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I have a 4 yr old "princess" here who is not so much of a princess once her parents leave in the a.m. Yesterday, I caught her pinching 2 year old dcb shortly after drop-off and then after lunch she pulled his hair. Today during lunch she announces to everyone "my mom says Im nicer than (my 3 yr old dd)". I told her that it isnt nice to say things like that because it made my daughter feel bad. I have no doubt her mom said it, as the saying goes....from the mouths of babes. I want to say something to the mom but dont know if I should. My daughter and this dcg have conflicts on a daily basis.....they're preschoolers. One minute they are best friends, the next they are screaming at eachother. Im just baffled by the remark.
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You could but I doubt it would make a difference, since she is as you say a "princess" at home. I bet dcm wouldn't do anything about it or even believe you that her princess angel would EVER say or do anything mean EVER!
The only thing, IMHO, that you can do is separate the girls when they don't get along, and keep having a dialogue about hurting others' feelings. -
I would say something. If the mom did say that...then she deserves to be embarrassed. If she didn't say that...then she's just found out that the "princess" is not so nice herself. Either way...she'll learn something.Comment
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"my mom says Im nicer than (my 3 yr old dd)".
I wouldn't bring this up. I would never allow any level of competition or even discussion about my child and a day care parent.
NEVAH
To the child you say "oh she said that. She must really think you are nice cuz my DD (insert name) is such a nice little girl. I enjoy being around nice people especially nice little girls"
You have to use those moments as a way to show them what IS the right thing to say and the right way to put it.
Fogetabout the Mom in this.... so not worth it.
Deal with the behavior of the kid with the Mom. Any acts of violence would be a NO GO at my house and a high crime. We wouldn't have TIME to discuss who won Miss Congeniality at my house... I would be too busy discussing the fact that little Missy put her hands on one of my kids.
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Not worth it....the mom is so juvenile and we are supposed to be leading the juveniles.
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It honestly is probably a waste of time to mention it to the parent. The parent will always deny, deny, and oh yeah deny. I would correct the child, and go over how she is hurting another childs feelings. The mother will never admit if she said it. If it continues I would simply tell the parent that the child is saying very hurtful things to the other childern ( I wouldnt mention that it is your child!!). Hope everything works out!!Comment
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Sounds like a "Little Miss Priss" to me. Tell Little Miss that the next time she wants to say mean things or do mean things to other children (yours or not) tell her you'll be placing her little butt in time out quicker than she can cry "Mommy!"
Continue to enforce the rules and if she progressively gets worse, address her behavior/attitude to her parents. (I doubt you'll have to though. She'll call wolf to mommy.) If the parents continuously feel that she's so "perfect", tell them that "Little Miss Perfect" is just too perfect for your program.:
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BUH BYE!!!
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What she said."my mom says Im nicer than (my 3 yr old dd)".
I wouldn't bring this up. I would never allow any level of competition or even discussion about my child and a day care parent.
NEVAH
To the child you say "oh she said that. She must really think you are nice cuz my DD (insert name) is such a nice little girl. I enjoy being around nice people especially nice little girls"
You have to use those moments as a way to show them what IS the right thing to say and the right way to put it.
Fogetabout the Mom in this.... so not worth it.
Deal with the behavior of the kid with the Mom. Any acts of violence would be a NO GO at my house and a high crime. We wouldn't have TIME to discuss who won Miss Congeniality at my house... I would be too busy discussing the fact that little Missy put her hands on one of my kids. #1 one rule in Kindy - Keep your hands to yourself!
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Nannys right,.. ugh. although,.... part of me wants to say,.. Well Megans Mommy (my daughters name) says megan is prettier, funner, and less whiney than you are ,,.....
but then again I remember I am an adult, and have to teach the kids manners, acceptance and a care of others... Although part of me wants to go "momma bear" on the mom/.
"my mom says Im nicer than (my 3 yr old dd)".
I wouldn't bring this up. I would never allow any level of competition or even discussion about my child and a day care parent.
NEVAH
To the child you say "oh she said that. She must really think you are nice cuz my DD (insert name) is such a nice little girl. I enjoy being around nice people especially nice little girls"
You have to use those moments as a way to show them what IS the right thing to say and the right way to put it.
Fogetabout the Mom in this.... so not worth it.
Deal with the behavior of the kid with the Mom. Any acts of violence would be a NO GO at my house and a high crime. We wouldn't have TIME to discuss who won Miss Congeniality at my house... I would be too busy discussing the fact that little Missy put her hands on one of my kids.Comment
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My mommy said.....
One thing you have to keep in mind is that just because DCG said her mom said it does not make it so. I have heard kids say stuff about "My mom sayes such in such" and I really don't believe they did. I think that some kids have very vivid imagination. I like Nannies answer of well you much be very nice since daughter is such a great kid. We don't have to believe that dcg is actually nicer. :-)
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Thats why I love this forum. It helps to have others (who know where you are coming from) give their two cents. I did not say anything to mom, however today dcg says that she told her mom what she said and her mom told her "you dont say that". I had to laugh. I am 99% sure that it did happen as dcg said. Im sure the mom was pretty embarrassed at the thought that dcg shared her statement with us. She is an intelligent little girl and although she misbehaves at times, she really does not lie. I have been around little kids who fabricate all kinds of stories, almost 2nd nature to them, but she is not one of them. If I catch her doing something she tells it like it is......example "dcg, why did you pinch him" and dcg responds "because he was in my way". She's pretty honest. Im not going to worry about it. I did tell her that it isnt nice to say things about other people because it can make them feel bad and I asked her to please not do that here.Comment
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