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Well, mainly I have one parent that just doesnt want to follow my rules. I just moved my daycare down to the basement this past weekend and had my carpet shampood. I put up a sign "Please remove shoes". But ONE of my moms thinks she doesnt have to I guess. She walk clear in the middle of the play room with her shoes on. My husband and I said something to her husband who picks up and was hoping this morning would be better. Nope, did the same thing again only also gave her one year old fruitloops to snack on and a drink to walk around with (which I dont allow food or drink, only in kitchen). I have a specific time for breakfast and I guess she didnt think he could wait 45 min. to eat and had to have him snack) which is prolly why he doesnt eat his breakfast that great! grrrrr. What should I do with this parent?? How disrespectful. She wants me to obey her rules for her son (like putting sunscreen on him when its 45 degrees outside in march. ugh! and so much more you wouldnt believe). Im sorry I just had to vent! We are thinking about terminating if she continues to not follow our rules, which is sad because she came to me when she was 6 months pregnant for a daycare slot and ive had the baby since he was 5 weeks old. =(
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Nope, nope, nope. That wouldn't work for me. Complete disrespect for your rules and your home.
How do you expect it to stop if you don't say anything.
You need to tell her or email her telling her that you've noticed on numerous occasions that she is wearing her shoes. There is a sign posted saying no shoes. If she's not comfortable taking off her shoes, tell her she is welcome to hollar down the stairs and you will get DCK ready to go.
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I had a problem with the food situation too. First I started taking food and drink at the door and throwing it away. Then I sent an email saying no food or drink or sippy cups allowed from home unless they have made previous arrangements and there is enough for everyone. Meaning: only snacks are allowed and there must be enough for everyone. SIMPLE.
Tell her this:
"Aww mom, that was really nice of you to bring fruit loops. I have to serve everyone the same thing so you can go ahead and keep those in your car for later this afternoon or tomorrow morning to tie him over again." -
Tell her face to face to remove her shoes, not bring in food or drink.
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Parents (and kids, but mostly parents because they know better) disrespecting my home is one of my biggest pet peeves about daycare. Either dad didn't say anything to mom, or she is testing you. Either way, she's ignoring your sign. I think you have to say something directly to her. You can either just say "DCM, please take off your shoes before you come in the house please" or you can go thru the kid and say "DCK, please tell mommy we don't wear shoes in the house." I'd recommend the first, but for some people that's really hard.
As far as the sunscreen, I'm in the middle. You can still get sun damage in cold weather. It's a pain, but it's really NOT a bad idea. JMO. Good luck!Comment
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Your home, your rules. There is no reason for your HUSBAND to speak to the husband. YOU need to speak directly to HER. Stop her at the door and remind her, no shoes, no food or drink outside of the kitchen.
My neighbor across the street has a large sign at his front door, I can see it from across the street - NO SHOES inside the house.Comment
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Tell her face to face, otherwise if you can't do this. Make a note on door, write it in newsletters, etc... I am going to start this as well!!
Be also firm on the food thing. I actually had to tell one family to stop bringing in breakfast each am. That made the other family start bringing her breakfast in as well. UGHH!!Comment
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Parents don't respect your home because they are not invested in it.
Q. Why do you allow her to walk through your home?
Q. Why do you allow her to ignore your house rules?
I'd recommend locking the door, then do all drop-off's and pick-up's on the porch.
I have for years and years...
It makes for a stress free transition for all parties involved.
- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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Another idea that I did...put up a camera system so you can see who's pulling into the driveway. When you see her pulling in, have DCK ready to go and meet her at the door. She'll get the hint.
**I got a 2 camera system that hooks up to the Audio/Video plugs in the back of my TV for about $140 at Menards. Best investment ever!!!Comment
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I had to add this to my Summer newsletters every yr. as well. Please place sunscreen on child, before coming to daycare. This has worked very well. It would take me 15-20 min. to place sunscreen on all child, some would be screaming bloody murder while I applied it. Then we would be out maybe 10-15 min.Comment
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I know I have to get a huge backbone which I am still in the process of growing. As far as the sunscreen, that day they complained the sun was not out and it was gloomy outside and it was windy. So I think it might have been wind burn on the cheeks more than anything. They wouldnt have even known we went out that day if it wasnt for me showing dad pics of boy playing in a car we have. =/ This is the same parent I posted awhile back about her letting her child come in with a crayon in his hand! Not once, not twice, but 3 times!! Ummm, thanks for the extra crayons they are now in my crayon box. =) If its not one thing its another. Its just very flustrating. I do have a basement door that all parents are to use now, just repainted and redone our hardwood floors in my living room and no kids or parents are allowed in there no more!
. I even keep a gate up to the living room so no one can get in during daycare hours now. Also, its so nice shutting lights off to basement and picking up then actually going up stairs and leaving work behind me! I love it! No more toys in my living room YAY!!
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she drops off in the morning and dad picks up. So she doesnt do that fast. I could have shoes on boy and dad still just hangs out for 15 min. everyday. =( Also, she doesnt even sign him in till she leaves! I should start charging her for the time she actually shows up. Ugh!!Comment
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I have mine pointing out a window towards the driveway....that way it's still inside. The other I have in the napping room.
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Kimmi,
Take a few minutes to read Nannyde's blog "The Dynamic of Bad Behavior in Daycare", it will cover almost every aspect of what you are dealing with.
We have all dealt with it at some point or other.
It is worth the read.- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.Comment
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