Binky for 2.5 yr Old?

[MamaJ]

Ok, so would you allow a binky addicted 2.5 yr old girl have her binky just for nap time, or would you not?

she's very addicted...comes every day with it in her mouth, and gets it immediately when her mom or grandma comes to get her (sometimes she asks for it, sometimes they just dig in the bag and pop it in her mouth). she has terrible "binky' teeth also.

for a while I just took it away completely and she was doing well, but she's been part-time for the summer and nap time is pretty hard on her (I think b/c she's been part-time?).

should i just let her have it during nap time?

How do you explain to parents if they protests about not letting their child have their beloved binky during nap time? kids sleep separated (I only have 2 extra in addition to my own 2).

[Zoe]

Does she want it during nap time? If not, then don't give it to her.

If she does want it, does she make a fuss that disturbs the others? As long as she isn't keeping anyone else from sleeping, I personally wouldn't give it to her, but that's me. I think she's too old for it and it can affect her teeth (sounds like it already is) and her speech development.

I have a 3 1/2 yo dcg who is still on the bottle at home! She has never asked for it here. She uses an open cup with me and has never complained. But the second dcm shows up it's "where's my bottle?!?"

My suggestion is to try to wean her from it at your house because I doubt you'll get the parents to take it away until they're ready.

[MamaJ]

she does ask for it during nap time. for a long time she wouldn't fuss and just go to sleep...but this summer she's here just 1-2 days a week for naps and will scream and cry for her binky AND her mommy (since she knows mom gives her the binky) for a good 10 minutes. 10 mins isn't bad...so I tolerate it...just don't know what to say if she complains to mom and mom asks me about it? what's my excuse?

I don't want her to have it simply b/c I think she's too old for it, and I know can sleep fine w/o it...but can't really say that to mom.

maybe it'll get better when she starts full-time again in a couple weeks.

[laundrymom]

she does ask for it during nap time. for a long time she wouldn't fuss and just go to sleep...but this summer she's here just 1-2 days a week for naps and will scream and cry for her binky AND her mommy (since she knows mom gives her the binky) for a good 10 minutes. 10 mins isn't bad...so I tolerate it...just don't know what to say if she complains to mom and mom asks me about it? what's my excuse?

I don't want her to have it simply b/c I think she's too old for it, and I know can sleep fine w/o it...but can't really say that to mom.

maybe it'll get better when she starts full-time again in a couple weeks.

Why can't you tell mom? I am vey up front about things with the patents here. I would mention it.

I have one who has paci teeth, one day aunt picked up. Asked where Hr paci was. I said she doesn't use one here. I got an excuse from mom the next day saying Joan was confused, Ellie doesn't take a paci, our sisters girl Emmy does. I said, while smiling, well Emmy needs to wean off it because Ellies teeth are coming in crooked from it. ,.. Mom turned red, smiled, and said. I'm busted. I just put my hand on her shoulder and said, yeah but theres no paci police so your good. That was it. Next week girl comes in and says no more pacis for me!!!! I said ,... Great, now go potty and double tie your shoes we are heading outside.

[MamaJ]

well mom knows...she called me one time about 11am in a panic b/c she realized her 'binky' was in her car seat...I said "oh that's OK, she doesn't use it here anyway".

but now that DCG is having problems and crying without it...and really fighting about it I don't know what to say should mom suddenly have a problem with this no binky thing.

or, i COULD just let her have it. but frankly, binky's and kids over 2 (or 1 1/2 for that matter) just annoy me. totally not necessary.

[erinalexmom]

Ok now Im getting ready to sound like an old meanie here but my dck parents do this crap all the time, not a binky but blankies and things of that nature. I just wait till parents go on thier way and when they kid isnt looking I take it away and put it in my foyer out of site. I will give the blankies at naptime but then they get put right back up. Toys from outside of daycare also straight in the diaperbag until mom comes and its STILL in the diaper bag at pickup. I never make a comment to the parents because it in my contract about no outside toys and blankies only being used at nap. At this age they really dont usually have the verbal skills to explain it to mom anyway and I feel like "if you choose to ignore my contract I choose to ignore your poor parenting choices and instead make choices of my own! :: So in other words I would just tell the child "we dont have our binky's at Miss Heathers. Your such a big girl you dont need that sillly old binky. Now its night night time. Goodnight" I had 1 girl broke from naptime binky in 2 days. She really didnt need it, it was just encouraged by parents for thier convience.

[erinalexmom]

what i ment to say was "at this age the girl probably wont tell her mom on you because she probably lacks the verbal skills to put all that into words. So she wouldnt say "Miss so and so took my binky and wouldnt let me have it at naptime" That would be alot of words for a two year old! So when my dck are this little I just put it away kindly and they dont tell mom. Now when they get to the point of telling mom thats when I tell mom, read the contract ::

[harperluu]

Ok, so would you allow a binky addicted 2.5 yr old girl have her binky just for nap time, or would you not?

she's very addicted...comes every day with it in her mouth, and gets it immediately when her mom or grandma comes to get her (sometimes she asks for it, sometimes they just dig in the bag and pop it in her mouth). she has terrible "binky' teeth also.

for a while I just took it away completely and she was doing well, but she's been part-time for the summer and nap time is pretty hard on her (I think b/c she's been part-time?).

should i just let her have it during nap time?

How do you explain to parents if they protests about not letting their child have their beloved binky during nap time? kids sleep separated (I only have 2 extra in addition to my own 2).

My daughter is 2.5 and has a Nuk she uses at nap time and bed. It's a comfort item obviously and my dd needs a lot of comfort. We had plans to take it from her near her 2nd birthday, but she was going through some severe separation anxiety. So we started an ECFE class to help with separation.

I'm not necessarily proud of the fact that she still has it, but her separation anxiety has finally subsided. She knows she can't have it during the day and she's responsible for putting it in the drawer when she wakes up in the morning and after nap.

My problem is, that her big sis is going to college in a few weeks. My 2.5 year old is attached at the hip with her and I anticipate a transition period that may not be a big deal, but is still a transition. Plus she'll be moving rooms into a big girl bed once that happens.

The Nuk is not affecting her teeth at all. So my opinion is with your dcg, if she doesn't ask for it at nap then I wouldn't give it to her. And I wouldn't let her have it during wake time, but there may be life changes or transitions that might be affecting her having it still at 2.5 in the first place. None of my other kids had the Nuk after 2 and usually much earlier.

[Meyou]

I would give it to her at naptime for now but wean her from it once she's back fulltime. It won't be hard then.

[mismatchedsocks]

If she is just part time, and its just for nap, well I would just give it to her since mom seems to do it all the time anyway. Now if she were fulltime, there would be no binky at all, and I bet she would be fine with that, no complaints. She is used to it, with mom, and being part time with you, shes just not used to your rules again.

I have babies who come with pacis, and i get the call, i have the paci in the car. really, its ok. here they barely use it. I go in at nap time and pull out of my one babies mouth once he is asleep!

[DCMom]

I'm pretty upfront about blankets and pacifiers to parents. I don't care if they have them, but I want a set that is daycare-exclusive so we don't have that power struggle at the door. I ask parents to leave the travel set in the car Then they only have them at naptime.

Most of my dc kids start here as infants, so it's a non-issue because they are trained from about 9 mos that their blankets and pacifiers live in their portacribs. If they still have/use them when they graduate to mats at two or so, then they live in their cubby.

[MommyMuffin]

Ok, so would you allow a binky addicted 2.5 yr old girl have her binky just for nap time, or would you not?

she's very addicted...comes every day with it in her mouth, and gets it immediately when her mom or grandma comes to get her (sometimes she asks for it, sometimes they just dig in the bag and pop it in her mouth). she has terrible "binky' teeth also.

for a while I just took it away completely and she was doing well, but she's been part-time for the summer and nap time is pretty hard on her (I think b/c she's been part-time?).

should i just let her have it during nap time?

How do you explain to parents if they protests about not letting their child have their beloved binky during nap time? kids sleep separated (I only have 2 extra in addition to my own 2).

What does binky teeth look like? My DD will be 3 at the end of the month. She has her binky at nap time and when she goes down for the night. I have been trying for 6 months to get her off it. Well last week I just took it away. It has been really hard...she just cries and cries. It may seem mean but I just told her it is lost.

That is my own kid though. With Dc kids I wouldnt fight it, its not worth it. I just think, I am not their mom, I dont want to fight with the kid about nap time without binky. The parents can deal with that...because let me tell you...my little girl has shown me it is drama!!

[nannyde]

I don't use them here. Not a binky fan

[Meeko]

HATE 'EM. Nasty, ugly, baby plugs.

"If it makes a peep....plug it".

I used to allow them in day care many years ago. No more.

I have seen frantic parents turning over the cushions on my couch and racing through my house without an invitation looking for the all important, life stablilizing binkie. Life as we know it will be over without it. Baby MUST have the binkie!!!!! OMG!!!!!!! Parental meltdown!

Then they look at me as if I have misplaced their child's oxygen......

I have had parents want me to stay open late looking for the darn things and one couple even told me they would be back "in the morning" (SATURDAY!!!) to look for it.

Oh no you won't!!!!!!!

It's almost funny if it wasn't so pathetic.

In 25 years of day care I have never found a child who NEEDS a binkie. All I see are PARENTS who need the binkie. It's habit.

Put baby in bed. Plug.

Put baby in cat seat. Plug.

Grocery shopping. Plug

Baby hungry? Plug before food.

I 'd love to burn every single one of them.

[sassysue]

I let all my parents know I do not give pacifiers to children over a year(actually earlier,like really never) That being said I had a daycare boy,age 3 that came in everyday with one in his mouth.I wanted to scream,he had binky mouth big time.The parents were are disorganized so I just kept throwing them away,hoping they would think they misplaced them.
Then when they ran out I was like,there is no way they are going to actually go to the store,purchase a binky for a three year old.I mean that's ridiculous! Nope,they did.
I ended up throwing away over 25 binky's.They never asked and I never told
When he left here at almost 4 he still had it.
I cannot stand paci's for amyone besides an infant.