Why Can't Parents Respect My Home?

[DaisyMamma]

I have been considering the camera thing simply because I'm so scared of inspections! . but it helps with getting kids ready as soon as you see their car.

BTW you should be charging her for the whole time. Every minute she is there chatting and same with the dad. Just be nice as pie about it, same with the shoes and food. The nicer you are about it the more willing they are to comply.

[kimmi]

Well I did type up a quick "friendly reminder" newsletter for every parent to take with them when they leave. Hopefully dad will show to mom tonight. So hopefully tomorrow morning might be different? hmmmm. we will see. Sorry for venting guys, but I love this forum because I can almost relate to each and every post here! Its nice to read that others are going through same issues as I am and its not just me. =/

[Live and Learn]

kimmi....not trying to flame you but those "friendly reminder newsletters" are ridiculous in my opinion.::

The perpetrating parent probably won't read it and if she does she won't realize you are referring to *HER* behavior. ::::::

If this is really bothering you....**** it up and nicely tell her to her face. She will respect you more than meekly handing out a friendly reminder.

[momma2girls]

Well I did type up a quick "friendly reminder" newsletter for every parent to take with them when they leave. Hopefully dad will show to mom tonight. So hopefully tomorrow morning might be different? hmmmm. we will see. Sorry for venting guys, but I love this forum because I can almost relate to each and every post here! Its nice to read that others are going through same issues as I am and its not just me. =/

Hopefully this will work for you-

[morgan24]

kimmi....not trying to flame you but those "friendly reminder newsletters" are ridiculous in my opinion.::

The perpetrating parent probably won't read it and if she does she won't realize you are referring to *HER* behavior. ::::::

If this is really bothering you....**** it up and nicely tell her to her face. She will respect you more than meekly handing out a friendly reminder.

I agree with this 100%. I don't ever use them. I would stop dcm from coming on the carpet. I usually say something like Oh please don't walk on the carpet, that's where my babies crawl. I would stop her every time she tries it. It's just like training a dog, sometimes you have to keep saying it over and over before they get it.

[sharlan]

Did she take off her shoes this morning?

[kimmi]

she stopped on the ceramic tile before the carpet starts. Yay, 2 days in a row now. But, she still insists on trying to shove them dang fruit loops down her childs mouth 20 min. before breakfast time! ugh! Even when she asks him (hes only 1) if he wants them he says "no" and she still insists on it. baby steps with her I guess. =/

[AfterSchoolMom]

kimmi....not trying to flame you but those "friendly reminder newsletters" are ridiculous in my opinion.::

The perpetrating parent probably won't read it and if she does she won't realize you are referring to *HER* behavior. ::::::

I've found here that everytime I send a "friendly reminder", the behavior in question gets worse instead of better. It's as if the parents have "you're not the boss of me syndrome" and go out of their way to do it more.

[jojosmommy]

I've found here that everytime I send a "friendly reminder", the behavior in question gets worse instead of better. It's as if the parents have "you're not the boss of me syndrome" and go out of their way to do it more.

I agree. They know they are disrespecting you and they don't care. I have even had parents (the non-offenders) call upset saying "is this for ME...?" I'd rather just talk to the parent about it directly.