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Have a 14 month old in my care who is very frequently sick. He's had like 4 or 5 ear infections since he's been in my care in the past 6 months. Well Thurs. and Fri. of last week I used a couple vacation days to attend a wedding out of state for a close friend. So DCB stayed with his grandparents for those 2 days. DCM has expressed to me before that he gets sick everytime he goes there and they aren't sure why. Anyway, she said by Saturday he had a cold and a high fever which lasted until Monday. So they notified me Monday that wouldn't be coming and they were taking him to the doctor. She texted me later that day and told it was an ear infection and he'd be back tues. Well for the past 3 days I have seen no symptoms of an ear infection. He isn't exhibiting any of the symptoms that he typically does with the previous ear infections he's had every month. The only thing he seems to have is a very gross chest cough/cold. I had no reason at the time to think there may have been anything else wrong because of his frequent colds and ear infections so I saw no reason to get a doctors note. DCP's have repeatedly shown no concern at any time for my health or my families and even at one time were upset with me because their child was diagnosed with bronchitis and I told them they couldn't return for at least 24 hours. I have a feeling that because of this that there may be something else wrong that may have been obviously very contagious but they didn't tell me because they knew I'd make him stay out for another 24 hours. Now his last day June 10th because I am closing to have a baby and will not be re-opening but this is really frustrating and I really want to say something to these parents. Of course I can't prove if they lied to me about this but I'm not stupid. What would you do? How would you handle this?
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Whenever there is an ear infection diagnosis you HAVE to get it in writing that this is the ONLY diagnosis.
If a child has bronchitis/, pneumonia/, influenza/, AND and ear infection you will very often JUST get the ear infection diagnosis from the parent. It may be true that he has an ear infection in ADDITION to another communicable illness.
The ear infection is the one that is not contagious so the child can return to care. It's the most common diagnosis the provider will hear about when the child is presenting cold and cough symptoms. It's important to make sure that it is the ONLY diagnosis.
When it comes to dealing with parental lying regarding health and having no concern about the provider or her family's health... you have to be prepared for that when you decide to do child care. It's a VERY hard part of this business but it's pretty universal.
Many parents are concerned about your health and the health of the others around you BEFORE their child becomes sick. Once their child has become sick then the worse thing for them has happened. It's not in their best interest to have concern beyond that especially when protecting you and your family will cost them money and often land them dealing with a sick kid.
The only way to get complete honesty regarding kids health is to offer to care for the child when they are ill at no additional cost. If you aren't willing or legally ABLE to do that then you are going to run into parental lying... either by directly lying to you or lying by omission. Bringing you a diagnosis of JUST an ear infection when the child clearly has an upper respiratory illness is a very common example of parental lying by omission.
If you can't manage parental lying regarding illness then you won't be able to do child care. There's no way to interview it out, policy it out, or talk it out of the world of child care. The only way to get the truth 100 percent of the time is by caring for the ill child for no additional cost. PERIOD -
At this point, I wouldn't bother saying anything. You're shutting down in two weeks.Comment
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well since you are closing in 2 weeks I wouldn't worry about it but I had this kid with the same things you are describing, well after I came from vaca. he didn't clear up but got worse so I let him go. I couldn't have him getting everyone sick again and to this day dad won't tell me whats wrong with him (I watch his older sister b and a school)Comment
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Thanks ladies. You are probably all right. Need to just tough it out. I realized a couple months ago that this was not for me anyway. I was fine up until we had a surprise unplanned pregnancy and then my hormones went haywire and my patience became nill! Now I'm pregnant and my whole family is constantly getting sick because of this little boy and I can't stand it. I just feel so disrespected!!Comment
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I'd let it go since you are done soon anyway. In any case don't think that this boy has caused your family to get sick. He didn't create the virus nor is he the only possible source. Getting exposed to viruses is an unfortunate side effect of having a daycare in your home.Comment
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