Marital Issues At DCK Home

[Unregistered]

I am a member here, but am keeping myself anon, for confidentiality reasons. Dck mom confided in me that her and her husband are having some troubles at home and that their little one is sometimes witness to it all. They are fairly newly married- I believe their little one came into the stars shortly after their honeymoon, and he is not quite 2. But I have noticed over the last two weeks or so, a difference in dck , and this explains it. He's been anxious, not easily settled at nap time, and needing a lot of extra hugs and cuddles. He's even coming up to me randomly in the day to give me a hug and kiss- which isn't a typical daily event for him. But the anxiety and hard time sleeping is what tipped me off that there was something going on.

How would you help calm a little one, while in your care, that's going through a bit of a rough patch at home? [this isn't an abuse matter- but I gather there is lots of yelling and some tears, fueled by loneliness with a baby] He's a very well adjusted boy, very confident and playful and always very happy so this change in personality breaks my heart and I want to do everything in my power to help him stay that happy, confident boy , while his parents resolve their squabbles.

[Cat Herder]

The best thing I know for an inconsistent home life is calm, fun and consistent days with you.

IMHO, If he perceives changes there, too, it may be overwhelming. YKWIM?

I have never gone for more than a few months without someone mentioning things are "shaky" at home.

I keep things calm and comforting for everyone all the time and have few to no issues with kiddos. I base my entire program on it.

[JenNJ]

I agree 100% with catherder. I have been in that situation before. It stinks, but just try to be the constant in an ever-changing world for this little guy. Let mom know to be open with you so you can look out for his interests during t

[wdmmom]

I have an almost 2 year old that has shown aggression since his mom and dad told me of issues at home.

He tends to hit himself, hit the floor, hit the walls, or throw whatever is in his way.

The best you can do is continue to be the consistent, solid, structured figure in his life. He's depending on you. Any further change could be even more detrimental for the poor lil guy.