Creepy Dad

[E Daycare]

Apparently some parents dont realize you arent walmart. I dont even walk into my own families homes without knocking first.

I like the bell idea and will soon be hanging some from my door knob. I dont have any issues but if we are in the kitchen sometimes I cant hear the door open. Its nice not to be surprised, especially if Im stuffing a huge piece of watermelon in my mouth, or picking a wedgie. LOL ::

[snowborden1]

My husband just called him and let him know he must knock before he comes in. So thankful for hubby being my backbone! If he does it again I'm gonna have to say adios. I should feel safe in my own home and starting around noon I don't as he comes anytime from noon - 5:30 (as he only works a couple days a week and is at home most the time).

Sorry, didn't mean to post this unregistered

[dEHmom]

i agree with all the suggestions on here.

however, i have a different policy.
my doors are locked during the day when i have dck's but normally my doors are open.

honestly, everyone we know, family, friends etc, they give a quick tap tap on the door and in they come. we've always had this and i've told dcp's the as long as they aren't picking up at an abnormal time, the door will be open and they can come in.

one time though, i think the hottie dcd my have walked in while i was scratching my butt hahahah!!!! jk. i was scratching my lower back by right on the pant line. i was standing in my bathtub looking out the window and brushing my teeth. he was about 10 mins earlier than usual, and when i turned around he was standing in the living room (direct view to bathroom window from front door).

actually, when people knock and the door doesn't open right away, we often don't answer, we'll sneakily check who is there, but usually don't bother because the ones who knock are the ones you don't want to open your door too.

i live in a small town recently turned into a city, and i'm not saying bad things can't or don't happen, but it's very unlikely.

if i had a creepy dad though, i would definitely DEFINITELY keep my doors locked. I would then be creeped that he would be watching through a window though. if he is bold enough to sneak around your house while you are home, i don't think i'd put it past him to lurk in windows.

[snowborden1]

Apparently some parents dont realize you arent walmart. I dont even walk into my own families homes without knocking first.

I like the bell idea and will soon be hanging some from my door knob. I dont have any issues but if we are in the kitchen sometimes I cant hear the door open. Its nice not to be surprised, especially if Im stuffing a huge piece of watermelon in my mouth, or picking a wedgie. LOL ::

LOL!!! Too funny!!! But so true!!!::

[missnikki]

I'm glad your hubs stepped in and handled it. I was curious what he thought of this guy? Did he make the call because you asked him to, or is he as suspicious as you are?

I hope this guy knocks from now on. Thanks, hubs!

[snowborden1]

I'm glad your hubs stepped in and handled it. I was curious what he thought of this guy? Did he make the call because you asked him to, or is he as suspicious as you are?

I hope this guy knocks from now on. Thanks, hubs!

He can't stand the guy from the beginning. He has been wanting to say something but was waiting for me to give him the okay I've had enough. Yeah, BIG thanks Hubs!!!! I should have let him say something sooner.

[missnikki]

He can't stand the guy from the beginning. He has been wanting to say something but was waiting for me to give him the okay I've had enough. Yeah, BIG thanks Hubs!!!! I should have let him say something sooner.

This guy riles feathers of all the men, huh? Michael even admitted it. I would be keeping a very close eye on him and be very careful to not give any flirty or suggestive signals In fact I would be wearing a mumu and have my hair in curlers at pickup time. Might even consider getting some broccoli stuck in my teeth...

[Country Kids]

Question here-are you allowed to lock your front doors if it is designated as a emergency exit? We have to have posted evacuation plans with our paths drawn out. My front door and back door are both marked as an emergency exit so I don't think legally I would be able to lock those. Also if there was an emergency with me and the front door was locked my kids wouldn't understand or be able to unlock the door for help.

[snowborden1]

This guy riles feathers of all the men, huh? Michael even admitted it. I would be keeping a very close eye on him and be very careful to not give any flirty or suggestive signals In fact I would be wearing a mumu and have my hair in curlers at pickup time. Might even consider getting some broccoli stuck in my teeth...

Hahahaha!!!! I might just have to do that! But, yeah I have always gotten a vibe that I really need to watch myself around him. Hubby said he knows his type and to let him know if the guy ever says or does anything inappropriate.
The dcm just came in and apologized and was obviously very embarrassed. Allthough I don't think she realized he was sneaking in until I mentioned it. She was apologizing for him just walking in. Eeeek!

[broncomom1973]

It sounds like your hubby took care of the problem. I used to have a dcm who would sneek in and watch whatever was going on. I didnt like it at all. It was creepy- turning around and having someone standing across the room for who knows how long. Initially I bought a driveway alert and it would alert me whenever someone would pull in the driveway. It worked great, but then I decided to just lock my door. I have always been a person to keep my door locked. I sent out a letter to parents explaining they were free to stop by whenever to see their children, but the door would be locked at all times other than drop-off and pick-up.

[nannyde]

Question here-are you allowed to lock your front doors if it is designated as a emergency exit? We have to have posted evacuation plans with our paths drawn out. My front door and back door are both marked as an emergency exit so I don't think legally I would be able to lock those. Also if there was an emergency with me and the front door was locked my kids wouldn't understand or be able to unlock the door for help.

Ugh the emergency exit thing... I've heard there are some regs that require this.

I look at it like this. None of my daycare parents leave their doors unlocked at night and they are sleeping while their kid is in the house.

It's not perfect but the unlocked door is a real obvious safety issue.

[gkids09]

In my state, rules are that doors can be locked IF and only if they can be UNlocked and opened in one motion...In other words, a push lock can be used because all you have to do is turn the doorknob and it will unlock and open in one motion. BUT a turn lock (don't know what else to call it...) can't be used because you would first have to turn the lock to unlock, and then turn the knob to open the door...kwim?

My accountant has a bell hanging above his door, so when you open the door, it bumps the bell and alerts him that someone has walked in. My sister is a first grade teacher and found a bracelet with bells on it. She put it around the doorknob at school, so when anyone turns her doorknob she hears it.

I don't blame you for asking your hubby to say something to this guy. We had a creepy dad at one point. He would literally stick around until he saw me. I finally had to start going to another room to hide and the other teachers would shoo him out the door. Can't imagine what you feel like being alone like that! Hope your hubby's talk with him helps!

[MarinaVanessa]

I dont know if this would work or not but there's a door handle made by Shlage (spelling?) that I've been thinking about getting that allows you to keep the door unlocked from the inside but locked on the outside KWIM? It also has a keypad entry where you can give each individual parent their own access code and then "lock them out" during non daycare hours. It gives off a sort of "beep beep beep" sound when it's being unlocked but I'm not sure how loud it really is or whether or not you'd be able to hear it unless you were in the same room as the front door but just the idea of being able to keep my door locked to everyone else except my DC parents almost makes it worth the $300 smackers it would set me back. Just to add to it, you can choose to pay a $10 or so a month fee and set it up so it gives you reports of what access codes are punched in at what time which would eliminate my need for a sign in sheet. Im one of those that always carries my phone on my person at all times and so another feature it has is sending alerts to your smart phone when someone punches in their code so if I were in the backyard and someone came in and used their code it would alert me as to who it was.

Funny thing is that my hunny's family is always coming and going here also but use our key pad code on our garage to get in and I never really know who is coming or going so this is another reason why I want the front door keypad . I want to change the code to the garage and have them use the front door from now on and be able to see who is coming in even when we are not home

Not sure if this will help any of those out there that can't lock their doors or not but hopefully someone can find it useful.

[grandmom]

My regs say two exits must remain unlocked. I hate that rule.

I feel for you. He sounds creeepy.

[Lucy]

So I have had this one baby in my care for a year now and I just love him, his mother, and older brother. But his dad gives me the creeps. First off I have no problem with parents coming in on their own to pick up there children... it actually is nicer. But this one dad sneaks in as quiet as he can. There has been several occasions when I have come out of the kitchen to seeing him standing in the living room staring. Once he was standing in the entry way to the kitchen watching me and I had no idea. The amazing thing is is how QUIET he is. My dog barks at EVERY little sound... I mean EVERYTHING. But he can sneak in so quiet the dog has no idea!!! I need advice ladies. I am so not comfortable with this. Thanks so much!!!

Am I having deja vu? Wasn't this exact story posted before? LOL. Maybe it's just me.

I would keep the door locked. That's just too creepy.