Yet Another Wonderful Pick-Up With DCD

[NavyWife]

So yesterday, I posted about how he wanted me to 'try harder' to potty train his daughter and suggested I let her run around my house naked..
Today, he came to pick the kids up and it was raining and hailing outside. He comes in and as I'm getting the one child's shoes on (he had left the younger child's shoes at home today), he tells me that he has a favor to ask. I'm thinking it will be about the potty thing again.. but no, he says he is flat broke and doesn't have gas to get home tonight or to get to work tomorrow and asks if he can borrow $20. I politely tell him that we don't keep cash at the house. He asks if I can run to the atm. ARE YOU KIDDING ME??!! It's storming and hailing and you want me to put my kids in the car and go get you money?! I tell him that we don't really have extra money right now- which we don't. He's like you don't have $20?? Umm. no. I don't have $20 that I am willing to give you.

What the heck is wrong with this guy?! Yes, I am friends with his wife, but I really think he is crossing the line here. Yesterday he got mad at me because I wouldn't let his kid be naked at my house, today he gets mad and walks out saying fine then, I won't be seeing you tomorrow, because I wouldn't give him $20.

I'm seriously so ready to be done watching their kids. I gave them a three week notice last week that I couldn't watch them anymore after the end of the month. We don't have any contracts, and I'm seriously scared to tell my husband about this because I know he will fly off the handle and tell the guy not to bring them back and then they will just figure they don't need to pay for the three days I watched them this week.

[nannyde]

That explains the nekkid potty training thing. No diapers saves money.

All he needs is gas to get out of your driveway. After that, it's no concern to you.

[jen2651]

I'd just push his car out of the driveway. I can't believe the audacity. Seriously, you don't have $1.50 in change in your car until you get home to your change dish? I think we have all been there, but I would NEVER ask my daycare provider for the money. If I am unwilling to ask my own parents, I wouldn't ask any one else.

[daycare]

I would have loaned it with 50% interest!
Lol

[sharlan]

I rarely keep cash on hand. My husband just asked me for $5 and I had to get it out of the change jar.

I have never had a parent ask me for money before.

[Crystal]

this statement right here:

"today he gets mad and walks out saying fine then, I won't be seeing you tomorrow, because I wouldn't give him $20."



would have been the LAST time he ever spoke to me that way. I would have stopped him dead in his tracks and said "you are right, I won't be seeing you tomrrow because effective immediately your child care arrangement is terminated" No one could pay me enough to "threaten" me in any way.

[NavyWife]

this statement right here:

"today he gets mad and walks out saying fine then, I won't be seeing you tomorrow, because I wouldn't give him $20."



would have been the LAST time he ever spoke to me that way. I would have stopped him dead in his tracks and said "you are right, I won't be seeing you tomrrow because effective immediately your child care arrangement is terminated" No one could pay me enough to "threaten" me in any way.

Oh believe me, I wanted to! The only reason I didn't is because his wife is away right now and I am friends with her, and because I know I only have 7 more days of dealing with his crap before I am done with watching their kids. And I will never, never, under any circumstance accept them back. Friends or not, this is business and I'm not dealing with her husband. Now I know exactly why his daughter thinks she can throw a fit whenever she doesn't get her way, because that's exactly what he's done!

[wdmmom]

That's about as bad as a provider asking a client to pay early! You just don't do it!!!!

[Unregistered]

when you're out of gas....

You are out of gas. I would always help a parent out if I could, even a stranger at the gas station with a kiddo. Being the DCP, you can always ask for the money to be paid back, but running out of gas with a kid in the car is the worst. Been there. Also, since gas is over 4.00 here, I keep finding my tank on empty despite near daily twenty dollar gas stops.

[PitterPatter]

The nerve to ask in the 1st place but then to say You dont have $20? I would have said why is that such a shock YOU dont have $20 either and u are asking ME for it!

I have been asked a few times (by the same DCM) for gas money, milk money, diaper money, even a snack and a juice once because a DCM was running late for work and didn't have any breakfast! The nerve of people today I tell ya! Balls of steel!

Oh and TERM that fool ASAP!

[NavyWife]

You are out of gas. I would always help a parent out if I could, even a stranger at the gas station with a kiddo. Being the DCP, you can always ask for the money to be paid back, but running out of gas with a kid in the car is the worst. Been there. Also, since gas is over 4.00 here, I keep finding my tank on empty despite near daily twenty dollar gas stops.

Amazingly, he made it home with no problem and texted at 10pm telling me that he would be here today. Out of gas? Or needed cigarettes? I think the latter.

[Meeko]

You are out of gas. I would always help a parent out if I could, even a stranger at the gas station with a kiddo. Being the DCP, you can always ask for the money to be paid back, but running out of gas with a kid in the car is the worst. Been there. Also, since gas is over 4.00 here, I keep finding my tank on empty despite near daily twenty dollar gas stops.

Helping out a stranger who obviously needs the help is one thing. That stranger is not going to come back and ask again and again.

If she gives this guy money once, I guarantee he will ask again and again because he thinks she's his own personal ATM. His attitude proves he has no respect for her at all...so he will continue any and all bad behavior she lets him get away with..

[Kaddidle Care]

I hate to ask this but.. have you been paid in advance for that last week? Because if you haven't, you can bet on being taken advantage of for free childcare.

[juliebug]

wow that is crazy glad you will be done with them soon!

[NavyWife]

I hate to ask this but.. have you been paid in advance for that last week? Because if you haven't, you can bet on being taken advantage of for free childcare.

Unfortunately, no. Which is part of the reason I won't ever be taking them back. They only want to pay for the days they bring the kids, they don't have the common courtesy to even let me know sometimes when they aren't bringing them- I find out when I text them in the mornings after I've already gotten out of bed at 5:30 am to get them. And, they pay every two weeks, not in advance. I totally got screwed on this set up, and I am well aware of it. I think because we're friends they think they can take advantage of me. I'm pretty sure they planning on waiting until the wife comes back on Saturday or Sunday to pay me for the two weeks, which is going to piss me off big time. I'm trying to think of a good way to bring it up to DCD that I expect to be paid in full when he picks the kids up next Friday. DCM would normally text me the day before payday and ask what the balance is.. Maybe I should send him a text saying Just a reminder, payday is tomorrow, your balance is____?