I Hate When They Are Slow To Leave

[DancingQueen]

I have a daycare mom who struggles with getting her dd out of here. I think a lot of it has to do with not wanting to cause a scene in front of people. I'm fine with the scene. I'd rather you dragged her out of here kicking and screaming than let her play you for 20 minutes!

Happened again Monday when we were outdoors playing at pick up time. Drives me batty.

so now I drag her to the car for mom (who is carrying an infant in a car seat at the same time). I told mom "I'm OK if she kicks me, I'd rather she understood that when you told her it was time to go then it was time to go."

Mom seemed put off by it but seemed to get it at the same time.

How do you handle these situations?

[BentleysBands]

Been there done that and I also dreaded pickups. I tried everything and nothing worked.the parents I have now r awesome in everyway. I'd love to hear others advice tho

[kitkat]

I would have done the same exact thing! Hopefully Mom gets it. I'm sure she will if you have to do that a few more times. I also warn the kids that when mom gets here, it's time to go...no more playing, put your toys away, and go home.

[PitterPatter]

I have a daycare mom who struggles with getting her dd out of here. I think a lot of it has to do with not wanting to cause a scene in front of people. I'm fine with the scene. I'd rather you dragged her out of here kicking and screaming than let her play you for 20 minutes!Happened again Monday when we were outdoors playing at pick up time. Drives me batty.

so now I drag her to the car for mom (who is carrying an infant in a car seat at the same time). I told mom "I'm OK if she kicks me, I'd rather she understood that when you told her it was time to go then it was time to go."

Mom seemed put off by it but seemed to get it at the same time.

How do you handle these situations?

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I had the same problem and got a lot of relpies from the group here. So now I TRY to have coats on ready at the door with the sign out sheet on a clipboard. Nope not working well. Mother squeezes past me and just starts a convo. If it's about the kids I engage but when it's gossip or complaining about her life I just say oh sorry to hear that and open the screen door back up trying to get the hint across since me telling her I have to get dinner etc doesn't sink in. After DCM squeezed had past me the kids now have the oportunity to take off back through the house and get toys out as I stand on my porch with the screen door open waiting.... and the drama continues. I wish I had some advise for u but I'm lost here as well.

[TBird]

These are the kids/parents where if you're outside and you see them coming down the street, you RUN to their car with the kid and take the entire process out of their hands. If you're inside, it's the same thing...keep one eye on the window and have them READY at the door (push them through the crack while telling the parent about their day), LOL!!! If none of that works...GOTTA RUN, BYE!!!

[mickey2]

I don't put up with it! No hoochy cooing for any length of time at drop off in the am and at pick up if mom or dad do not have control of their kids I take over. I have had to do it once or twice but now I have no problems.

I flat out tell them at interviews I DO NOT allow drama or drawn out pickup or drop off times.
Make it short and quick!

[PitterPatter]

These are the kids/parents where if you're outside and you see them coming down the street, you RUN to their car with the kid and take the entire process out of their hands. If you're inside, it's the same thing...keep one eye on the window and have them READY at the door (push them through the crack while telling the parent about their day), LOL!!! If none of that works...GOTTA RUN, BYE!!!

Oh no summer is coming! I just remarked how I loved summer on another thread but now I do know 1 thing bad. When we are outside playing and a parent arrives for pick-up. The parent NEVER leaves!! I think there's still 1 out there in the yard from last summer

Seriously 1 would actually open the gate come in and sit down on the patio and chat. I would be telling dcb 4 I would see him tomorrow by bye and the Dad would tell him go play for a few minutes and stay there for over an hour sometimes!! I would just walk around pushing kids on the swings and even ventured to the end of the yard (125 ft out) pretending too look for butterflies with the kids. There's DCD still relaxing on the patio. UGH!!

[TBird]

I think there's still 1 out there in the yard from last summer

OMG, STILL LAUGHING!!! Please don't say things like this...it's nap time here!!!::::::::::::::::

[ninosqueridos]

https://www.daycare.com/nannyde/the-dynamic-of-bad-behavior-in-daycare.htm

Nannyde has a great way to handle pickups and dropoffs in the "buh bye outside" section of this article linked above. If you're already outside, you could use the "gate" as your "door."

[cheerfuldom]

so hilarious. I don't let parents hang out period. I have everyone ready to go, hand parent the bag and push kiddo out the door and then shut the door. One mom wouldnt take the bag in effort to chat longer so I put the bag on the porch and closed the door. see ya! I have some that are in my front yard for awhile trying to wrastle kiddo into the car seat but thats not my problem. They leave a lot faster when I force them to.

[TBird]

One mom wouldnt take the bag in effort to chat longer so I put the bag on the porch and closed the door. see ya!

BWAAAAAAAAAAA HA HA HA HA HA!!! I swear you guys are in rare form today...::::::::::::::::

[MamaBear]

I don't put up with it! No hoochy cooing for any length of time at drop off in the am and at pick up if mom or dad do not have control of their kids I take over. I have had to do it once or twice but now I have no problems.

I flat out tell them at interviews I DO NOT allow drama or drawn out pickup or drop off times.
Make it short and quick!

Me too! I cant stand the long drawn out drop offs and pick ups... Just drop and go... pick up and go. Give me a 'quick' report of anything I need to go and then bye bye. I have them ready to go at pick ups so theres no chaos. Sometimes I even hand over the child if there the type to run back in the house & try to play again.

I had a mom who nearly drove me crazy a few years ago that would stay for 30 minutes EVERY morning. I think she wanted to be my friend and chit-chat. Finally I had it and now they know from the tour date that I dont play that. If they dont like that type of situation, then they can choose another daycare. At least theres no surprises later and the parents dont seem to mind.

I've learned over the years that you just cant be buddies with the daycare parents... It just doesnt work for me. It makes for sticky situations. The quicker the drop offs the easier the transition is for the child. The longer the parent hangs around, the more difficult it is on the child and becomes so disruptive for everyone else. Thats what I think anyway

[morgan24]

When they won't get ready for their parents and the parents seem to want to hang around. I take over. I drop down in front of the child who is refusing to put on their coat or shoes and tell them that it's time to go. If they are old enough to put their own shoes on I hand them their shoes if not I put them on. After I'm done helping I stand up and say I have things to do see you tomorrow. Bye. When we are outside, as the parents are walking up the sidewalk I open the gate and put Junior out and close the gate and lock it and sit down on my swing. They usually get the hint after a couple of times.

[DancingQueen]

with my random pick up times it gets tricky. I can't say "time for you to get out of my yard" when I have 2 kids still needing to be picked up
But I do rather ignore the parent and play with the kids (or rake LOL) if they linger.

I used to have a mom - my latest pick up - LOVED it when she hung out - she brought me wine and we shared it every friday by the sand box.

But this is different.

[PitterPatter]

so hilarious. I don't let parents hang out period. I have everyone ready to go, hand parent the bag and push kiddo out the door and then shut the door. One mom wouldnt take the bag in effort to chat longer so I put the bag on the porch and closed the door. see ya! I have some that are in my front yard for awhile trying to wrastle kiddo into the car seat but thats not my problem. They leave a lot faster when I force them to.

OMG no u didn't!!! ::::::

What did she say?? Holy moly u got a steel backbone girlie!!

Can u make 1 of those up for me?

I am very polite and still get comments and looks like I am rude for rushing them out the door. The average DCP spends 5-15 minutes saying goodbye at pick up. To me that's 5-10 minutes too long.