Unannounced Visit

[MamaBear]

This happened to me too

This happened to me when I first started doing daycare years ago. I had a lady call who had a definite problem understanding English. Her accent was really strong. I dont know why, but I gave her my address because she said she wanted to google where abouts I was located. I didnt even have a space available and I told her that. Well the next day she just shows up! Totally unannounced!

I didnt open the door and so she stood by her minivan with her family of like 8 people and called repeatedly from her cell phone. I just didnt answer it because I didnt want her to know I was home. I started to get scared because she wouldnt leave!!! She would walk back to her van and then come back and ring over & over.

FINALLY she got the hint and left. I listened to her voicemails and she was soooo rude! Basically yelling at me that she knows I must be home so I need to let her in to tour. WTH? NOW if this happened now, I feel like I'm a lot tougher after doing daycare for awhile. So if it happened now I would NEVER give my address to anyone UNLESS I really wanted them to sign up and was scheduling a visit. And I still dont even give them the address until they are on there way here.

That taught me a big lesson. It was scary and made me realize that I need to really consider the safety of my daycare children when regarding tours and not allow tours during my "daycare hours". You never know who is contacting you off of Craigslist or wherever. I've had families come for 2nd tours to see the kids in action - but thats after I've screened them first

[laundrymom]

How do you mean she was very pushy?

What she said!

She was an uninvited stranger demanding to see your home. I can think of all kinds of bad scenarios.

[Mom_of_two]

I always schedule an appointment. Either at 545 pm when my work day is done or during nap time.

I'd say trust your gut on the pushy. not worth it.

[kcnjason]

Unannounced Visit

You asked what I meant by "pushy"? After I let her in the front door, we visited a bit and then she slowly started walking into my kitched towards the back door, I'm sure to check out the back yard. And then without me inviting her to look at the basement, while she was closest to the gate, she acted as if she was going to open the gate to make her way down the stairs. After getting downstairs, she peeked in all of the rooms which is fine but when the baby was sleeping and she pulled the door open as she said, "can I peek at where he sleeps"? I never walk past a persons front door unless I am invited. I felt as if she was pushy....pushing to check the entire home out without my invitation.

[nannyde]

You asked what I meant by "pushy"? After I let her in the front door, we visited a bit and then she slowly started walking into my kitched towards the back door, I'm sure to check out the back yard. And then without me inviting her to look at the basement, while she was closest to the gate, she acted as if she was going to open the gate to make her way down the stairs. After getting downstairs, she peeked in all of the rooms which is fine but when the baby was sleeping and she pulled the door open as she said, "can I peek at where he sleeps"? I never walk past a persons front door unless I am invited. I felt as if she was pushy....pushing to check the entire home out without my invitation.

Well first of all... live and learn friend. You know now... in your gut... that allowing her to do this was just wrong. It felt creepy and invasive because it was.

Now don't take this the wrong way... cause I'm saying this with a pure heart... I just want you to think about this:

My day care parents would FLIP out on me if I ever allowed a total stranger in my house like that when their kid was here. I have some who I think would quit that day over a security breach like that.

Just because this woman has had two kids and can pay for or access monies for child care ... it doesn't mean she's safe.

From now on... just tell them NO you don't do unnanounced visits. For the safety of you, your family, and your dck's you do XYZ for interviewing and on site tours.