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So I have had this one baby in my care for a year now and I just love him, his mother, and older brother. But his dad gives me the creeps. First off I have no problem with parents coming in on their own to pick up there children... it actually is nicer. But this one dad sneaks in as quiet as he can. There has been several occasions when I have come out of the kitchen to seeing him standing in the living room staring. Once he was standing in the entry way to the kitchen watching me and I had no idea. The amazing thing is is how QUIET he is. My dog barks at EVERY little sound... I mean EVERYTHING. But he can sneak in so quiet the dog has no idea!!! I need advice ladies. I am so not comfortable with this. Thanks so much!!!
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I would invest in one of those door bell chimes that ding when the door opens. I am having a problem with a family lurking outside listening for awhile before they come in. Im fine with observation but dont hide and do it. -
I've never felt comfortable with people coming into my house without me letting them in. Maybe you could just change your policy, keep the door locked and have them knock on the door? I know that it will make your dogs bark (it makes my 3 bark!) but if this guy creeps you out, then I think it's worth it.
If they ask why the change, just explain that you thought about it and don't want to leave your door unlocked anymore, simply as a safety precaution. You never know who might just walk right in
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I think I will do both these things! Thanks ladies!!!Comment
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NO WAY
Lock your door and tell him the reason you are doing it is because he has been able to come in your home without detection. If he can so can anyone else.
The idea that a parent can come in your house unnanounced is so rediculous to me. THIS IS WHY.
Do you think the other daycare parents would be cool with him doing this? Being around their kid and you not even know he was in the house?
My dcp's would FLIP OUT if I allowed this.Comment
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I've never had a problem with my parents just walking in. One mother even had a key to my house. BUT, I would have a big problem with somebody lurking in my house without me knowing it. I would either lock the door, or put a bell on the door so you know when he is in your house.
If any of your parents question it, just simply tell them that it's for the safety of the children.Comment
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So would it be chicken of me to have my husband talk to the guy to tell him the problem? I want to address it but just am a bit chicken myself.
snowborden1Last edited by Michael; 05-11-2011, 05:10 PM.Comment
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Lock the door
I used to leave my door unlocked when I first started doing daycare until one of the parents used to freely walk in and freak me out like that too. I realized that if he could just walk in - then ANYONE could. So I changed my policy and started locking my door. I told the parents that I have an open-door policy - meaning they can come by anytime unannounced and to simply knock and I will quickly let them in. I keep the doors locked for the security and protection of all of our children. Nobody questioned it and I'm sure they appreciate the door being secure and nobody able to walk in. My creepy dad still would try to open the door at times! He was a weirdoh too. I finally told him that its always locked and to just knock and then he cut it out. Creepy dads are the worst!
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I think he senses your timidity. He is a fox in the chicken house. I think he actually enjoys the idea of having access to your home. For him to show you that he can be in your house without you knowing is empowering to him. I would let him know he can not treat you and your home that way. Have you husband make a point of it. I would not be nice about it either. Let him know he's crossed a line.Comment
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My husband just called him and let him know he must knock before he comes in. So thankful for hubby being my backbone! If he does it again I'm gonna have to say adios. I should feel safe in my own home and starting around noon I don't as he comes anytime from noon - 5:30 (as he only works a couple days a week and is at home most the time).Comment
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EXACTLY right.
The thing is that this provider has cared for the kid for a year. After a year of good service, what is the point of showing up and sneaking quietly in?
It can't be to just randomly check the safety of the kid. Just showing up unnanounced sends that message loud and clear. Showing up down the hall with the provider not even knowing how long you have been there????????? That motive is NOT the safety or care of the kid... specially not after a year of service.Comment
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wow that is creepy!
i would go about it a different way.
i would send out a memo to all families stating that for saftey issues you will be locking the door at all times. Also ask all parents to lock the door behind them when they leave. Give it a few days and then see if the DCD is still acting creepy. If so then I would confrot him right away.
one of my kids moms BF comes to pick up the son and he always tries to open my front door before knocking. He said to me one time hey this is a busniess you need to leave that door unlocked. I said no way not going to happen. Told him that it remained locked for saftey reason for the kids. he then understood. However, a few times when other parents did not lock the door behind them, he walked right in. I told him that I needed him to make himself known before entering. He never did it againComment
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I wouldn't talk to anybody about it ahead of time but I would definitely LOCK YOUR DOORS. If he asks tell him it is for the safety of your dc children.
That guy is a weirdo.Comment
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Yeah that is creepy!! I personally have my door locked at all times. If it's nice out and the door is open then the screen doors are locked. I had too many daycare parents walking in my home and disregarding the fact that it was STILL a HOME!
The final straw for me was on a Saturday evening a friend and I were watching TV in the living room around 8:30 pm and we hear the door open. In steps a DCD saying "Yo wuz up I finally got your payment today". WTH?? I was so shocked I didn't know what to say at 1st. I took the payment and was speechless. Finally I said "u know daycare hours are Monday thru Friday only AND I close at 6:30. It's now 8:30 on a SATURDAY and u just walk in my home?" He said "oh girl my bad I do that to everyone no biggie" I reply with "Yes sir it is a biggie this is my private home and my private time! please don't ever walk in my home again, knock and I will gladly answer." I got the "aight aight my bad" UGH I greatly disliked that man with his gold teeth and his giant gold dollar sign bling hanging from his neck the size of his head! They moved away soon after thank goodness!Comment
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