Is Running A DC Really That Bad?

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Ok that's just rude and ignorant to make such a blanket statement like that! I happen to adore my daycare kids I have had in care and I go above and beyond the call of duty so to speak! If u search back I am the one who has been used and abused by not only some DCMs but a couple children as well! I would love to have u come and take my place for a day or 2 and see how u like some of the things I have encountered!

Are u a registered member just hiding or are u just trolling to piss people off?

And since u claim home daycare providers are the most negative... what are u? Provider or parent? We are the most negative, disrespectful people on the planet huh... Hello pot, YOU'RE black!

Exactly!!!

[NiNi.R.]

I love my job! There are days that can be pretty rough but all in all I can't picture myself doing anything else. I will say to do this job you have to be tough. You need lots of endurance and patience. It is a must that you keep things as professional as possible with the parents and always discuss an issue at first opportunity.

This site may have a lot of negative threads but it's the negative threads I have learned from. I have learned a lot in the short time I have been reading. It is so nice to have the availability of different providers opinions and advice right at my finger tips.

[AfterSchoolMom]

I really love what I do, but I have done probably more than my fair share of venting here this year. Do I think that ALL parents behave the way some of my awful ones do? No. Do I have some really great families? Yes! Do I come here for advice and to let off steam when my awful parents do or say something disrespectful? YES!!!

This is a forum, and while there is a space for advertising daycare (isn't there?), it's not right here. There will be good and bad. We could definitely talk more about the good, happy things that happen (there ARE several threads dedicated to these things, one of which I started myself), and maybe we should. However, I think that we have a right to have a place to vent where there are other people who have walked a mile in our shoes and where we can support each other with advice, sympathy, or even sometimes a well needed virtual kick-in-the-pants! Personally, this forum is my outlet. If anyone has a problem with my venting posts, they're welcome to move along and read something else.

[Unregistered]

YES!!!!!!

I rue the day I started this job. It cannot be over soon enough.

[littlemissmuffet]

YES!!!!!!

I rue the day I started this job. It cannot be over soon enough.

I hope it's done SOON, because I most definitely would not want my children being cared for on a daily basis with someone who is seemingly so bitter about doing it...
I know childcare can be difficult and frustrating - but it is difficult and frustrating for the poor children who have to "deal" with an unhappy provider.

[daycare]

I really love what I do, but I have done probably more than my fair share of venting here this year. Do I think that ALL parents behave the way some of my awful ones do? No. Do I have some really great families? Yes! Do I come here for advice and to let off steam when my awful parents do or say something disrespectful? YES!!!

This is a forum, and while there is a space for advertising daycare (isn't there?), it's not right here. There will be good and bad. We could definitely talk more about the good, happy things that happen (there ARE several threads dedicated to these things, one of which I started myself), and maybe we should. However, I think that we have a right to have a place to vent where there are other people who have walked a mile in our shoes and where we can support each other with advice, sympathy, or even sometimes a well needed virtual kick-in-the-pants! Personally, this forum is my outlet. If anyone has a problem with my venting posts, they're welcome to move along and read something else.

go girl you tell them!! without this site, I might be divorced by now.....

Actually I think a lot of us would be.....my husband hated hearing about all of my venting.....but now I have some where to go and vent and people understand...........

[Meeko]

To "Unregistered" who thinks we are all so negative....

You seem to be of the impression that all parents are like you and love their kids and are good to them and that we complain for the sake of complaining and think we raise the kids better than their own parents can.

Before replying to this thread...I took a long look at the kids enrolled in my day care to make sure I was counting right...16 kids were here today.

Out of that 16...only three have parents who are together (and they are siblings) All the others are from broken homes.

Three have single parents who are single due to circumstances beyond their control (death etc)

My heart sank as I realized a terrible truth. ALL the rest are here for one reason only. This is blunt...but they are all here because their mothers could not keep their legs together. They are ALL mistakes. None were planned. Over the years I have picked this up from words right out of their mother's mouths. The product of one night stands or born to high schoolers who think having a baby was going to be like owning a puppy. Two of the children in my care are nothing more than a bigger check from the state for their mother.....not my opinion, but admitted to openly by her.

More kids = bigger welfare check.

Not all the parents are bad business clients, but they are certainly not good parents. I know they love their kids.....but they do not know how to parent and really don't want to. Their children are thrust through my door as soon as they can dump them here and not picked up until the last second. They want to spend as little time and effort on them as they can. The only place a majority those kids get CONSISTANT love and nurturing is HERE WITH ME.

Now I have also had fantastic clients over the years who are exceptional parents. But sadly, the norm is now unwed mothers and such.

I am afraid you are living in la-la land if you think that all parents love and care for their kids. Those kind sadly seem to be the minority nowadays. Anyone can have sex and make a baby. Doesn't make them decent parents.

Kudos to you if you are a good and loving and involved parent. There needs to be more.

But you have not walked in the shoes of a day care provider. You have NO IDEA of the things we put up with sometimes.

I love and adore my day care kids. I could never do anything else for a living. Caring for them is my calling in life and I will do it as long as I can. But yes....I get on here and vent my heart out sometimes. Maybe you have never had someone stand in your own living room and disrespect you and your family and your home. It's tough. So we come here to unload.

We are not the negative, nasty people you think we are. I have actually felt so loved here. I have received private messages from very sweet people who have given me strength and support as well as openly here on the forum.

It's not negative here. It's the opposite. It's warm and friendly and a chance to "meet" others who know exactly where I am coming from and let me know I am not alone if I have a problem.

THANKS LADIES......I LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU ALL.

[BusyBee]

Some days it is really hard but it helps to know that we are not alone. The positives are definitely there, too! This board is helpful for many reasons!