A Spanking Spin Off Question...

[KEG123]

So the other thread about spanking got me to thinking....

I really try hard NOT to spank my child, ever. But sometimes redirection simply does not work with him and I have spanked him a few times during daycare hours, in front of other kids. Like I said, I really try and avoid this and it has only happened a few times (he is 3) but I always feel so guilty over it.

So my question is this,

Have you spanked your own child during daycare hours, in front of daycare children?

[JaydensMommy]

I rarely spank my child and its more like a swat on the butt only if I cannot get him to stop kicking and screaming which he will do at times. It's unacceptable behavior and I want him to know that. Other than that we do time out. But I would NEVER do it in front of the daycare kids. Then they would get the idea that it might happen to them if their bad. And little kids will go home and tell their parents and they might change the story....

[TBird]

I rarely spank my child and its more like a swat on the butt only if I cannot get him to stop kicking and screaming which he will do at times. It's unacceptable behavior and I want him to know that. Other than that we do time out. But I would NEVER do it in front of the daycare kids. Then they would get the idea that it might happen to them if their bad. And little kids will go home and tell their parents and they might change the story....

I agree....I spank my own kids but I don't want the DCK's thinking it applies to them in any way.

[PitterPatter]

So the other thread about spanking got me to thinking....

I really try hard NOT to spank my child, ever. But sometimes redirection simply does not work with him and I have spanked him a few times during daycare hours, in front of other kids. Like I said, I really try and avoid this and it has only happened a few times (he is 3) but I always feel so guilty over it.

So my question is this,

Have you spanked your own child during daycare hours, in front of daycare children?

I don't spank my own son. When he was 2 - 3 or so I would gently pop him on the butt when words didn't work and he started thinking it was ok to hit and hit other when he didn't get the toy etc. I figured out with him violence only taught violence and so I never popped his butt again. He stopped hitting soon after. Even if I was a spanking parent I would never spank infront of daycare children. 1 it may teach them they too will be spanked and make them afraid. 2 they could go home and say they saw me hitting kids and open a can of worms. Just not a good thing in anyway.

[KEG123]

Time outs do not work for my son, believe me I've tried. He just WILL.NOT.SIT. And it wasn't like a huge spankin, more like previous posters said, more of a swat on the butt. And he doesn't hit, he pushes and/or sits on other kids which leads to the pop on the butt. But yeah I understand what you all are saying. I am normally SO opposed to spanking, I never thought I'd do it to him. But I get frustrated when nothing else works with him.

[Cat Herder]

It is against rules and regs, here.

It would be viewed the same as if I had hit a DCK.

"Creating an atmosphere of fear or humiliation".

Another reason I never kept my kids with the DCK's.

I have no say in how they would be disciplined, in my own home, during daycare hours.

[Meeko]

I have spanked my own kids on the odd occasion over the years...but never in front of the day care kids.

When I was young, my mother was the only one who ever spanked my brother and I. My dad never laid a finger on me. I do not remember it, but my parents tell me that when I was about two years old, I had an ear infection and would not take my medicine. My dad was getting frustrated with me as I spat out mouthful after mouthful. The last straw was when I spat it all in his face. He didn't really spank me...he just patted the side of my leg and said said "NO!" very sternly. My mom said that if I had cried, it wouldn't have been so bad...but I didn't cry. I just sat there with my lip quivering and said
OH Daddy! You hit me and I'm just a little girl!"

My father said he died a little that day and from that day on he let my mother do all the disciplining!

(I can still wind him round my little finger!!!)

[laundrymom]

So the other thread about spanking got me to thinking....

I really try hard NOT to spank my child, ever. But sometimes redirection simply does not work with him and I have spanked him a few times during daycare hours, in front of other kids. Like I said, I really try and avoid this and it has only happened a few times (he is 3) but I always feel so guilty over it.

So my question is this,

Have you spanked your own child during daycare hours, in front of daycare children?

i did, 16 yrs ago,..... but havent since

[mac60]

My kids were older when I started my daycare business. But I never would of hesitated to spank them should they need it. I find it ironic that so many today are so against spanking yet the young children of today are so misbehaved it is unreal. I am sure there is a correlation there. Parents need to be the parent not the best buddy and friend. I can only imagine what this world will be like in 10 years. Scary.

[Sunshine44]

Yep. I do not have a problem with spanking when it is warranted. I've spanked in front of dck's when it had to be done. BUT usually they are in their room away from the dcks when it happens.

[Unregistered]

I have swatted my daughter on the bottom a couple times in front of the daycare children, and that was when she was in a very bad biting stage, and she was biting through skin, at first she was getting stern time-outs, then it moved to butt swats, and I always did it right away, because I wanted her to know exactly what it was for, and then I resorted to biting her back once, not hard, but enough to scare her, and after that theres been no bites, she was 2, my son whenever he has warranted a butt smack, I take him to his room, I've have rarely had to ever do this to him, but I wouldn't do it in front of other children except when I feel it necessary like when she was biting, but I dont want my 4yr old, to get embarrased or made fun of, or for the other children really to see, although I find this not a big deal, as I know all of my daycare kids get butt swats at their homes, I would never touch them, but none of them find it weird, every one of them find it normal, and the parents and I swap stories of when our kids have needed little swats, so they all know I am not against it, but it does have to really be earned. And It has never caused an environment of fear for any of my DC kids, but they have all been here long enough and have never been touched by me, they know And I have told them that only mommys and daddys can do that to their own children, and anyways it only happened when my daughter was biting horribly, and I wouldnt change that at all, she was leaving some serious wounds on one kid in particular, and I told them every day, that she got a swat for that, or the last time, "I bit her back this time" And they are super strict parents who would do the same thing.

[safechner]

My husband and I do spank our own but it is very rarely since they are very good kids. I would NEVER spank any daycare kids at all. All I can put them in time out that is all I can do for those daycare kids since they are not my kids.

I do believe in spanking because it works very well. One thing, I wouldn't spank very hard that looks like hit that I have seen people do that somewhere. My parents spanked me many times and I turned out fine.

Now this world, it is not so great because the law has changed about spanking. Many kids CAN control of those parents since they can't do anything and it is getting worst everyday. That is so sad! I wouldn't let anyone spanks my own but only me and my husband. One time, I got spanked with the ruler by a teacher in school ( I was in 3rd grades) and I remember I told her if you ever lay on me and I will hit you real hard to give you a black eye. She thought I wouldn't do that but she did. I hit her and I gave her black in both eyes. They didn't do anything to me and they called my parents about it. My parents didn't do anything to me because my dad said I have the rights to hit her and I am not her child.

[Sugar Magnolia]

Spanking="hitting is ok".

Like Cat said, against regs, just about everywhere I assume. No spanking anyone, ever, for any reason. I had my son in my center and never spanked him here or at my home. How can someone spank a child for hitting a classmate?!?!? Swat..."No hitting"....swat. See the contradiction here? No brainer: No spanking ever ever ever ever.

[Mom_of_two]

I too do not believe in spanking, and agree that it is confusing for a child to have a parent say 'don't hit' then to hit their child.

Spanking and letting a child run wild are not the two options for parenting. There is middle ground. I was not spanked and I always had love and respect for my parents and obeyed them because it was expected, and I did receive consequences. They just did not include physical ones. I think the idea of kids 'running wild' today because they are not physically touched by their parents is unbelievable!!! Would be curious to see an actual study based on parenting styles etc, and the later outcome. Authoratative parenting has proven to be the most effective from what I found while doing my Sr thesis. Not authoritarian. I know many who spank don't cross the line, but IMO it would NOT benefit society if more parents spanked. I believe it would have the opposite effect.

Regardless of my opinion, I wouldn't advise doing that in front of daycare kids. Or, you could have an honest convo with your daycare parents- some might be ok with it. I would not want my kids to see that, but if a family uses the same type of discipline they might not mind.

[spud912]

I have spanked my daughter in a separate room with the door closed during dc hours (usually for very bad behavior like biting or hitting). I know it sounds contradictory, but it works with her. Every child is different and discipline has to accommodate the child. I don't think anything is wrong with corporal punishment of your own child (although I would not do it in front of other dc kids). Both my husband and I were spanked as children and we turned out great (law abiding, polite, well mannered adults).

I've known of other families who disagree with corporal punishment and that is fine as long as their children are behaved and are met with consequences that they respond to when they do not behave. I guess what I'm trying to say is "to each his own." Do what works for you and your children.