DCK's That Are Starting To Lie

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

I am having a problem with one of my DCB. It"s always the same one that I have been having issues with since the day he started.

Anyway, I have been noticing that he is starting to tell lies to me and it seems like he is just trying to get my son into trouble.

The other day he said that my son punched him. All the other kids ( all of my dcb's are 5 and 4 btw and my dd is 9) told me that my son did not punch him.

So I asked him did my son really punch you? he said no.
Dealt with him lying and we move on.

Yesterday dcb tells me that my son pulled his brothers pants down.
Im in the same room with all of these kids and and all of the kids are like no he did not.

I asked dcb if he is lying again and he said yes. deal with the lying and move on.

Told DCM what was going on last night, she said we will talk to him.

This morning DCM comes in and said that my son pulled her son's pants down, blah blah blah and I said no he did not.

She said that hubby is floored that his son could lie. He never does this.

It's getting to the point that this little boy and his brother are running the show and my house, family and my sanity and the other dck's sanity is getting crushed.

WWYD?

[sharlan]

I would term ASAP.

I dealt with a liar a few years ago. Mom and I discussed it many times, over and over. One day he told Dad a whopper, Mom knew it was a lie, but Dad, in his ignorance, believed it. Had this lie been repeated elsewhere, it could have brought CPS and everyone else down on my head.

I will never, ever keep a liar again.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Im just having a hard time in general with this family.

My other beef is that she wants other parents to wait to pick their kids so that I can transport this child back and forth to school.

My hubby said do you want to wait in your car in -30 weather to pick up your kid while the provider is out?

He said just keep on letting her know what her kid is doing and stick to your guns about the school thing and she will figure it out on her own that this is not working and find someone else.

I have a hardtime telling people that this isnt working out. Insert backbone here!!!

This child is mean, arguementitive, whiny, manipulative, encourages bad behavior from his brother, throws toys, wont clean up his messes, refuses to eat food, and now lies.

I am starting to dread the days that they come here and so are my kids.

I hate confrontation, but the other kids that come here are starting to hate coming here when these 2 are here and I dont want to lose the rest of my dck"s kids.

[Childminder]

It is so easy to tell others to term but if you are like me and suffering because of the economy that isn't an easy option. I'll tell you a little trick that I have used here that really works. To find out if someone is lying make all of the children stick out their tongue. Tell them that if they are lying they will have spots on their tongue and will you know for sure who is lying and who will be punished. The liar will not stick out their tongue and you will know for sure who the culprit is and act accordingly. Do this trick in front of Dcps and they will see what their little angels are capable of.

[Crystal]

hahaha Childminder. That IS funny, But, it could backfire and then YOU are the one caught lying. Then the kids will think it's okay to lie.

[sharlan]

I understand the economy, but the risks associated with a liar aren't worth it.

[Blackcat31]

If you can't term for financial reasons, can you make the child shadow you so that you can hear everything he says and does? He must be playing somewhere that he feels he can say whatever lie he wants and you didn't see or hear it so you have no proof.....kwim? I would tell him since he is untrustworthy (because he lies) that he has to be with you every second of every day he is in attendance.

I have a 4.5 yr old dcg who is currentlymy shadow and has been for 3 days now for this same reason. Her mom says "She would never lie. She knows better." But the child does lie. She told me Child A hit her the other day. Child A was not in attendance for the last 3 weeks so it was impossible. This of course is just one small example of what kind of lies she has been telling. I am now having her shadow me so she does not have the opportunity to lie about anyone.

I would be livid if she started making up lies about pulling pants down and those sort of situations.

[Childminder]

hahaha Childminder. That IS funny, But, it could backfire and then YOU are the one caught lying. Then the kids will think it's okay to lie.

Been over 20 years doin it and have never been "caught".