for the advice! I'm glad I found this site, it's really helpful!

[Meeko]

I have a couple of questions to see if it's 'normal' to expect these scenarios in a home daycare setting... I'd like approach the topic with my families, but fear this might just be what I signed up for.

I have a full service licensed daycare and care for children 6 and under. Here are my questions...

1. 18 month old child often reaches into his pants and pulls out his #2 to smear everywhere. Parents 'warned' me of this and gave me extra onsies, however, they bring him to my house without wearing one. This is highly unsanitary. I would like to make it clear the child is not to come to my house without a onsie on until he's older and no longer does this. This is a reasonable request, right?

2. I have a 2 yr. old whose parents insist I comb and put her hair up when she arrives at my day care. Hands over the rubber bands upon arrival. I have to work out her knots (fun when she's unwilling) and put her hair up. Isn't this supposed to happen before she gets to my house?

3. Brushing a 2 yr. olds teeth when they get here. Again, shouldn't this be done before hand. She informed me he chews on it, so I really need to get in there to scrub. The time to do this really takes away from everyone else. They all want to know where their toothbrush is.

4. Screen time. I have 1.5 hours of 'screen' time in a 9 hour day typically. The TV is on in the morning as the children arrive, and is turned off during breakfast and promptly off at 9am. However I have a 6 yr. old son that earns extra wii/dsi time for good behavior at school. I have him in another room away from the daycare kids, however one of the parents insists I hold off until after hours to have my son have his earned time because it's 'unfair' to her child. Also, her child is 4 an cannot watch any Disney movies because they are too scary. Phineas and Ferb are too grown up for him, and leapsters are considered screen time that's unacceptable. He's allowed to watch Mickey Mouse, which the other kids are sick of, but his parents insist this is the only age appropriate show for him to watch. I'm feeling as though I'm being judged for my decisions with my child, and forced to conform my daycare around their decisions.


Please let me know if I'm just being whiny, or if you feel these are something legitimate.

#1. No onesie...no care.

#2. No hair care. Especially if she doesn't provide brush, comb etc. That should be taken care of BEFORE she gets to day care.

#3 I have it in my handbook....no teeth brushing.
Brushing x16 kids means no time for anything else. Again...needs to be done at home.

#4 No parent has the right to insist on anything in your home with your kids and she is extremely rude to even think that her child is entitled to the same things as your son.

The TV thing is your decision for the most part. Our state licensing says we can't show anything above a G rating. After that...it's up to me.

MY HOUSE. MY RULES.

[Sugar Magnolia]

I have to agree, the parents are pushing you around. The poop grabber, I would term. That is beyond gross, it is unhealthy. If you keep him, tell the parents "no onsie on at drop off, no care." Girl w hair- "sorry I don't have time." Teeth brusher "sorry I don't have time.". And nobody would tell me what my son could and couldn't do if he is in a seperate room. That's overbearing and rude. "If you want your child to watch only certain things, then my daycare is not a good fit." YOU ARE THE BOSS! IMHO, pooper scooper and whacky parent who tells you what YOUR child can do-----bye bye. Are you prepared to have your furniture, carpet, wallpaper destroyed or need expensive cleaning? That's what's comimg with the poop flinger. FIRST time that happened here, would be the LAST time....you are definately being walked on. Get up, Stand up! Stand up for your rights!

[MyAngels]

I have a lot of teacher kiddo's, so most of them are just returning after having the summer off. I requested the DCB have a onsie on before he gets here to avoid the #2 spreading issue, and the family has complied 100%. Also, maybe something to add to the contract under behavior for next year, just in case! I love the backward pj idea as well & if it happens again, it's going on!

As for the brushing of teeth, I will do it after meals only. I will refuse to do it first thing in the morning. It's the parents responsibility, not mine. Same goes for the hair, it needs to be brushed at least. If the Dad has a hard time putting the pig tails in, I'll do it when I have time during the day.

My son was in another room (basement away from other children) and he was either playing Super Mario Bros. or Mario Karts. He's 6. I will no longer allow the DCP to dictate what I do with my children. He's done really well in school and deserves some time to himself doing the things he loves for doing great in school & completing his homework. It's difficult because she's not just a DCP, but also a neighbor & friend. We are both conflict avoiders and have a hard time communicating with each other. But, I will stand up for myself when it comes to the raising of my own children.

Thanks for the advice! I'm glad I found this site, it's really helpful!

You go girl! Glad to see it's working out for you .