Hitting & Biting

[apluedeman]

Hello,

Fellow daycare providers. I need advice. I have 2 little boys (different families) in my care that are mean. What I mean by that is they hit to hurt, bite etc. Sadly they really only do it to one child who is younger and can not talk to tell me. Today I think my limit has been hit, one of the boys scratched the face of the younger boy with a lego and for no reason. So how do I approach this? Do I write up an amended page for my contract that says they will be suspended and after the 3rd time daycare terminated? I don't want to get like this but if it is not safe for the younger kids to play in the playroom what else can I do?? How do I word this? Is there a form out there I can use for this?? What is your advice?

[nannyde]

what are the ages?

[apluedeman]

ages

The boy who does the biting mainly is 2 and half and the little boy who does all the hitting and leaves marks is 3 and half... The little one is almost 2 (July 18th). I use time out it doesn't seem to be working, and the parents say they are deciplined at home its just so frustrating..

[wdmmom]

You need to reprimand the child when behavior like this takes place. He's running game on you and the only way to stop is to make rules and stick to them.

The way I do it is:

1st: Verbal warning
2nd: Time out (1 minute per age)
3rd: Separate from group for same time frame as above
4th: Parent conference
5th: Termination

I don't waste my time with suspending. If you suspend, it's likely the parent will just find alternate care.

I would discuss his behavior with his parents and find out if there have been any changes at home that might trigger it.

Don't give up just yet.