Custody Reference?

[newtodaycare22]

I would be concerned that dad would want to "Get Even" and call licensing. I would call your specialist first and explain the situation.

And tell licensing what? I do my job and I do it well. Saying that a child comes to me fed and clothed appropriately does not violate my regulations.::

[Meeko]

And tell licensing what? I do my job and I do it well. Saying that a child comes to me fed and clothed appropriately does not violate my regulations.::

I think Seashell meant that you need to be ready for FALSE accusations.

It's annoying... and licensing will investigate anyway....but it will be easier if they already have the heads up that you are dealing with a difficult parent. May never happen......but it doesn't hurt to be prepared for any fallout.

[daycare]

I think Seashell meant that you need to be ready for FALSE accusations.

It's annoying... and licensing will investigate anyway....but it will be easier if they already have the heads up that you are dealing with a difficult parent. May never happen......but it doesn't hurt to be prepared for any fallout.

Ditto this..

giving LIC a heads up is always a good idea if you think that a parent will ever have room to make false accusations..

EX. I had a family that I termed due to non payment.. They were pissed off really bad. They made a huge scene.... Right after it happened i called LIC to let them know what happened and that i feel they will try to make a false report.... LIC took a report and then commended me on contacting them first. They said it happens all the time when people get termed from care.....

Just so you know, I have dealt with custody issues in the past with my own personal family. Everything single item (proof/docs) will be released to the other parent 3 days before the court hearing...So the dad will have a copy of the letter.

[QualiTcare]

I would caution you about any wording you use.

Maybe the child is happy with the mom in the morning because she just gave the child his favorite cereal on the way in the car. Maybe the child is not happy with the dad, because he insisted the child wear a seat belt.

What I'm saying is you really don't know what the child's life is like except what the parents choose to show you at drop off/pick up.

I had a family once. Clean hair, clean clothes, matching headbands, the works. Then after they had been in my care for several years, I happened to visit their home. Holes in every door. Dad, who I thought was great with the kids, had a huge temper, and destroyed the doors. We really don't know.

I've given two testimonies. Both bit me later. I'll never do it again.

my husband has broken a door or two in his time. i broke my ex's window bc he was shutting it as we were arguing and i didn't even realize how hard i hit it until it shattered and my hand was bleeding. there were no kids around. couples can fight and dads can lose their temper and still be great with the kids. just saying.