Well Now I Totally **** :(

[erinalexmom]

Ive only been open for two days and I will probably lose a client. I texted her mom to ask her to bring diaper rash cream and she said that the little girls bottom was red today and she cried. This little girl is on a med that is basically acid which makes her bm very hard on her skin. But I swear I changed that kid every two hours! I wont see the mom till the morning. I cant sleep, I am sick to my stomach, and I know that I could lose more than one kid over this I really have tried all day. I have no diaper rash cream at my house. Only vasaline so I had to try that because I had nothing else. I hate this. I feel like all my dreams are going up in smoke

[Michael]

Welcome to the forum!

[laundrymom]

Ive only been open for two days and I will probably lose a client. I texted her mom to ask her to bring diaper rash cream and she said that the little girls bottom was red today and she cried. This little girl is on a med that is basically acid which makes her bm very hard on her skin. But I swear I changed that kid every two hours! I wont see the mom till the morning. I cant sleep, I am sick to my stomach, and I know that I could lose more than one kid over this I really have tried all day. I have no diaper rash cream at my house. Only vasaline so I had to try that because I had nothing else. I hate this. I feel like all my dreams are going up in smoke

So mom knows this med does this, and gave you NO preventative med? And you feel guilty because she failed to provide for a need she knew existed?? From med she gives to her child and she knows breaks her out?
Sounds like mom should be applying cream and sending it with child daily, you used what you had and it wasnt enough for the Childs medicine induced acid poop. Mom should be ashamed. She knew but failed to provide cream. Smile move on and get some asap from mom. It's not your fault :-)

[Kaddidle Care]

That's not your fault! I agree with laundrymom - she should have provided something for you to use but I'm guessing she didn't realize the medication could do that.

BTW - if you want to keep something on hand, balmex (if they still make it) goes on easy for their tender bums - and it doesn't stink like desitin.

But still.. for sanitary reasons, each diapered child should have their own tube, tub, whatever.

What makes you think that she'll pull her child over this? These things happen. Heck, my son got a rash so bad that the Dr. did a strep test on it. Come to find out it was a reaction from eating pepperoni (he had it at a party). It took a couple of times before I realized what it was coming from.
(he still loves pepperoni btw but it doesn't give him any more trouble)

[Meyou]

Totally not your fault! Mama dropped the ball on this one. I require diaper cream that stays here just for reasons like this so you might want to make it a requirement. You never know when a red bum will pop up.

I had a DCG who was only breaking out here and it was a horrible struggle with her parents. She really did break out here and heal at home over the weekends so it looked like I was not caring for her properly even though I was. I became so paranoid about her little bum and changed her soooo often to prevent rash for several weeks. Until there was a day they ran out of diapers at home and nicked a few from her bin to tide them over. She was raw within a few hours at home. Turns out she was allergic to most brands of diapers. They used pampers at home (which she didn't react to) but sent me generic ones which caused the rash. I got a huge apology from them and despite other rashes she had (very sensitive skin) they never tried to blame me again.

[jessrlee]

Aww! Sweetie you don't "****" ! It will all be ok. I'm sure she isn't going to pull the kiddo out due to a sore bum. Hugs for you! I hope today goes better

[cheerfuldom]

Even if she does pull her, you didn't do anything wrong. You have to calm down and take these things in stride otherwise you are going to lose your mind doing childcare.

[Country Kids]

It will be ok! Why would you lose more than one child over this? Is she a sibling?

[erinalexmom]

Thank You all!

Well I was so crazy! The mom wasnt upset at all. But the text message made it sound that way. Texts sometimes sound sarcastic when the person is not trying to be that way. So all was well. I am scared that I wont be able to handle the stress of child care. Ironically I am a nurse! LOL But nursing is something I have done for so long that I feel confident in my abilities there. I think Id rather give shots and have senile people call me names than deal with this LOL Once I get comfortable with it all I think I'll be ok but like someone said if I dont calm down I will drive myself crazy and I'll crash and burn. Thank you again for everything

[erinalexmom]

I would lose more than one child because all my parents work together and are friends. They came to me because I could take the kids of the whole circle of friends. Which was good cause I filled up fast but bad cause it makes me feel like if I lose one I lose them all.

[Auntie]

Why is it we take things so to heart with our jobs? We always put blame on ourselves and worry about the littlest things when they aren't even our fault? When I had asked this question before someone told me because you really care. So our caring ways keep us up at night sometimes. I have found it does get easier and you learn to cover those bases/concerns with time and experience.

This board helps a lot with getting advice.

[jen]

You might want to add diaper rash cream to the list of items parents are to bring at start up or, do as I do, and keep a tube of it in the house for just these occassions.

Don't beat yourself up. You didn't do anything wrong. As you go along you'll pick up hints and tricks and before you know it, these things won't seem like a big deal at all.

[Lucy]

I would lose more than one child because all my parents work together and are friends. They came to me because I could take the kids of the whole circle of friends. Which was good cause I filled up fast but bad cause it makes me feel like if I lose one I lose them all.

That whole "circle of friends" thing would make me VERY nervous. That means they get together and your name likely comes up. All it takes is for one to casually mention ONE tiny thing, and the dishing begins. They each say one OTHER little thing about you, and start comparing notes, then they gang up on you and before you know it, a few very little things become huge, and they are on you like stink on poop.

Obviously I'm exaggerating, but it would really worry me. You know how the "girlfriend" dynamic is sometimes. When two of my moms became friends and starting doing lunch, I was very nervous.

[Country Kids]

I agree about the circle of friends thing. Especially if they all work together. I had an issue with family members using me one time. You find out things that you shouldn't know because they feel it is their place to tell you about the other members or if you have a new policy its funny how if one didn't agree with it, either would the other one. Sometimes its easy to take care of children that the parents know each other but don't see each other on a daily basis.

[erinalexmom]

Thank you so much! yes the diaper rash cream is going first on the list for shopping day! LOL Yes, I tend to be a people pleaser and I want to make everyone happy all the time its crazy really LOL And yes the circle of friends thing does make me VERY nervous! But these parents seem to be ok so far and another provider that closed (for personal reasons) told me that they were the best parents she had. I have to keep all these kids because it is a matter of having a family life myself and staying home with my own kids. Otherwise I would have to go back to working outside the home and my whole family was miserable then, including me