VENT: Why Is It So Hard To Follow Policies?!

[Live and Learn]

This is exactly what I would do. There is NO WAY I would waste time writing emails and putting up signs... tell the parent directly to their face and hand it right back. Simple.

Yup. Simple straight forward and to their face... No signs, no newsletters, or emails.

[Meyou]

The few times I've had a parent try and get food by me for their child that they haven't fed I just tell the child to give the cup etc back to mom or dad so we can go play. Then I mention to mom or dad that they can take the cup/snack with them since we don't allow outside food or drink.

I do give the parents the option to bring a snack for EVERYONE to be given out at my discretion. It's in my parent's handbook that it can be given to me at the start of the day and I will pass it out when I deem it's an appropriate time. It happens rarely but since I've put this rule in my PH not one family has tried to come in with just something for their child.

[CheekyChick]

That kid had so many issues that he actually had subscriptions. Grandmother wanted him kept a baby. She would put him in diapers, give him bottles and pacifiers at 3 1/2.

LOL!!! It sounds like Grandma has issues. Poor kid...

[momma2girls]

I actually had to place this large in the monthly newsletter!! Please do not bring in any food into my daycare!!

[wdmmom]

SHOCKINGLY ENOUGH! I told DCM at pickup and low and behold, DCD brought DCB in with nothing but his shoes and blanket for nap.

Maybe they can read and will follow the rules from now on!

It's either that or they didn't have any more donuts! ::::

[littlemommy]

Does anybody allow outside food/drink for families that have to commute to get to daycare? DCG comes at 7:30 and they have a 15 minute drive into town. She comes with dry cereal and a cup of milk every day. She never eats/drinks it once she gets here, she usually wants what I serve. Her parents know that I serve breakfast every morning.

A DCB comes at 10-10:30 (a parents who doesn't follow time or give me notice!) and always has a cup of "juice." It's more like fruit punch..pure sugar. They have about a 25 minute drive into town, so they bring that cup for the drive here/home.

Just curious if anyone allows outside food for commuters. I want to tell them no more outside food/drink but also understand they have that drive.

[wdmmom]

When I interview families, I find out how far they live from me, where they work, hours needed and take into account travel time. All of my families work or live within 10 minutes of me. I would consider for working for someone that lived or worked farther away but then I look to providing care for 10+ hours a day for the child so I try to shy away from it.

If I did take on a family that had a extended drive I still wouldn't do it. I don't allow food or drink in my car and my parents live 3 hours away. My youngest is 6 and she can do it.

If these kids are coming in early enough, they shouldn't need anything before you serve breakfast. If they are leaving later in the day, they had a snack. They should be just fine until dinner.

[daycare]

Does anybody allow outside food/drink for families that have to commute to get to daycare? DCG comes at 7:30 and they have a 15 minute drive into town. She comes with dry cereal and a cup of milk every day. She never eats/drinks it once she gets here, she usually wants what I serve. Her parents know that I serve breakfast every morning.

A DCB comes at 10-10:30 (a parents who doesn't follow time or give me notice!) and always has a cup of "juice." It's more like fruit punch..pure sugar. They have about a 25 minute drive into town, so they bring that cup for the drive here/home.

Just curious if anyone allows outside food for commuters. I want to tell them no more outside food/drink but also understand they have that drive.

I don't allow any food/drink of any kind from outside. Unless there is a medical reason. EX: I had a little guy a few years ago have his tonisils taken out and he had to eat mild soft foods.

I also would never prep food to go. One I am not a drive through and two it's very dangerous for kids to eat while in the car. What is the parent going to do if little johnny is choking on the bag of crackers you gave him while strapped in his car seat........ NOTHING, but maybe come back and hold you responsible for giving him the food.

Nothing but the kids come in my house and nothing but the kid leaves my house....Well except necessary supplies and projects....

[littlemommy]

I don't allow any food/drink of any kind from outside. Unless there is a medical reason. EX: I had a little guy a few years ago have his tonisils taken out and he had to eat mild soft foods.

I also would never prep food to go. One I am not a drive through and two it's very dangerous for kids to eat while in the car. What is the parent going to do if little johnny is choking on the bag of crackers you gave him while strapped in his car seat........ NOTHING, but maybe come back and hold you responsible for giving him the food.

Nothing but the kids come in my house and nothing but the kid leaves my house....Well except necessary supplies and projects....

I never give them food before they go, but their cups are in the fridge from when they came. When they are here they all drink milk or water from a cup I provide. At pick-up it is just kind of annoying to walk across my house to get their cup to go home with them.

The boy that comes with juice every day goes home with a cup of water. He is 2 years old, and the only thing I've EVER seen him eat is sugary things. He has walked in with ****ers before, and mom always says that they just got out of burger king from eating french toast sticks. He's never eaten a bite of food here, but will nicely sit down if the other kids are having a special treat for snack.

[daycare]

I never give them food before they go, but their cups are in the fridge from when they came. When they are here they all drink milk or water from a cup I provide. At pick-up it is just kind of annoying to walk across my house to get their cup to go home with them.

The boy that comes with juice every day goes home with a cup of water. He is 2 years old, and the only thing I've EVER seen him eat is sugary things. He has walked in with ****ers before, and mom always says that they just got out of burger king from eating french toast sticks. He's never eaten a bite of food here, but will nicely sit down if the other kids are having a special treat for snack.

I also have a family that gives their children dum dums at 7am...CRAZY and their youngest is not even 1yr old yet...I wonder what parents are thinking when they give their children sugar at that time of day or even give a 10 month old a li in the first place....... Hope that they have a good dentist..


So you are saying that they come in with cups that they will take back home at the end of the day??

[littlemommy]

I also have a family that gives their children dum dums at 7am...CRAZY and their youngest is not even 1yr old yet...I wonder what parents are thinking when they give their children sugar at that time of day or even give a 10 month old a li in the first place....... Hope that they have a good dentist..


So you are saying that they come in with cups that they will take back home at the end of the day??

Yes. The boy comes in with juice and the girl brings milk. I've tried sneaking their cups into the room or into their bags so I don't have to walk across the house when their parents get here, but it doesn't work. They always see them and start begging. I don't allow drinks of any kind in the living room.

[nannyde]

I also have a family that gives their children dum dums at 7am...CRAZY and their youngest is not even 1yr old yet...I wonder what parents are thinking when they give their children sugar at that time of day or even give a 10 month old a li in the first place.

To make sure the child doesn't cry.

Simple as that.

Candy in the morning is ALWAYS about not crying.

[Blackcat31]

It would be very simple for me. I would take the food and drink from the child as they walked in the door, state directly to the parent that, as they know, we do not allow food to brought, hand it to the parent and tell them do not let it happen again.

I have had to do it, and it NEVER happened again.

Ditto to this ^^ Things are a problem when you allow them to be. I have told parents to turn right around and go back to the car and finish their food and I have taken food from a child and given it right back to the parent and stated in no uncertain terms that no food and/or drink is allowed.

I have taken the nice route in the past and told dcp's not to bring anything unless they bring enough to share...and I end up with a 3 year old and a bag of bite size Snicker bars that he is dying to hand out to everyone for breakfast.

I have asked them to please observe the rules and policies in my handbook only to hear that they didn't see that part of the rules. :confused:

I have used the food program as an excuse and have been told that they would like a special diet statement to have their pediatrician fill out...

I have also heard "Oh, it is just this once. We are running late today" on the 4th day of doing this in one month...

So now, I simply say "NO!" Works well with adults and child.

[cheerfuldom]

I have a small group here so its easier for me to just put the item in the bag (or trash) and let the kid cry for it and then move on. 90% of the time, they don't even cry because they know its just a waste of time with me. I have to say though that the donuts and candy has not been an huge issue here. They do bring their own lunches and some of that is appalling but i don't provide lunch for now.