Is This Fair?

[familyschoolcare]

She told me today she is contracted untill 3:25 and after going round and round said, and I quote ' the nights I go to the gym'. This is not a Mom that has gone to the gym all summer....while normaly it is NOT not my business what my parents choose to do with their free time, now that I am not running at 100% I need you ( FOR THE SAFTY OF YOUR OWN CHILD) to come and pick them up as soon as work is over....heaven forbid you put you child before you for only 4 weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As for the 8 am drop off instead of 7:30...Dad does drop offs bc Mom is already at work and he works at a local place about 75% of my parent work. I also know (her words) that he has to be to work @8am. My home is 5 min TOPS ( there is NO traffic in my small town) Drop the kids off @ 7:50 (baby in a bouncy for 10min untill Mrs. X)

I am just beside myself.

I am glad you spoke with mom about her actual work hours. With all that mom said about her schedule and Dad's schedule I think your request for a 4:00 lick up is reasonable. If mom is using the extra time for personal stuff which is sounds like she would be than she does need to buckle down and be a parent or find different day care arrangement's. I wish you luck in implementing this temporary scheduled.

[MsMe]

I am glad you spoke with mom about her actual work hours. With all that mom said about her schedule and Dad's schedule I think your request for a 4:00 lick up is reasonable. If mom is using the extra time for personal stuff which is sounds like she would be than she does need to buckle down and be a parent or find different day care arrangement's. I wish you luck in implementing this temporary scheduled.

thank you. I just really hate when parents make me feel this way...like I am really putting them out ( when I am not)

I love taking care of the kids, but the parents really make it hard sometimes

[sharlan]

IMHO, it's your job to ASSIST the parents in caring for their child. It is not your responsibility to raise the children so Mommy and Daddy don't have to. They made the decision to have the children.

Right now, you aren't at 100%. Mom needs to realize that it's in her child's best interest to not over tax your ability. Should that happen, your 4 wks can easily turn into 8 or 10.

[bice99]

WOW!! that's just sad.. I understand that she may need to stay late some times, but I also know that she can go into her classroom at any time she wants. Why can't she go in 30 minutes early for the whole whopping 4weeks? Why can't she talk to her boss and let the boss know whats up? Why can't she bring her work home and do it after the kids go to bed? Why can't mom go to the gym after dad gets home????Geerr I hate it when peole act like there are no options.....

this is pretty sad that the mom puts the gym before the child.

Having taught for 11 years and being married to a teacher, they are required to work 8 hours ON SITE per day. Some schools allow you to flex, so that if she leaves 15 minutes after the kids leave (3:25), she needs to be there at 7:25. Depends on the contract and the union. Some schools won't let you flex no matter what, so you have to stay 7:30-3:30 or 8:20-4:20, whatever the district demands.

But, being a teacher, I always put my kids first. DH went in early, I dropped girls off at DC, he picked up by 3:45. And nothing bad can come from the teacher talking to the principal. I missed a large chunk of my required conference hours one year b/c our daughter was sick. I was part time so that helped. And I called all the parents and redid my schedule so I could head home. My principal let me make up the hours later. What else could he do? Say I couldn't go home to care for my child?

[bice99]

Oops - forgot to add that I now have contracted hours vs Open 7-5. Families have up to 9 hours at my rates. Extra money for that extra hour. And the extra hour is put into their contract so regardless of if they pick up early some days they still pay it. If they want extra randomly, it's big bucks.

[MsMe]

Having taught for 11 years and being married to a teacher, they are required to work 8 hours ON SITE per day. Some schools allow you to flex, so that if she leaves 15 minutes after the kids leave (3:25), she needs to be there at 7:25. Depends on the contract and the union. Some schools won't let you flex no matter what, so you have to stay 7:30-3:30 or 8:20-4:20, whatever the district demands.

But, being a teacher, I always put my kids first. DH went in early, I dropped girls off at DC, he picked up by 3:45. And nothing bad can come from the teacher talking to the principal. I missed a large chunk of my required conference hours one year b/c our daughter was sick. I was part time so that helped. And I called all the parents and redid my schedule so I could head home. My principal let me make up the hours later. What else could he do? Say I couldn't go home to care for my child?

My hours are 7:30 to 5:15. Mom has to be at work @7:20(off at 3:25) so Dad drps off. This family had the option to move with his company out of state. they love our town.daycare/home so the decided to stay knowing it would mean he had to travle one week a month. I love the family and was so happy they didn't move and I could still have their son as part of our daycare family that I agreed to come in early so Mom could still get to work on time while Dad is away.

I worked with their special situation (at no extra cost) and I am beyod hurt they can not work with mine. ( I am not asking either one to miss even a MINUTE of work hours!)

I am very hurt.