What Do You Do With An Infant That..

[DancingQueen]

I did my senior thesis in high school on SIDS. It was a few months after my niece had died. She was 8 weeks old.

I was in 7th grade when my nephew died and he was 10 weeks old.

I always tell people that no one should ever have to see a coffin that small.

I don't beleive anything has had more of an impact on my entire life than the site of those 2 coffins. It literally was the deciding factor on how I planned to parent. (which I might add was INCREDIBLY different than anyone I knew or anything I grew up with. Breastfeeding was unheard of in my family and co-sleeping was absolutely the worst parenting choice one could make. I won NO popularity contests. And here I am almost 17 years later making an amateur mistake like this. I always preach to everyone to stay up to date on the research. I don't know how I could have let this tid bit slip.

[CdnMumof4]

poor baby..so young to be in daycare :-(

Lots of snuggles, try a fan in her room [obviously not aimed at her, but for the noise] or even a white noise machine- to prevent waking with slight noise.

sounds like she just needs her mama, that's a tough one. I say wear her when you can, feed her in a quiet room if/when you can, don't rock her to sleep but rock her and calm her, and then start the 'sleep training' while at your home. rocking her to sleep is only settig yourself up for more struggles as she gets older.

good luck mama!!!

[Cat Herder]

I know I would have given anything to have a Maternity system like Canadas....

Unfortunately ALL my DCK's start at 6-8 weeks, CdnMum0f4.

It is the norm.

[youretooloud]

I know I would have given anything to have a Maternity system like Canadas....

Unfortunately ALL my DCK's start at 6-8 weeks, CdnMum0f4.

It is the norm.

I've had kids start at less than two weeks old.

[Qpmomma]

Just a few months ago my pedi told me to have my baby sleep in her carseat when she had a cold to drain the fluid. And what about when theysleep in the car for car rides?? I drive an hour one way to get to work and my baby takes her naps then. What should I do? Pull over and wake her up? Truth is, you can do everything "right" and stil have a baby die of it. In fact, some experts tell you to have the baby sleep in thier own bed yo prevent it and some tell you the best thing is co-sleeping. No one knows what causes SIDS.

[nannyde]

Just a few months ago my pedi told me to have my baby sleep in her carseat when she had a cold to drain the fluid. And what about when theysleep in the car for car rides?? I drive an hour one way to get to work and my baby takes her naps then. What should I do? Pull over and wake her up? Truth is, you can do everything "right" and stil have a baby die of it. In fact, some experts tell you to have the baby sleep in thier own bed yo prevent it and some tell you the best thing is co-sleeping. No one knows what causes SIDS.

I wouldn't have a baby sleep in a seat sitting up for a cold to drain the fluid.

If a baby sleeps in a car then of course you are not going to wake them up. I don't know of a case where a baby has died of sids during a car ride. It's not really sids we are talking about anyway... it's positional asphyxia.

https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12964&highlight=jutting

We DO know about things that increase a baby's liklihood of dying during sleep. That's where the back to sleep campaign began. It's saved many infant lives.

We do the best with what we know.

[Blackcat31]

I know I would have given anything to have a Maternity system like Canadas....

Unfortunately ALL my DCK's start at 6-8 weeks, CdnMum0f4.

It is the norm.

OT, but Catherder you'd be out of business in Czech. I have a mom from there and she said the government pays you to stay home with your child for up to 3 full years! This applies to mom AND dad or a combination of both. There are no childcare there and your employer cannot fire you or dissolve your job.

It is sad that the most industrialized nation in the world has the poorest maternity (paternity) leave plan.

I've taken them in past years at 6 weeks and once when I first open, got special permission to take an infant (of a family member) at 4 days old!!

Now I try to limit the age to a minimum of 12 months.

[Cat Herder]

OT, but Catherder you'd be out of business in Czech. I have a mom from there and she said the government pays you to stay home with your child for up to 3 full years! This applies to mom AND dad or a combination of both. There are no childcare there and your employer cannot fire you or dissolve your job.

It is sad that the most industrialized nation in the world has the poorest maternity (paternity) leave plan.

I would so LOVE to be put out of business by parents being able to be with their kids!!!

I cannot imagine how my life would have been if I did not have to work for the first three years of my childrens lives. That is like a dream world of glitter and unicorns IMHO....::::::

I am creative enough to find another way to make an income but I will never get that lost time with my babies back.

[laundrymom]

Just a few months ago my pedi told me to have my baby sleep in her carseat when she had a cold to drain the fluid. And what about when theysleep in the car for car rides?? I drive an hour one way to get to work and my baby takes her naps then. What should I do? Pull over and wake her up? Truth is, you can do everything "right" and stil have a baby die of it. In fact, some experts tell you to have the baby sleep in thier own bed yo prevent it and some tell you the best thing is co-sleeping. No one knows what causes SIDS.

They are actually coming very close to figuring it out. and the vibration from the car keep them arroused enough while car is in motion to help reduce sids. Its when they are sitting, still in a seat, inclined. That is not recommended. Back to sleep, every nap, every nighttime, back to sleep is the safest place for them. Ive not heard of an expert in sids research say cosleeping in the same bed is useful for reducing sids. But Id like to read the research. They do recommend if you must co sleep, to do it in a co room, not a co bed. infants sleeping IN an adult bed raises the risk for sids signifigantly. I plead with everyone to educate themselves on the latest research, keep informed, find local trainings, educate everyone you can. The best defense against sids is prevention.

[Cat Herder]

Thank You Laundrymom.

It wears me out mentally talking about SIDS. I am glad you are here.

[sahm2three]

No idea because I have a 1 year old like that and a 5 month old too. It has been a rough day. I will have to take time to read the responses for this. I hope there is something to help us both!

[jen2651]

Please do check your sleeping regs. In MN babies must be in a pac and play or crib (to be changing soon). If they fall asleep in the swing, carseat etc, you need to place them in their designated space. The ONLY thing a parent can sign off on is you are able to place them on their tummies...not in a carseat etc. If a baby has reflux, you need to put a wedge under their mattress. If they need the vibration, you need to set your pac adn play on top of the vibrating chair...

SIDS is a horrible thing. I can't but help wonder how many of the lives saved are due to back sleeping or just becoming more knowledgeable on different things such as smoking, smoking in the house, better food for baby and mama etc? Not trying to dispute the significant drop in SIDS rates....just curious.

[DaisyMamma]

I've had kids start at less than two weeks old.

Oh my, don't parents want to enjoy their infants?
that's just wrong. those will be the same parents who drop their kids off for 12 hours even when they have the day off

[Cat Herder]

SIDS is a horrible thing. I can't but help wonder how many of the lives saved are due to back sleeping or just becoming more knowledgeable on different things such as smoking, smoking in the house, better food for baby and mama etc? Not trying to dispute the significant drop in SIDS rates....just curious.

It is multiple things, like you said, Jen. Along with temperature regulation, mammalian dive reflex, toys and bedding in the crib, positional asphyxia, prenatal care, smoking near infants, etc, etc, etc...

My kids were part of the actual "Back to Sleep" study after I lost my first son to SIDS at 6 months old, breastfed, full-term, non-smoke environment and able to roll independantly....

They were also on apnea-bradycardia monitors for their fist 12 months to further collect data. Blood tests, sleep studies, heat studies, sudden loud noise studies etc...it was long, time consuming and tedious.

The difference in how we put babies to sleep is in the fact that we are caring for someone Else's child...not our own.

I know my former provider still drops things in the grocery store if she sees me walk through the door 21 years later. I have witnessed her walk into a door trying to hide from me at the movies. She almost miscarried her own child during the investigation. Her marriage did not survive it. That is just not something I'd ever wish on any of you.

Go by the book so you can sleep at night if it happens in your daycare, that is the point I want to convey. YKWIM?

[laundrymom]

Cat,.... Sending you love.