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Most of my parents right now seem to think that the world revolves around THEIR child(ren). I live and breath to care for their kids. WHAT on EARTH do I do when their kids go home?!?! I actually had a parent ask me what I was going to do without their kids when we went on vacation. Oh gosh, I don't know! Your kids are far more important than my own kids!! UGH! Here are some of the situations I am dealing with:
My screamer (x colicky baby, now a VERY high needs toddler). He screams pretty much as long as he is awake. He is HARD. Parents have been pretty good with taking my advice on things. Not that I think I know it all, but just giving advice when asked. I had a ds who was also very colicky and very high needs, so have some BTDT experience to offer. That is one of the only reasons that he is still here. I remember thinking when my son was little how fortunate I was to not have to work because I feared as hard as he was that he would get mistreated. So I want to offer the best I can for him here. Yeah, I think I wear a super hero cape. Ugh. Anyway, today mom texts me and says that he will be late. Not how late, but is running late. I text back about 45 mins later and say, "He is missing him morning nap. Hope he is taking one at home." I say this because without his schedule, he is a NIGHTMARE. Well, he shows up here at about 9:15 (which is about the time I would have gotten him up from morning nap. He isn't napping well in the afternoon so we are attempting to shorten his morning nap, which is helping). So he shows up at 9:15 and hasn't had a nap, but woke up at 8. So now this child who is hard, has to wait until after lunch (done with lunch around 12:30) to go to bed. He is already screaming and being awful while we are trying to keep the babies asleep. He is impossible to keep quiet. I just don't know what to do with him. I dont' really want to term, I mean I do, but I don't. I fear for him.
Issue #2: My 3 month old. I think for one he is held all the time. He screams if not being held or talked to all the time. Also, I think he may have some health issues, but mom knows all even though I spend FAR more waking hours with him than she does. I was on vacation for 2 weeks and the FIRST thing I noticed when they came in the door is the growth of his head. It has gotten SOOOOOO much better. It's very veiny. It has grown so much in the back and forehead that it is kind of squishing his face. He looks SOOOOOO different. I was holding him when my dh got home and he wondered who he was. Didn't even recognize him. How do you say, "Your baby's head looks abnormally big" without offending the mom? I did tell her that he was having a hard time holding his head up, which he is, and she said that she did notice that he looked a little swollen. Ok, if MY kids head was swollen you bet your booty I would be knocking down the doors of the ER getting him in there! But she said he was just constipated and it was making his head swollen. OK then. If something happens to him on my watch, I am going to get inspected. Fantastic.
#3: My breastfeeding mom. She is weaning but still wants to come at lunch. I told her that if she is weaning that we needed to just start working on getting her on our schedule. She said that she will just continue to breastfeed at lunch then because she isn't ready to not see her until the end of the day. Ugh. We struggle because the dcbaby is on a different schedule than the other kids. I have been accomodating for 7 months, but it needs to either start working for the daycare schedule or it needs to stop. I just need to grow a big enough pair to say it to her.
#4: A sibling set that I have lost their dad last week and I am struggling with being sensitive to behaviors and not letting too much slide by. It has been rough. This set are kids that I have already had lots of behavioral issues with, and this is just making it worse, of course.
I can't believe it will be another year before I get another vacation!
My screamer (x colicky baby, now a VERY high needs toddler). He screams pretty much as long as he is awake. He is HARD. Parents have been pretty good with taking my advice on things. Not that I think I know it all, but just giving advice when asked. I had a ds who was also very colicky and very high needs, so have some BTDT experience to offer. That is one of the only reasons that he is still here. I remember thinking when my son was little how fortunate I was to not have to work because I feared as hard as he was that he would get mistreated. So I want to offer the best I can for him here. Yeah, I think I wear a super hero cape. Ugh. Anyway, today mom texts me and says that he will be late. Not how late, but is running late. I text back about 45 mins later and say, "He is missing him morning nap. Hope he is taking one at home." I say this because without his schedule, he is a NIGHTMARE. Well, he shows up here at about 9:15 (which is about the time I would have gotten him up from morning nap. He isn't napping well in the afternoon so we are attempting to shorten his morning nap, which is helping). So he shows up at 9:15 and hasn't had a nap, but woke up at 8. So now this child who is hard, has to wait until after lunch (done with lunch around 12:30) to go to bed. He is already screaming and being awful while we are trying to keep the babies asleep. He is impossible to keep quiet. I just don't know what to do with him. I dont' really want to term, I mean I do, but I don't. I fear for him.
Issue #2: My 3 month old. I think for one he is held all the time. He screams if not being held or talked to all the time. Also, I think he may have some health issues, but mom knows all even though I spend FAR more waking hours with him than she does. I was on vacation for 2 weeks and the FIRST thing I noticed when they came in the door is the growth of his head. It has gotten SOOOOOO much better. It's very veiny. It has grown so much in the back and forehead that it is kind of squishing his face. He looks SOOOOOO different. I was holding him when my dh got home and he wondered who he was. Didn't even recognize him. How do you say, "Your baby's head looks abnormally big" without offending the mom? I did tell her that he was having a hard time holding his head up, which he is, and she said that she did notice that he looked a little swollen. Ok, if MY kids head was swollen you bet your booty I would be knocking down the doors of the ER getting him in there! But she said he was just constipated and it was making his head swollen. OK then. If something happens to him on my watch, I am going to get inspected. Fantastic.
#3: My breastfeeding mom. She is weaning but still wants to come at lunch. I told her that if she is weaning that we needed to just start working on getting her on our schedule. She said that she will just continue to breastfeed at lunch then because she isn't ready to not see her until the end of the day. Ugh. We struggle because the dcbaby is on a different schedule than the other kids. I have been accomodating for 7 months, but it needs to either start working for the daycare schedule or it needs to stop. I just need to grow a big enough pair to say it to her.
#4: A sibling set that I have lost their dad last week and I am struggling with being sensitive to behaviors and not letting too much slide by. It has been rough. This set are kids that I have already had lots of behavioral issues with, and this is just making it worse, of course.
I can't believe it will be another year before I get another vacation!
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