Maybe I'll Never Understand

[MsMe]

I posted a few days ago about a DCG being just on the edge of getting sent home sick...and GMA coming to town to watch her IF she got sent home from daycare.

Three days later and older brother says DCB (3) is GMA is still at their house. These children have been with me EVERY minute I have been open since she got to town and DCB is currently having one of the biggest meltdowns ever bc he wants to see GMA.

It all started when I told another DCB to go and get his shoes on bc his GMA is coming to get him tonight and she can't bend over to help with shoes. DCB hears this and started SCREAMING at me that he wants his GMA to come and pick him up. I calmly tell him hat his Mother with be here at normal pick up time and he continues to scream like a demon. He will be silent for a few minutes and then scream "I want GMA J***" I feel terrible for him.

You can tell me kids like routine untill you are blue in the face but kids also like a special day where they feel like they get extra time with the ones they love. This child NEVER gets that and even at 3 he sees that others do and is starting to act out when he is always left behind. This is not the case with this family that it isnt possible, the chose not to and it is heartbreaking!

[Unregistered]

Tell them what is going on and how he feels, and help him tell them too. They may want things to be as normal as possible for him. It is really hard to guess what goes on when you are not there. It might also be not a good idea for him to be alone with GM who can't bend over for too long alone.

[MsMe]

Tell them what is going on and how he feels, and help him tell them too. They may want things to be as normal as possible for him. It is really hard to guess what goes on when you are not there. It might also be not a good idea for him to be alone with GM who can't bend over for too long alone.

I did tell them tonight how upset he got when he heard about the other GMA. I always tell them in a way that make me an impartial observer without judgement. In this case GMA is on the younger side and in DCM own words...."is like me and likes lots of time to herself."

I know everyone has their own way and their is nothing I can/nor should there be i can do about it. I just breaks my heart to see this boy literaly screaming for the attention he isnt getting.

[daycare]

I think that is one of the hardest things that we have to deal with in our jobs is the fact that there is not much we can do about the way parents chose to parent their children... did that make sense????

[nannyde]

In this case GMA is on the younger side and in DCM own words...."is like me and likes lots of time to herself."

There it is ladies. Get used to it.

[Kaddidle Care]

We all like time to ourselves. But real parents get it after the wee ones are in bed!

[DBug]

We all like time to ourselves. But real parents get it after the wee ones are in bed!

Could I steal this and have it made into a wall plaque ??

Seriously, I have AMAZING parents that love their kids dearly. Still, I think even they need to sometimes be reminded of that!

[MsMe]

Could I steal this and have it made into a wall plaque ??

Seriously, I have AMAZING parents that love their kids dearly. Still, I think even they need to sometimes be reminded of that!

It is hard to explain but in many ways this family is AMAZING in everyother way. I know they love their children very much and have everything "thing" in place to be good, responsible, caring parents who give their children the things that they need.....I just don't think they understand their children NEED their TIME more than they need THINGS.

[Unregistered]

Why do people who need all this "time to themselves" even have kids? Did they not realize that kids need their time?
Do they just want to parent when it convenient and easy?
People who do this to their kids are just disgusting!!

[cheerfuldom]

They mostly don't realize how time consuming parenting is as in, its a full time job with no breaks. They also don't see or refuse to see that their young child is an actual person with complex needs and wants. Its easier for them to remain in the thought that if they have food and toys, that should be enough.