Pick-Up Time Problems!

[Mom_of_two]

Hi! I think I recently chimed in on a thread regarding kids acting up at pick up, and I said I haven't had that problem-. Actually I do now. I have a DCG that KNOWS she is not allowed to run upstairs. Twice now (didn't think TOO much of it but was a little irritated) she has said 'watch me run real fast' and run to mom or dad. She KNOWS better. She can tell me the rules and has time outs for it. I know some kids forget in the excitement, I do not believe she is one of those. She feels it is safe to not follow my rules when mom and dad are here, and wants to do something she is not allowed to do. (When she started she ALWAYS put her fingers in her mouth and nose and I kept reminding her not to, washing hands etc, and her mom would carry up the stairs and she looked at me and smiled and put her fingers in her mouth. This girl likes to push buttons.)

SOOO I am gonna send parents and email tonight and ask their help- I don't usu give guidance when parents are here but I can, or they can stop it, etc. Need to be consistent, which I know the parents get. (It is a very nice family, and child, just need to stop this behavior now!)

Any experience with this? I wrote an email- short and sweet- but hope they are accepting. I am not one to stop being consistent just cause a mom or dad shows up..............

[nannyde]

https://www.daycare.com/nannyde/the-dynamic-of-bad-behavior-in-daycare.htm

[Mom_of_two]

Thank you!! I agree! I know what feels right to me but it is easy sometimes to second guess.

I did send the email (told them we can possibly talk at d.o. or p.u. but might not be able to, so wanted to email.) Waiting to see. I think they know- when she started they told me she kind of runs the house...at least they know it is problematic even though it happens sometimes (as opposed to parents who think it is totally ok.) They are a nice family, so I am expecting support but who knows!

[sahm2three]

https://www.daycare.com/nannyde/the-...in-daycare.htm

LOVE it Nannyde! Love it. I almost want to print it out and send it home for the parents to read it. I have one family that I already do the outside departure thing. Drop offs I have no issues. Pickups were a NIGHTMARE. So they text that they are on their way, I get them ready to go, the parent pulls up and we open the door and when they get onto the steps I open the door and the parent is on their own! But I have a few others that need to read this, but am afraid it would offend them. They are behaving BADLY by allowing their child to terrorize my home during pickup. I have done time outs in the presence of their parents. I hate it. But if the parent isn't going to step in, I am for sure going to. Follow the rules or suffer the consequences.

[nannyde]

LOVE it Nannyde! Love it. I almost want to print it out and send it home for the parents to read it. I have one family that I already do the outside departure thing. Drop offs I have no issues. Pickups were a NIGHTMARE. So they text that they are on their way, I get them ready to go, the parent pulls up and we open the door and when they get onto the steps I open the door and the parent is on their own! But I have a few others that need to read this, but am afraid it would offend them. They are behaving BADLY by allowing their child to terrorize my home during pickup. I have done time outs in the presence of their parents. I hate it. But if the parent isn't going to step in, I am for sure going to. Follow the rules or suffer the consequences.

I need to write a handout version of this. It's tricky because once you let it out that you get the power part of it then you have to actually TALK to them about the kid being in charge when the parent is in the house. There's really no way around it.

[Mom_of_two]

A handout would be great! Definitely hard to broach the subject sometimes. This girls parents I think will be receptive because they acknowledge her behavior at home as an issue sometimes, and the dad appeared to feel bad when they left...I guess if someone should choose to leave based on my house rules, if it ever came to that, they aren't for me anyway....btu I just can't tolerate behavior like that in my home! Thanks.
(And I love the 'power supply' analogy- PERFECT fro my DCG. Perfect.)