Just Ooooh!!!

[seashell]

I had a DCD to something similar. My daughter had made cupcakes for her baseball team. She had EXACTLY enough for each girl on the team. DCD came in for pick up and went to the kitchen to get his son's stuff. I hear him in the kitchen saying, "OHHH the cupcakes look good." I am in the living room with the kids and and reply something to the effect of "Don't they? Becky made them for her baseball team." A few minutes later, he comes out of the kitchen with his son's stuff, popping the last bit of cupcake in his mouth. He looks at me and says "I couldn't resist" with a big smile. I responded "I wish you would have. She had exactly enough and now she isn't going to have a cupcake for herself after the game." His response? "Im sure you can make some more." I respond, "I could, but I won't be able to watch her game then". He just smiles and says goodnight. GRRRRRR!

[PitterPatter]

I had a DCD to something similar. My daughter had made cupcakes for her baseball team. She had EXACTLY enough for each girl on the team. DCD came in for pick up and went to the kitchen to get his son's stuff. I hear him in the kitchen saying, "OHHH the cupcakes look good." I am in the living room with the kids and and reply something to the effect of "Don't they? Becky made them for her baseball team." A few minutes later, he comes out of the kitchen with his son's stuff, popping the last bit of cupcake in his mouth. He looks at me and says "I couldn't resist" with a big smile. I responded "I wish you would have. She had exactly enough and now she isn't going to have a cupcake for herself after the game." His response? "Im sure you can make some more." I respond, "I could, but I won't be able to watch her game then". He just smiles and says goodnight. GRRRRRR!

OMG that is even WORSE than mine!!!

I swear I will never understand the nerve of some people! Balls of steel I tell ya!

[QualiTcare]

i wouldn't call a parent if their kid was crying over sausage even though they were crying bc the mom took it. really, in the grand scheme of things, it's not that big of a deal to drag it out that far. instead of crying over spilled milk he was crying over stolen sausage. tear a piece off, give it to him, move on little buddy. it's just food.

[nannyde]

His response? "Im sure you can make some more." I respond, "I could, but I won't be able to watch her game then". He just smiles and says goodnight. GRRRRRR!

YIKES that one is bad.

[Meeko]

i wouldn't call a parent if their kid was crying over sausage even though they were crying bc the mom took it. really, in the grand scheme of things, it's not that big of a deal to drag it out that far. instead of crying over spilled milk he was crying over stolen sausage. tear a piece off, give it to him, move on little buddy. it's just food.

I'm afraid i don't agree on you with this one.

If a day care child was kicking you daily.....would you just ignore it because in the grand scheme of things, it really didn't hurt that much?

When you don't say anything it's as good as saying it's OK with you.

The parent in this case is rude, bossy, uncaring and treats the day care provider like dirt. If she doesn't say anything, then she's telling the parents that she is perfectly OK with the way she is treated.

She's deserves better than that and the parent NEEDS to be told her behavior is not acceptable.

I am quite sure you would not let a child go on kicking you daily because you didn't want to "make waves" This day care provider is being "kicked" on a regular basis...and by an adult!

That is never OK.

[Meeko]

OMG that is even WORSE than mine!!!

I swear I will never understand the nerve of some people! Balls of steel I tell ya!

"I'm sure you can make some more" .....

"I'll get right on it. Of course I won't be able to tend your son at the same time...so take him home and I'll call you when I'm finished making the cup cakes"....

[QualiTcare]

I'm afraid i don't agree on you with this one.

If a day care child was kicking you daily.....would you just ignore it because in the grand scheme of things, it really didn't hurt that much?

When you don't say anything it's as good as saying it's OK with you.

The parent in this case is rude, bossy, uncaring and treats the day care provider like dirt. If she doesn't say anything, then she's telling the parents that she is perfectly OK with the way she is treated.

She's deserves better than that and the parent NEEDS to be told her behavior is not acceptable.

I am quite sure you would not let a child go on kicking you daily because you didn't want to "make waves" This day care provider is being "kicked" on a regular basis...and by an adult!

That is never OK.

allowing a child to kick you is in no way comparable to calling a parent because a child is crying over a piece of sausage. especially after she already addressed the issue with the parent. it was then time to address it with the child which she did by making another piece. it has nothing to do with not wanting to make "waves" - where did that come from? it has to do with picking your battles. i wouldn't choose to have a battle over a piece of sausage. i would've said something to the parent (which she did) but i would not drag it out and call the parent to say "johnny is still crying bc you ate his sausage." that's just weird. if i had to guess i would say that some sausage was thown in the trash after breakfast was finished. i would hate to think what would happen if a piece fell in the floor. geez.

[Meeko]

allowing a child to kick you is in no way comparable to calling a parent because a child is crying over a piece of sausage. especially after she already addressed the issue with the parent. it was then time to address it with the child which she did by making another piece. it has nothing to do with not wanting to make "waves" - where did that come from? it has to do with picking your battles. i wouldn't choose to have a battle over a piece of sausage. i would've said something to the parent (which she did) but i would not drag it out and call the parent to say "johnny is still crying bc you ate his sausage." that's just weird. if i had to guess i would say that some sausage was thown in the trash after breakfast was finished. i would hate to think what would happen if a piece fell in the floor. geez.

I think the problem is that the woman thought it was nothing. Truth is...it was stepping waaaay over boundaries. It's just common decency not to walk into someone's home and help yourself to food without being asked. It IS a big deal. She brushed it off and just didn't get it. If the provider were to call her...maybe...just maybe...she would see how inappropriate she was. It would just be the providers way of making a point.

Sometimes these parents need to be hit with a verbal two by four before they get the point.!

If I had just let thing slide when parents treated me badly (and believe me over the past 25 years they have tried a plenty) I would have ended up quiting day care years ago. I didn't do day care to put myself up to being walked all over.

It's easier to just **** it up and move on at the time......but it's just BEGGING parents to take advantage over and over again.

[PitterPatter]

A verbal 2x4
:: Yep that sounds about right!!

Actually that morning no sausage was wasted they ate every bite. They did however waste some of the pancakes. In my house the 1st thing to get eaten off of their plates is the fruit then the meat. The bread items are usually left if any.

[Blackcat31]

I think the problem is that the woman thought it was nothing. Truth is...it was stepping waaaay over boundaries. It's just common decency not to walk into someone's home and help yourself to food without being asked. It IS a big deal. She brushed it off and just didn't get it. If the provider were to call her...maybe...just maybe...she would see how inappropriate she was. It would just be the providers way of making a point.

Sometimes these parents need to be hit with a verbal two by four before they get the point.!

If I had just let thing slide when parents treated me badly (and believe me over the past 25 years they have tried a plenty) I would have ended up quiting day care years ago. I didn't do day care to put myself up to being walked all over.


It's easier to just **** it up and move on at the time......but it's just BEGGING parents to take advantage over and over again.

I think what QualitT was trying to say was by calling mom you would be dragging the kid into the respect issue that is happening between the provider and the mom. Calling the mom would have made it worse for the kid so why not treat it as if a sausage fell on the floor for the kids sake and move on.

The provider calling mom would have served no purpose. It wouldn't have made mom feel bad since she already addressed the issue and shared her thoughts on the matter by saying to simply short her kid a sauage, so if anything it may have made the provider feel better but wouldn't have been a solution in any way.

The provider needs to address the issue of disrespect (not sausages) with mom at a time where they can talk and discuss what needs to change in their relationship at which time if the provider wants to she can tell mom that her actions effect her child long after she is gone.

[Meeko]

I think what QualitT was trying to say was by calling mom you would be dragging the kid into the respect issue that is happening between the provider and the mom. Calling the mom would have made it worse for the kid so why not treat it as if a sausage fell on the floor for the kids sake and move on.

The provider calling mom would have served no purpose. It wouldn't have made mom feel bad since she already addressed the issue and shared her thoughts on the matter by saying to simply short her kid a sauage, so if anything it may have made the provider feel better but wouldn't have been a solution in any way.

The provider needs to address the issue of disrespect (not sausages) with mom at a time where they can talk and discuss what needs to change in their relationship at which time if the provider wants to she can tell mom that her actions effect her child long after she is gone.

Yes I can see your point. However....I think this mom is too far gone in the manners department to pay any attention!!!