Things Just Got Way To Personal For Me!

[Zoe]

Yep to the yuck factor!

Hopefully you can fill your thoughts with rainbows and unicorns and candy canes instead of.......

Haha! Yes this! I'd be upset and grossed out too if that happened to me. You're doing the right thing by trying to ignore it but staying on your toes in case it escalates.

[MarinaVanessa]

I'm sorry but I guess I'm the odd one out here because I think that it is your business ... as in, it's your DC and this mom already gives you grief and now you have to deal with the fact that your little bro and her knocked boots .... eww by the way. You already don't like her and I'm sure that things get wierd and uncomfortable already because of her DC antics, now on top of the daycare drama you have to deal with now you have to live life knowing that your little bro boinked her ... just sayin ... and that would drive me BANANAS!!

Unfortunately when you do DC, as much as you want to keep it all business, we do have personal emotions ... these are our homes and our families afterall. I guess I'm just saying that if you should decide to let the family go I'm with you all the way. This is your daycare business and you should feel comfortable in your own home, things shouldn't feel akward, that's too stressfull and you'll hate anticipating seeing her everyday. I mean, people have terminated clients for much less (i.e. being late) ... why not because she screwed your brother... just sayin. If you don't want to term them and just raise their rates then go for it. I still support you. And I'm am proud of you because I don't know if I could have avoided confronting her and going totally ballistic, so kudos to you.

[PeanutsGalore]

Sooo my one and only DCM that ever causes me problems helped to cause things to get real awkward around here. She is 34 and works with my 21 year old brother. So my youngest brother was cruising around town last Friday night at 1:30am he comes across the older brother's truck at my DCM's house and calls me the next morning to tell me this. So when I confront him about it...he says he had been drinking with a few buddies when she invited him over so he went and things went to far because obviously he wasn't sober and that will NOT be happening again. Now let me just add that this is not a habit of my brothers BUT DCM's last boyfriend was also 21 years old.

Now I'm pretty sure she doesn't know I know and had we not caught my brother I probably wouldn't have found out but she did act super weird Monday morning and I was mad enough I could of smacked her in the face but I of course refrained myself. I realize her personal life is none of my business but they kind of made it real hard for me to stay out of it...ugh! and the gross factor on top of it just makes it even worse. I figure I can't really do much about it except for maybe find some reason to terminate. I plan to raise my rates in January and was feeling kind of guilty about it because she's a single mom and all that...but now I'm feeling a little less guilty and really hoping she just decides to take her kids elsewhere.

IDK...how would you handle things?

Keep quiet and wash my brain off real good!

[laundrymom]

I think I would tease my brother for a few days then get over it.

[NiNi.R.]

I think I would tease my brother for a few days then get over it.

Believe me LOTS of teasing has been done. People might find it strange that I'm up in his business but my brothers and I are all really close. Best friends growing up and best friends now and we live in a small town so it's kind of hard not to be.

[NiNi.R.]

I'm sorry but I guess I'm the odd one out here because I think that it is your business ... as in, it's your DC and this mom already gives you grief and now you have to deal with the fact that your little bro and her knocked boots .... eww by the way. You already don't like her and I'm sure that things get wierd and uncomfortable already because of her DC antics, now on top of the daycare drama you have to deal with now you have to live life knowing that your little bro boinked her ... just sayin ... and that would drive me BANANAS!!

Unfortunately when you do DC, as much as you want to keep it all business, we do have personal emotions ... these are our homes and our families afterall. I guess I'm just saying that if you should decide to let the family go I'm with you all the way. This is your daycare business and you should feel comfortable in your own home, things shouldn't feel akward, that's too stressfull and you'll hate anticipating seeing her everyday. I mean, people have terminated clients for much less (i.e. being late) ... why not because she screwed your brother... just sayin. If you don't want to term them and just raise their rates then go for it. I still support you. And I'm am proud of you because I don't know if I could have avoided confronting her and going totally ballistic, so kudos to you.

Thank you! It's hard to to put into words why i'm so opposed to it without giving everyone her entire back story and you helped to describe my feelings perfectly. I'm irritated with my brother for being so stupid but more at her because of her behavior and how it affects her darling daughters. Just the other day one of the girls was pretending to talk on the phone with her "boyfriend" and then she started yelling "I'm going to cuss you out boyfriend"...my eyeballs just about fell out of my head when I heard it. So god only knows what else those kids see/hear at home.

[dEHmom]

honestly, my opinion is that it isn't any of your business what they do. And just like you said, you probably wouldn't have even know if it wasn't for your other bro.

BUT should they decide to start dating, then you can claim (for the life of me this has completely slipped my mind, but basically the fact that you know the person, so you cannot work with them now. Kind of like when a cop knows a suspect so he is not allowed on the case, wth is it called!!!)

ETA: CONFLICT OF INTEREST! Thank gawsh! I knew I wasn't crazy .

[daycare]

honestly, my opinion is that it isn't any of your business what they do. And just like you said, you probably wouldn't have even know if it wasn't for your other bro.

BUT should they decide to start dating, then you can claim (for the life of me this has completely slipped my mind, but basically the fact that you know the person, so you cannot work with them now. Kind of like when a cop knows a suspect so he is not allowed on the case, wth is it called!!!)

ETA: CONFLICT OF INTEREST! Thank gawsh! I knew I wasn't crazy .

you keep freezing your brain with all of those slurpees...

thought of you on the 11th.... it was 7-11 free slurpee day at the 7/11 stores....but I did not go get one... In fact I have not gotten another since the first one.... Too yummy for me and I would become addicted...

[dEHmom]

you keep freezing your brain with all of those slurpees...

thought of you on the 11th.... it was 7-11 free slurpee day at the 7/11 stores....but I did not go get one... In fact I have not gotten another since the first one.... Too yummy for me and I would become addicted...

aww you thought about me!

yeah, we never go for the free slurpee days. know why? because the slurpee machines cannot keep up. and the line ups are ridonkulus, so we avoid slurpees that day.

[cillybean83]

i have a 22 year old brother and he tries to sleep with everything, i wouldn't be offended by it...if she's putting out, and he's taking...that's between them, you have no part in it.

[jojosmommy]

I would call her out on it. I would mention that you are aware of what may have happened and you just want to be clear that your business and her personal life are completely seperate. Remind her that you have a grievance policy and if anything DAYCARE related comes up she needs to approach you professionally and chat with you about things. Remind her that it is your responsibility to care for her kids and what happens after hours is not your business (literally) or a reflection there of. Tell her that you arent going to judge her about it and wish to not talk about it again, however that this episode should in no way conflict with the care/services you provide. (Good luck doing it with a straight face- I would DIE)

That way IF something comes up in the future she can not try and say you are a bad provider etc.

Maybe she will term out of embarassment.