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I just turned 12 weeks pregnant today. I have an interview for a 16 month old. I haven't told many people IRL including family because of my previous loss. Now I'm debating on whether or not I need to bring it up to this family tonight during their interview, and if so, how? Technically I'm over the 1st trimester "hump" but still dont know if I want to tell.. For mat leave I plan to take my two week vacation back to back after baby is born and then hire a family member or assistant a few hours a day as needed (possibly another 2 weeks)
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Until you're ready to tell IRL, I wouldn't think it necessary to tell daycare families. Just my opinion.
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I wouldn't say a word. Just like you wouldn't say anything if you went out to interview for a job outside the home. It is none of their business. Not yet anyway. Many women don't even know they are pregnant at this time.Comment
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Maybe you could let the family know that you plan on expanding your family at some point, and how you will handle maternity leave, so that they at least know it's a possibility. I started my daycare after my kids were born, so I never had to worry about this, so that's just my first thought on the subject.Comment
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I wouldn't say anything. First of all, let them tour and interview and see if you all are a good fit. THEN figure out how you will address this if you decide to take this kid. Tell ALL your DC families at the same time in the same way. Two weeks vacation and an assistant should not affect the families at all so it shouldn't be a deciding factor. You still have the trial period and months to go so a lot can happen until then.Comment
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This exactly!!
....let's say they start with you in two weeks and then two weeks later you are ready to tell the world....they might feel deceived. I think you are concerned about that too....thus this thread.
Best to mention that you plan on having another one at some point and tell them in detail about your maternity leave policy.
By the way Congratulations!!!!
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I asked a couple mommy friends and they said they'd want to know asap so they can plan accordingly for the two weeks off. But... I still don't think I'm ready to tell, but also don't want to lead them to think I'm NOT pregnant. Maybe I'll get a feel for them tonight and if we continue forward with enrollment, let them know then, so they still have an "out" time.Comment
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As hard as it may be for you, I think it would be unfair not to let them know. They may choose to find someone else if they know they will have to have back up in 6 months.
Congratulations and Best Wishes for a happy, healthy pregnancy!
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most providers take vacation time so two weeks off, for whatever reason should not be an issue. Especially since they will get months to plan a backup.Comment
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I did not tell them. If they want to enroll, I will tell them before hand that I will just be using my two weeks vacay at that time.Comment
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Yay they e-mailed me back and they want to start!! SO I sent back another e-mail saying this.... What do you think??
One other thing I want to be completely honest with you about is that I am 12 weeks pregnant. I hope this doesn't cause any problems with you wanting to bring your son here. I didn't know if I should bring it up yesterday, but I wanted to see how things went and go from there. My pregnancy with my son was very uneventful and what you would call and "easy pregnancy." I will work up until the day I go into labor which will be in late October, as I am due Oct 20th. (I may even go late- my son was 4 days late) I hope with giving you such a far in advance notice, it should not be a problem. I will take my two weeks unpaid vacation time we spoke of and use it as my "maternity leave." After the two weeks, I will possibly have my son's grandmother help out for 2 weeks or as needed thereafter. She is an RN and so thus very dependable and great with children.Comment
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I've had a couple of losses recently and I also wouldn't tell until I felt comfortable. I would have to tell my future employer in the 5th month.Comment
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what did they say after the email? I hope they end up starting anyway!Comment
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