I'm registered just in a hurry here. I have a dilema here and I tried to hash it out myself but I just want to see where the average provider stands on an issue such as this. I give gifts for every holiday and every birthday to my daycare kids. I have ran into ungrateful attitudes before yet I still give because the majority of kids are grateful. This time I have 2nd thoughts. ALL opinions are welcome no matter what they are. Thank you!
I currently only have 1 child in care today. I have a couple others but they are on a vacation. The child I have today has had ups and downs as any child but with him it has been more downs in the past. He has been getting better with me even telling me he loves me and hugging me at times. Now today it's back to the old ways. DCM took 1 week off and came back today. I expected some issues because once kids are away from daycare routine they need some time adjusting back. This child always has morning issues with whining and being a little rude to me because he is woke up and taken out the door with no time with DCM. In the past there have been a few times she wakes early and played with him prior to daycare and those days were so much better! No fussing no mean attitude. I tried to tell her she should wake him earlier and spend time because the day is so much smoother and easy for all of us. She doesn't listen and sleeps until 8:00 when she has to be here at 8:30.
Well today I prepared myself for a little issue because he has been gone for 1 week. I thought it would be short lived because while away he had a 3rd birthday and as I do for every child, I bought him a gift. It is a big set of the bristle type blocks that he just loves to play with here. He doesn't have any of his own so I bought him a set knowing he would love them.
So he comes and is whining he doesn't want to be at daycare. I expected that so I just kept a smile and greeted him on the porch with I missed you and happy birthday etc. He gives me a mean look and yells NO to me. I asked him what was wrong and he yelled at me again giving me a nasty look. I said ok and just turned away to keep my cool. DCM says nothing to him and is signing him in on the porch. I had to make a new rule that sign ins are at the door or outside because parents linger and roam through my home. I handed out notice 2 weeks ago and it worked fine until today. Anyway.. So she signed him in and I turned back and asked if he would like his bday gift I bought for him. It was laying on the table there. He yelled NO!! at me. I said ok that's fine. DCM then starts whispering in his ear. She did this for a long time. DCB is just whining. She is still whispering. I find this rude and I feel out of place. It's just us 3 what's the deal u know? He screams NO at her and says he doesn't want to stay here he wants to go with her. She kisses him and hugs him. She says she has to go and he yells again. I need to distract him so I try again asking if he would like to play with his new toy. He gives me a nasty look and screams NO! I DONT WANT IT!!! DCM says nothing just hugs him and says she has to go and stands up. She didn't even correct him! If it were me I would apologize and tell my child that was very rude! Instead she hugs him and tries to walk away. He clings on and she says she has to go to work and she loves him. She then picks him up and says we have to go in the house so I can leave. Before I can say anything she opens my door and walks in. RUDE??? I'm standing there dunbfounded. I pick up her diaper bag, the sign in sheet and the birthday gift. She sits dcb down in the living room. DCM says look at your gift, it's a big kit just for you and he screams I DONT WANT IT! He throws a fit kicking and screaming. Again no correction. She tells him she will see him later and walks away. He runs after her into the hall and throws himself down. He starts kicking the baby gate and knocks it over. She says sorry I have to go and shuts the door.
I stand there now feeling depressed again. I don't want to deal with this anymore and now with him even being so rude about a gift that I spent $20 on really just breaks my heart! DCM could have at least said thanks, sorry he's acting like this... something! Maybe I expect too much? If so please tell me so I can change the way I think. After she left I tried to pick him up off of the hall floor. He swinging and screaming. I sit him on the sofa and he's having a fit so I let him be. Finally 5 mins later he stops and is sitting there pouting. I asked if he was ready to talk to me and he yelled NO with that nasty look. I said ok and asked if he was ready for breakfast NO!! ... I sit down and am just at a loss. He keeps looking at him gift. I hand it to him saying nothing and he drops it on the floor and said I DONT WANT IT! Fine I take it and put it in the dining room!
I had thought about terming this family for another issue but after them being gone for a week I thought I would give another chance because I just want to see dcb grow up, he has been getting better. Now I am thinking term again but is it just because I am upset right now? I know later DCB will want his gift. He is now passed out on the sofa because he can't stay awake. He probably didn't get much sleep. This happens often he stays up watching TV so I hear. Here I sit mind racing. he is my only kid today and he's asleep already so my mind is just thinking too much about this whole thing. Anyway question is would you give the gift after the way he acted? Maybe I am just being stubborn because my feelings got stomped on but I don't want to give it to him now. I know DCM will ask where his gift is when they leave. If I tell her he didn't want it so I'm keeping it, it will sound petty and childish wont it? Plus it will tick her off I bet! What would you do here? Would you give the gift anyway? If not what would you say to DCM when she asks for it?
I currently only have 1 child in care today. I have a couple others but they are on a vacation. The child I have today has had ups and downs as any child but with him it has been more downs in the past. He has been getting better with me even telling me he loves me and hugging me at times. Now today it's back to the old ways. DCM took 1 week off and came back today. I expected some issues because once kids are away from daycare routine they need some time adjusting back. This child always has morning issues with whining and being a little rude to me because he is woke up and taken out the door with no time with DCM. In the past there have been a few times she wakes early and played with him prior to daycare and those days were so much better! No fussing no mean attitude. I tried to tell her she should wake him earlier and spend time because the day is so much smoother and easy for all of us. She doesn't listen and sleeps until 8:00 when she has to be here at 8:30.
Well today I prepared myself for a little issue because he has been gone for 1 week. I thought it would be short lived because while away he had a 3rd birthday and as I do for every child, I bought him a gift. It is a big set of the bristle type blocks that he just loves to play with here. He doesn't have any of his own so I bought him a set knowing he would love them.
So he comes and is whining he doesn't want to be at daycare. I expected that so I just kept a smile and greeted him on the porch with I missed you and happy birthday etc. He gives me a mean look and yells NO to me. I asked him what was wrong and he yelled at me again giving me a nasty look. I said ok and just turned away to keep my cool. DCM says nothing to him and is signing him in on the porch. I had to make a new rule that sign ins are at the door or outside because parents linger and roam through my home. I handed out notice 2 weeks ago and it worked fine until today. Anyway.. So she signed him in and I turned back and asked if he would like his bday gift I bought for him. It was laying on the table there. He yelled NO!! at me. I said ok that's fine. DCM then starts whispering in his ear. She did this for a long time. DCB is just whining. She is still whispering. I find this rude and I feel out of place. It's just us 3 what's the deal u know? He screams NO at her and says he doesn't want to stay here he wants to go with her. She kisses him and hugs him. She says she has to go and he yells again. I need to distract him so I try again asking if he would like to play with his new toy. He gives me a nasty look and screams NO! I DONT WANT IT!!! DCM says nothing just hugs him and says she has to go and stands up. She didn't even correct him! If it were me I would apologize and tell my child that was very rude! Instead she hugs him and tries to walk away. He clings on and she says she has to go to work and she loves him. She then picks him up and says we have to go in the house so I can leave. Before I can say anything she opens my door and walks in. RUDE??? I'm standing there dunbfounded. I pick up her diaper bag, the sign in sheet and the birthday gift. She sits dcb down in the living room. DCM says look at your gift, it's a big kit just for you and he screams I DONT WANT IT! He throws a fit kicking and screaming. Again no correction. She tells him she will see him later and walks away. He runs after her into the hall and throws himself down. He starts kicking the baby gate and knocks it over. She says sorry I have to go and shuts the door.
I stand there now feeling depressed again. I don't want to deal with this anymore and now with him even being so rude about a gift that I spent $20 on really just breaks my heart! DCM could have at least said thanks, sorry he's acting like this... something! Maybe I expect too much? If so please tell me so I can change the way I think. After she left I tried to pick him up off of the hall floor. He swinging and screaming. I sit him on the sofa and he's having a fit so I let him be. Finally 5 mins later he stops and is sitting there pouting. I asked if he was ready to talk to me and he yelled NO with that nasty look. I said ok and asked if he was ready for breakfast NO!! ... I sit down and am just at a loss. He keeps looking at him gift. I hand it to him saying nothing and he drops it on the floor and said I DONT WANT IT! Fine I take it and put it in the dining room!
I had thought about terming this family for another issue but after them being gone for a week I thought I would give another chance because I just want to see dcb grow up, he has been getting better. Now I am thinking term again but is it just because I am upset right now? I know later DCB will want his gift. He is now passed out on the sofa because he can't stay awake. He probably didn't get much sleep. This happens often he stays up watching TV so I hear. Here I sit mind racing. he is my only kid today and he's asleep already so my mind is just thinking too much about this whole thing. Anyway question is would you give the gift after the way he acted? Maybe I am just being stubborn because my feelings got stomped on but I don't want to give it to him now. I know DCM will ask where his gift is when they leave. If I tell her he didn't want it so I'm keeping it, it will sound petty and childish wont it? Plus it will tick her off I bet! What would you do here? Would you give the gift anyway? If not what would you say to DCM when she asks for it?
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