Pissed Off Parent

[DCP&Momof3]

To the OP, where are you located? I believe I may know the facility which you are referring to.
In our state I believe that the daycare facilities need to document and notify parents of injuries that happen during childcare. As for calling the parent, I'm not sure if they are required to unless it's something you have previously asked them to do or unless it's a serious injury that requires medical assistance. In most cases with a child who is 9yrs old, it becomes a judgement call as to whether the injury is serious or just a minor fall, scrape or bruise that happens in everyday play. The teacher's reaction was probably based on assessing your daughter's response to the accident & pain level at the time. A crying child, blood, a fall from high, inability to move the affected area and other symptoms are a sign that the child may be seriously hurt. However if the child told the teacher she fell from the bottom of the slide & wasn't crying & didn't seem to be in much pain the teacher may assess that the child is ok after looking her over. I'm not saying your child is one of them, but there are children who complain for every little bump & bruise. Guidelines are put in place not to be reporting every little bump & bruise but to make sure to document those injuries that truly injure the child or could be serious. If we told the parent everytime the child bumped & bruised themselves we wouldn't get much else done. Children WILL fall, they WILL get hurt, bruised, and at times even break a bone or something else serious. That's all a part of a normal childhood. Most teachers & providers do their best to prevent a child from being hurt. It's our job as providers to assess the situation & report back to parents the information they need to know.
I completely understand your concern for your daughter but as we all know sometimes injuries are not always apparent right after they happen, especially when it's an injury to the soft tissue.
Definitely find out why you were not "notified", take your child to the doctor if the pain persists but cut the teacher some slack unless this is a recurring theme. There are some teachers who do not pay attention as they should, just like there are many who do. If your daughter is persistently injured at daycare and you have addressed each situation with the director, then asking for her to be "fired" becomes a much more reasonable request. As it stands now, that probably will not happen based on the information you provided.
Good luck & I hope your child is not seriously hurt.

[Preschool/daycare teacher]

I understand you're upset your daughter got hurt at daycare. I'm too quick to react when I think someone has hurt someone close to me, but from a Preschool teacher's view point, I HIGHLY encourage parents to talk to the teacher or caregiver before going to the director just so they have both sides of the story. One time a mom who's daughter was in my care at a daycare I used to work at told the director that her 2 yr olds diaper was dirty when she picked her up and I hadn't changed it. So the director comes to discuss it with me, just taking the mom's word for it. What had actually happened was that the 2 yr old had pooped just a second before the mom walked in to pick her up. I told the mom that I was just about to change her because she'd gone right before she walked in, but she told me she would change her. I guess the mom thought I left her in a dirty diaper and didn't want to mess with it so waited til time for her to pick her up (which I would NEVER do)??? I don't know, but she could have gotten me in a lot of trouble that I shouldn't have been in. In your case, it sounds like the teacher was at least present and looked at her back. Most likely the spot didn't look too bad at the time it first happened, so she thought it was okay and probably didn't even think to call you about it. Please talk to the teacher/caregiver and find out her side, too. If she knew your daughter was in pain now, she would most likely apologize and feel really bad that she got hurt while she was in charge. I always hate it when a child gets hurt under my care. There may have not been anything I could have done, but I still feel bad when it happens.

[sharlan]

I understand where you are coming from. And the thinking about the cycle of the forum makes me giggle... It is true though.

On a side note, has anyone looked closely at the user name? It reminds me VERY much of the word erotic. I'm suspecting a registered troll, but I could be wrong, and IF I am, I apologize and do hope that the girl isn't injured too seriously.

First thing that came to my mind when I read this post was Laurasophia.

I had a 7 yo fall one day, tripped over his own 2 feet. He yelled, "I broke my arm." I said, "No you didn't, come here." As he sat up, his face turned white and his arm was dangling. Yup, broke both bones from a small trip. He never once shed a tear, from the time he fell, while they set both bones and put a cast on it. Never once cried. Had his arm not been dangling, I wouldn't have thought he broke it. His arm didn't show any signs of swelling or bruising before his parents got there 20 mins later.

[Unregistered]

I am wondering which slide....

http://maps.google.com/maps?q=kidzco+tucson&hl=en&ll=32.192638,-110.825372&spn=0.000363,0.000416&client=firefox-a&fb=1&gl=us&cid=0,0,18078302892186715595&t=h&deg=270&z=21

and that's a soft play surface, right?

[Michael]

ok, i'm not pointing fingers here...

it's that time for the forum cycle reminder. but i'm too lazy to post the link.


I think some of the posters on here are being a little bit harsh.

The op was a little extreme but given the fact that there is an injured child, I can understand. but some of the responses the op has received are a little over the top. I of course am giggling to some of them but I think they are a little uncalled for.

Agree with you Canada girl. There is a section on the forum for Parents but she posted in the Provider section. I still think it is important to let parents also post their concerns. Parents are providers and providers are parents. I don't see them being so alien. We need to take down the "Get out of Town" sign. Some parents can be very overprotective. I was.

Here is that thread you mentioned: https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=28305

[dEHmom]

Agree with you Canada girl. There is a section on the forum for Parents but she posted in the Provider section. I still think it is important to let parents also post their concerns. Parents are providers and providers are parents. I don't see them being so alien. We need to take down the "Get out of Town" sign. Some parents can be very overprotective. I was.

Here is that thread you mentioned: https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=28305

Thanks Michael

[cillybean83]

your kid got bruised...relax. did she tell you that someone beat her? no. she fell. kids tend to do that. my 8 year old and 1 year old always have bruises because they PLAY...my rule (with my kids) is that if it isn't broken or bleeding...move on.

[momma4many]

To expect a provider to "report" each and every little thing that happens on the playground with a group of children is rediculous. You are a providers worst nightmare. Maybe you need to consider being a stay at home mommy so you can sit by her side 24/7.

Exactly my thoughts ::::::::

[Auntie]

I get that your upset that your child got hurt. As a parent we automatically go into protective mode. The only thing this provider/teacher did wrong was to FORGET to tell you about the incident. For all you know your child could have fallen and NOT told the teacher, not cried at the time either. At that age some children try to hide the fact that they got hurt because they don't want to be seen crying infront of their peers.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

A 9 year old got a bruise while participating in a fun activity on a piece of playground equipment? The INHUMANITY!!!!

I hope they boil that provider in oil. Or at least tar and feather her. She should be clapped in irons and put in a stockade out in front of the center so the other children can spit on her as they pass.

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LMFAO.

Thanks for making my morning!

[Hunni Bee]

I understand where you are coming from. And the thinking about the cycle of the forum makes me giggle... It is true though.

On a side note, has anyone looked closely at the user name? It reminds me VERY much of the word erotic. I'm suspecting a registered troll, but I could be wrong, and IF I am, I apologize and do hope that the girl isn't injured too seriously.

Yes, that and the fact of who posts such an emotionally charged and outrageous claim, and then never comes back? It was bait.

[Crystal]

http://maps.google.com/maps?q=kidzco...h&deg=270&z=21

and that's a soft play surface, right?

....I love this....I see no slide at all in that pic.

[SandeeAR]

To those Parents that won't/don't trust Daycare providers to transport their children.......

What are you going to do when your child starts school????

Will you drive them to and from school each day?

What about school field trips? Do you realize how left out your child will feel when they can't go and must stay home? Oh and this will count against their days missed at school. Unless you are a SAHM, who will take off work to stay with them for the field trip?

What about when they get older and get into school sports, Band or FHA? Are you going to drive them to and from each event/game? Have you thought about how humiliating that will be to a Middle school, jr high or sr high kid?

Oh, but they are older by then right???? But are the Less precious as they get older??


Just food for your thinking process.

[mac60]

I never have, or ever will transport a daycare child. I do not ever want that responsibility. I have 3 current families that asked me at interview if I took them in the car....Never. Around here, parents don't want their child running around town in a vehicle. And when my own kids were in daycare, I didn't want my kids being transported all over town either. It is a personal choice, I understand that.