Potty Training...Just Not Ready?

[WImom]

I have DCG that's potty trained at home (per parents) but here has no interest really. She will stay dry as long as I take her enough times. We've been doing pull ups with underwear under them since dcd didn't want pullups just to for me to put her in underwear and I said no. (2 weeks dry here first).

It's been a month now and she still hasn't told me once she needs to go potty. Somedays she's dry all day (I think a fluke) some days I'm dealing with 2-3 times she's peed or pooped in her underwear (hasn't once gone poop on the potty, always in underwear and doesn't tell me, I smell it...)

I'm thinking of telling parents to just do pull ups here for another month or two and go back to trying again in July. I know dad won't be happy but it's taking alot of my time with this and I have 4 new kids starting in a few weeks so I'll have less time.

how to nicely tell parents? also I'm I right on this or should I keep going with the underwear?

[Meyou]

In my experience kids that are ready get it and are potty trained in a very short amount of time with very few accidents after that. Days not weeks. If she isn't going on her own she isn't ready IMO. To be potty trained in my eyes the child needs to be aware of the need to go and go without reminders. Otherwise its the parents and I that being trained to rush the child to the potty before they have an accident.

[Country Kids]

How old is the little girl? I just finished up potty training one that turned 3 and had been in pull-ups since I started her is September. She wore pull-ups and would never tell me she had to go to the bathroom/poop and I was always the one having to take her in. Well I figured she was old enough to go in and do it so I told them to start bringing her in underwear. That was probably the last week of March and she hasn't had an accident yet. I believe she was lazy with the pull-up and knew that she wouldn't be wet if she went in it. The first day in underwear she even was telling me she had to go potty. She goes in by herself and does her business even pooping and wiping herself very well. I honestly think pull-ups are just crutches for kids. My first 3 wore cloth diapers and were potty trained by two, my fourth we did disposables and it was 3 before he potty trained but it only took him a week to do it. So maybe if she is old enough try just doing the underwear thing. What seems funny is she can do it at home but not daycare?

[boysx5]

I tell all my parents to be potty trained they need to tell me they have to go on the potty I don't say it every ten minutes or I would spend my whole day in the bathroom. I have one who the family has been training for nine months she wears pull ups and just pees in them all day. I always say you can train for months or days I like doing it in days when there ready you'll know

[WImom]

She will be 3 next week. I did find out from mom that dcg wears pull ups in the car which leads me to believe she may not be as potty trained at home as they are telling me. I might try the underwear only here without telling parents just to see for a day but I have alot of carpet and not sure I want to deal with that.

[Meyou]

She doesn't sound ready at all to me.

[mac60]

I would not "try" it, it is not worth ruining your carpets. I have 1 that comes in panties everyday, and I immediately put her in a pull up over her panties......and everyday at least 1 time she pees in them. She would of peed on my carpets over 10 times in less than 2 weeks had I not had a pull up on her.

[PitterPatter]

OK So how many of u agree with "If they can't tell u they have to go potty then they are not ready."? I have 3 toddlers to train all at once and we seem to make many trips to the bathroom and be wasting a lot of time. Once in a while I will get lucky and 1 of the older toddlers will pee on the potty. But it seems to be just that, luck.

Almost 3 yr old dcb I know for a fact he gets it and I think he can do it but he's lazy. He will sometimes go and other times say "no i want to pee in my diaper" He came to me with a very limited vocab but can talk in full sentences and even sing a whole song tell a story etc.

Little over 3 1/2 yr old dcg and her 2 yr old brother don't/can't talk very well at all! I can't understand them when the do talk. They are happy here and smile laugh and play but the speech is very delayed for the ages so that makes it hard. On top of that when I ask them if they have to potty the answer is alwasy yes for dgc and huh for dcb wether they actually have to or not. I have tried to explain not to say yes unless she really has to pee and she will nod ok but then again all day yes to my Q. I can't just keep running all 3 of them to the potty every 30 minutes it's not only exhausting me but it's taking up precious learning time.

As usual with toddlers the parents want them trained ASAP so they can stop buying diapers and ask about it a few times a week. I feel like I am failing and I don't like the disapponted looks I get from 1 DCM. She claims the dcg uses her potty at night at home. I think she may be lying because when I 1st took dcg to potty here she didn't know what to do with the TP. Afterwards I put her diaper back on and she ran out of the room. I called her back in telling her she has to flush and wash her hands. She just held her hands out like she didn't understand. I had to show her step by step so either this DCM is lying to me and making me do all the work or she us at the very least not teaching proper hygene habits.

So I was wondering since they can't tell me they have to potty are the really ready? I try to stay on the DCG more often because I have never seen an almost 4 yr old girl still in diapers.

[cheerfuldom]

I have parents bring pull ups until child can go accident free (including naps) for several days straight and thats here at daycare where I can see it for myself. Don't try and "say it nicely" otherwise the parent will think it is an option. Let them know that they can bring pull ups or you can provide them and charge them for it.