having to lay down inorder for a child to fall asleep. I understand when they are infants and what not, but a child who is over a year and a half. So it took 48 minutes of him screaming and throwing his bottle to fall asleep. I did go in a intervals and layed him down never talking to him, but seriously.
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Here he would be on a cot and no bottles here for that age. No food or drink unless sitting in high chair or at table. Ever.- Flag
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yup, no bottles at nappy time for a kid this old. Is he new? This is a very hard habit to break especially if they are co-sleeping for nights and weekend naps at home. I personally have never gotten a kid to get over this and I have had a few co-sleepers here. The only one that actually broke the habit was when the parents broke it at home the same time as I did here.- Flag
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OMG I have one too!
He is 2 yrs old and he refuses to go to sleep. He will scream until the neighbours come over to see what the heck is going on.
His mom says just get his brother to lay down with him.
How about NO!!
How about you take your sleepless child home and get a life.- Flag
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having to lay down inorder for a child to fall asleep. I understand when they are infants and what not, but a child who is over a year and a half. So it took 48 minutes of him screaming and throwing his bottle to fall asleep. I did go in a intervals and layed him down never talking to him, but seriously.
Any advice? It's too late for CIO with him; and he climbs out of anything he's trapped in. Anything. He's got a toddler bed in my room, and there's a futon that's really close to the floor in the nursery. I've also got some nice, thick playmats that could double as nap mats, I suppose.
Seriously, any advice will be used immediately!!!!!!- Flag
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Ok, so I am guilty of this. I just nursed my son down for a nap and was thinking about how I could break the habit. I actually feel bad that at 16 months old, he's not able to put himself to sleep, and it's not his fault, it's mine.
Any advice? It's too late for CIO with him; and he climbs out of anything he's trapped in. Anything. He's got a toddler bed in my room, and there's a futon that's really close to the floor in the nursery. I've also got some nice, thick playmats that could double as nap mats, I suppose.
Seriously, any advice will be used immediately!!!!!!
My DD is now 29 y/o. I nursed her, with no input back then from the hospital. I was bottle fed, so no help there. I was one of the first in my circle of friends to have a baby, so no friend input.
I nursed her every 2 hours (I was the passy), b/c I didn't know better. So she feel asleep "on" me. Plus she held my thumb when nursing. You can lose a toy, a blanket or such, but not Mom's thumb. Moving to a big girl bed was HARD! The only way she would go to sleep was with me beside her, while holding my thumb.
I was a SAHM. I started with nap time. I let her nap on the couch, but NO holding my thumb. I sat there in the beginning, reading, cutting coupons etc. Anything, so my hands were too busy for her to hold. Then I started getting up and doing things. She slowly broke from the thumb.
Then we started, going to bed in her own bed. I sat beside her in a chair, again with busy hands. Then I slowly moved the chair to outside the room. Then we no longer needed it.
At bed time, she started out in her own bed, but would always come to ours. I put a sleeping bag beside the bed. She could get in it, but not my bed. I slowly moved the sleeping bag down the hallway, until it was at her doorway.
Mind you, this took WEEKS, but it did work. Best of luck to you!!!
Needless to say, I was NOT the passy to my 2nd child ::
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My DD is now 29 y/o. I nursed her, with no input back then from the hospital. I was bottle fed, so no help there. I was one of the first in my circle of friends to have a baby, so no friend input.
I nursed her every 2 hours (I was the passy), b/c I didn't know better. So she feel asleep "on" me. Plus she held my thumb when nursing. You can lose a toy, a blanket or such, but not Mom's thumb. Moving to a big girl bed was HARD! The only way she would go to sleep was with me beside her, while holding my thumb.
I was a SAHM. I started with nap time. I let her nap on the couch, but NO holding my thumb. I sat there in the beginning, reading, cutting coupons etc. Anything, so my hands were too busy for her to hold. Then I started getting up and doing things. She slowly broke from the thumb.
Then we started, going to bed in her own bed. I sat beside her in a chair, again with busy hands. Then I slowly moved the chair to outside the room. Then we no longer needed it.
At bed time, she started out in her own bed, but would always come to ours. I put a sleeping bag beside the bed. She could get in it, but not my bed. I slowly moved the sleeping bag down the hallway, until it was at her doorway.
Mind you, this took WEEKS, but it did work. Best of luck to you!!!
Needless to say, I was NOT the passy to my 2nd child ::
I'll try the sofa thing, that might work. And I'm going to try to get him to sleep in his own bed tonight.- Flag
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I am dealing with something similar as all my little guys have started with me when they where a few months old so trans. over to nap time routine has been a piece of cake but I have one parent who does the same thing and allows her son to get up out of his toddler bed and climb into bed with her or it is just a battle for her when its nap time bc he will cry non stop for her when she lays him down. The thing is...the child will fight it out as long as they know that mom will give in. It take just as long if not longer to break a habit. The first time we tried napping here it didn't happen bc he kept climbing out of his pnp and cry so I called mom already explaining to her if he can not nap he can't be here. She would prefer that he stay up but I don't take non nappers. So with her understanding this she would have to come and pick him up if he couldn't nap after an hr of trying to get him to nap. The 2nd time was ashually a few months later where I switched him up stairs to be close to me with his pnp and the door propped open with a stuff animal. I play Christian music that helps relax and cut out any outside/inside noise which helps a lot.He cry's for a couple min and is always out. Today though he tried fighting me on nap and even got up to go potty 2 which the 2nd me saying no no you just went and guess what..he peed?
I couldn't understand how a child couldn't have that much pee in him...
!! So I changed him and his bed and laid him back down. He cried again for a couple min. and then he was out like a light. I believe it is consistency and not giving in. I think we can tell what type of cry a child has so be on the look out for the diff. types of crys and just stand out side the door or check on them if they are asking for something. You can make the decision as to if it is urgent to get them out of bed. This little guy has learned now that having to go pee gets him out of bed...smart cookie....hahah!!
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Ok, so I am guilty of this. I just nursed my son down for a nap and was thinking about how I could break the habit. I actually feel bad that at 16 months old, he's not able to put himself to sleep, and it's not his fault, it's mine.
Any advice? It's too late for CIO with him; and he climbs out of anything he's trapped in. Anything. He's got a toddler bed in my room, and there's a futon that's really close to the floor in the nursery. I've also got some nice, thick playmats that could double as nap mats, I suppose.
Seriously, any advice will be used immediately!!!!!!
its different if you are going to stay home and raise your kid (my ydd was nursed till she was 3yrs old) so I totally get it, but i knew that I wasn't sending my kids to daycare I was doing it instead, but if I was sending them to daycare then it would be a different story. Not to alarm you or anything, but my dd is now almost 7 and she still crawls into bed with us, only one who does it (sometimes ds) dh blames it on nursing, but she's a healthy girl.- Flag
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its different if you are going to stay home and raise your kid (my ydd was nursed till she was 3yrs old) so I totally get it, but i knew that I wasn't sending my kids to daycare I was doing it instead, but if I was sending them to daycare then it would be a different story. Not to alarm you or anything, but my dd is now almost 7 and she still crawls into bed with us, only one who does it (sometimes ds) dh blames it on nursing, but she's a healthy girl.
I've been looking for a date night sitter, and I don't want them to have to "put" him to sleep. I've been sounding like a nightmare parent in my interviews, ranting on about how he's a good kid, really, but needs to be put to sleep before he gets too spazzy...meanwhile, I have him strapped into the ergo trying to kick his way out and bolt around, because running is fun! it's no wonder I haven't been able to find anyone good!
I'd like my next child to be able to go to sleep on their own, and I think the younger they learn how to do that, the better. Once they hit 8 or 9 months, it's too hard, IMO. And I don't like to feel cut off from my other daycare kids. I don't usually let him nap until they are sound asleep and I can nurse him down in quiet, but I'd prefer he be able to do it on his own at this point, and not have to wait for another kid to fall asleep before he gets his own nap.- Flag
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I still have to lay down with my 3.5 year old to get her to sleep, but hey at least she is in her own bed now, most nights anyway! (Another of the many reasons why I stay home with my kids)
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My son is 4 years old and he still sleeps with us...I guess since he will be starting school this year I should start putting him in his bed.. But it is hard. But honestly I wouldn't have done it differently, I have always been home with him and I have so enjoyed the bonding. It made it much easier when I was nursing him to have him in our bed. Now I just have to figure out how to get him out.. although I really don't want to...
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nap/quiet time at daycare is totally different from the family bed
And no child who is not sleeping should be kept on a mat/cot/bed for longer than half an hour or so.
Yes, they may need a nap. But make it a battle and it will never happen. Nothing keeps you awake better than being mad.
Work on self quieting - breath, relaxing, stretches....
A child this age can do a slow down yoga routine. If the child can't sleep he/she can still have time to relax their body and mind if they are taught how to do it.
There is no point trying to simulate the home sleep environment or making home conform to daycare models. The two things are totally different.- Flag
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And no child who is not sleeping should be kept on a mat/cot/bed for longer than half an hour or so.
Yes, they may need a nap. But make it a battle and it will never happen. Nothing keeps you awake better than being mad.
Work on self quieting - breath, relaxing, stretches....
A child this age can do a slow down yoga routine. If the child can't sleep he/she can still have time to relax their body and mind if they are taught how to do it.
There is no point trying to simulate the home sleep environment or making home conform to daycare models. The two things are totally different.
Yoga isn't really practical to help get infants to sleep in a group setting. Maybe at home or in a preschool setting as a group class.- Flag
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OT but wanted to share.......My 14 year old daughter still likes to have "mom time". If her dad and siblings are staying up late on the weekends, she'll crawl into bed with me and snuggle up and say "Let's talk, Mom" I think she really feels she can open up and tell me anything during these times. I will be so sad when she doesn't do it any more. My other kids are very independent, but she is the youngest and very shy outside the house. I love listening to her pour out her heart in the dark.- Flag
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