Just Ooooh!!!

[momofboys]

I actually started putting gates up to deter another DCM who likes to walk around my house chatting on her cell phone. It has been working!! However, this DCM just steps over the gates. At 1st I didn't mind too much because it was to throw away the ****ers and candy bars she allowed the child to eat on the way to daycare. She finally did listen to my repeated requests not to bring food to daycare. Now she takes it off of him when she gets in the door and goes and throws it away. After this though I am stopping by the store to get a little garbage can for the front entry so that she can toss it there. Such a shame the constant changes that have to be made for silly things.

I have to go buy a gate too, for the front porch today because another DCM always lets her kids (2 and 3) run down the porch/deck and get into things before even ringing the doorbell. I have repeatedly asked her to control them when arriving. Today I had yard decor nic/nacs like turtles, kids and blessing rocks etc waiting to be put in the flower bed. The 2 yr old decided he's going to throw all of the nic/nacs off onto the cement patio shatering a couple. DCM just stood there yelling stop it as he threw them. I hear the yelling and open the door and ask what's going on? She is standing at the door the kids down at the end like always. She comes in, tells me what was going on and says "he broke some sorry". That was it. I told her I have repeatedly asked they not be permitted down to the end of the porch as I have plants herbs, and such there. I even took my folding porch chairs at 1 point and sat them across blocking access. I told her I will be buying a gate today to stop it once and for all. She looks at the kids and says "see what u made her have to do now" UGH! Some people just don't get it! Next time she will be charged for the damage!

NO! I would have insisted that she pay to replace those. She was in charge of her kids, not YOU! I would have made her pay. Sorry is not enough IMO!

[Kaddidle Care]

NO! I would have insisted that she pay to replace those. She was in charge of her kids, not YOU! I would have made her pay. Sorry is not enough IMO!

I'm with you! If you can produce a receipt for the items, give her a copy, circle the prices of the broken items and tell her she can add the $$ to tomorrow's payment or provide you with a gift card so you can replace them. If she had any tact at all she would have asked you where you bought them while she was apologizing and gone out and bought you new ones to bring with her tomorrow.

I'm glad you are caring for these children because clearly their mother hasn't got a clue.

[dEHmom]

If she had any tact at all she would have asked you where you bought them while she was apologizing and gone out and bought you new ones to bring with her tomorrow.

i'm with you on this....

i think often, if someone says in a truly sincere way, I'm so sorry, where did you buy it, i'll replace it, or something alone those lines....almost everyone would say, don't worry about it, it's not a big deal, and they would let it slide, even if it was soemthing that meant a lot to you.
but when someone just doesn't care like this dcm, it makes you angrier and angrier.

at least if she offered to replace it you could choose to say what you wanted, either yes i bought it at _________ or don't worry about it. don't let it happen again.

[Kaddidle Care]

However, this DCM just steps over the gates. At 1st I didn't mind too much because it was to throw away the ****ers and candy bars she allowed the child to eat on the way to daycare. She finally did listen to my repeated requests not to bring food to daycare. Now she takes it off of him when she gets in the door and goes and throws it away.

Give her the Mother of the Year Award!

Exactly how does this child behave after being fed sugar prior to arrival?

Like I said in a previous post, if you're giving Mom a chocolate or candy gift, let the child eat half of it 10-15 minutes prior to pick up time. Just leave it conveniently unwrapped in front of him. ::

I spoke to a parent years ago about the lunches she would pack her daughter. An example was Fluff sandwich, Kool Aid drink box and fruit snacks. The kid was literally bouncing off the wall! The mother didn't believe me at first and I got so mad that I handed the child a big handful of M&M's 15 minutes before pick up. I can take just so much stupidity on the parent's part before I react.

She felt it was OK to sugar the child up for us so I just gave her a taste of her own medicine.

Bad, I know but the kid loved it!

[PitterPatter]

Give her the Mother of the Year Award!

Exactly how does this child behave after being fed sugar prior to arrival?

:: I try really hard to get along with my clients and for the ones who pay on time and come every day I tend to be more lenient. This DCM is about 50/50 She pays on time but has other issues as I stated with being rude at times. She was finally willing to take the candy away instead of leaving and me fighting for it in front of the other parents and kids wanting 1 when they saw it. I don't like that she steps over the gate and goes into the kitchen and dining room etc BUT she is doing it to get rid of a problem. I solved that this morning by putting a garbage can in the front entry and will be solving the other DCM issue by getting a gate this weekend. I got sidetracked at another store buying flowers to get the flower bed set up so the figures can be placed.

[PitterPatter]

i'm with you on this....

i think often, if someone says in a truly sincere way, I'm so sorry, where did you buy it, i'll replace it, or something alone those lines....almost everyone would say, don't worry about it, it's not a big deal, and they would let it slide, even if it was soemthing that meant a lot to you.
but when someone just doesn't care like this dcm, it makes you angrier and angrier.

at least if she offered to replace it you could choose to say what you wanted, either yes i bought it at _________ or don't worry about it. don't let it happen again.

I totally agree! Had she offered (or anyone for that matter) I would have declined and asked that it just not be allowed to happen again. The simple "he broke some sorry" kind of response is what chapped my ass. As well as the fact she continually allows the kids to roam when I have asked at least a dozen time that she not.

I brought it up at pick up yesterday and told her he broke 1 of my favorite pieces and I will be buying a gate since she can't manage to get the kids to stay next to her until they get in the door. I also added that she MUST hold the kids hands until I open the door until I get the gate this weekend. Her reply to all of that was "ok that's cool" That's cool huh? ok so then I added, "I don't know how much the gate is going to cost because I need an extra wide one so I would appreciate any money u would like to add to help" She looked at me like I was an alien! She said "well it's YOUR porch and we don't have any money we didn't get our welfare check yet" I give up! Rude ass will NEVER get it.

[dEHmom]

advise her then, than you will be adding X amount of dollars to their regular weekly fee. or monthly whatever until at least a portion of it is paid off. even if it's 5 dollars a week. and if she decides to term instead, then say ok, the bill is in the mail.

[QualiTcare]

I would have asked the other kidds to donate one bite of their sausage so little johnny could have as close to what they have. I would have just taken off a half inch square bite from the other ones and given them to little johnny OR just taken all of them and cut them up real quick and evenly distributed them.

No need to make a new one.

I can't believe the Mom would do that.

Entitled instant gratification

yup - this. i would've taken everyone's second patty, cut them up, put them on a plate and distibuted them to the kids who finished the first one. chances are not everyone would eat all of the 2 patties anyway. i wouldn't have made another.

[Symphony]

Is sausage mom and porch mom the same person?? I don't know which would be worse, two parents in la la land or all that rudeness wrapped into one!

[PitterPatter]

Is sausage mom and porch mom the same person?? I don't know which would be worse, two parents in la la land or all that rudeness wrapped into one!

No they are 2 dif parents.

[Blackcat31]

Next time she will be charged for the damage!

In my contract it says:

Normal wear and tear is expected in childcares and I will gladly accept any costs related to replacement and repair in those situations. However, anything your child willfully destroys or damages due to inappropriate behaviors or any unsupervision by parents during drop off and/or pick up will be charged to the parent. This charge will be added to your child care bill and will be expected to be paid in full with your normal balance due before any additional services are provided.

I NEVER waiver in this area. YOUR kid breaks it and YOU pay for it. Period.

[Unregistered]

Solution;

Fix mom 2 sausages and have them in a little baggie for her, with a cute note that says; Was thinking about you as i was fixing these ENJOY.

And don't forget to put 2 ex-lax's in each one!!! (Joking but would be funny)

[jojosmommy]

I would have asked the other kidds to donate one bite of their sausage so little johnny could have as close to what they have. I would have just taken off a half inch square bite from the other ones and given them to little johnny OR just taken all of them and cut them up real quick and evenly distributed them.

No need to make a new one.

I can't believe the Mom would do that.

Entitled instant gratification

This is what I would have done BUT since that isnt what you did I would have called mom and told her that her child was STILL upset about the sausage she ate and she can explain it to him over the phone. I called a mom today b/c her son cried for over 30 min b/c she told him (on the way in) she was going to throw all his toys away b/c he was making a scene. What are people thinking now adays anyway?

[PitterPatter]

In my contract it says:

Normal wear and tear is expected in childcares and I will gladly accept any costs related to replacement and repair in those situations. However, anything your child willfully destroys or damages due to inappropriate behaviors or any unsupervision by parents during drop off and/or pick up will be charged to the parent. This charge will be added to your child care bill and will be expected to be paid in full with your normal balance due before any additional services are provided.

I NEVER waiver in this area. YOUR kid breaks it and YOU pay for it. Period.

That's what I should have. I have something like I understand the occasional breaks and they will be fogiven but if a child continuously breaks toys or causes damage to anything in my home, u as the parent will be required to pay for it. Something like that... I think I will change that now. Thanks!

See always altering and updating the handbook! I should renew them every 6 months instead fo every year!

[PitterPatter]

[QUOTE=jojosmommy;109367]This is what I would have done BUT since that isnt what you did I would have called mom and told her that her child was STILL upset about the sausage she ate and she can explain it to him over the phone. I called a mom today b/c her son cried for over 30 min b/c she told him (on the way in) she was going to throw all his toys away b/c he was making a scene. What are people thinking now adays anyway?[/QUOTE]

They do it because its the easiest way out for them. The sausage DCM ( :: now they have names) lies to her kid every morning to get out the door! I finally got almost in her face and told her she will stop immediatley or I will have to send the child home for the repeated tantrums she causes when he finds out the truth after she has left. She laughs it off and takes it as a joke but now I think she knows I am done.