But They Would LEAVE Early :)

[MsMe]

So we are always talking about Parents and the crazy things they say but I got a call from CCR&R yesterday that I thought I would share. Keep in mind I know this women well. She helped put together the CDA classes I took and helped me a lot in the set up of my program. She knows my program very well.

She wanted to know if I hade a spot for new family that was moving to town. I asked her what their hours would be and replied 6am to 2pm. She knows that my hours are 7:30 to 5:15 I have told here this at least 100 times. I remind her that is much too early and that family won't work for me. Her responce floored me!

CCR&R Oh sweety, I know you like your sleep but the family leave at 2pm! So they will be gone early!!

ME: Um, ya but I still have all of my other families untill 5:15 so it doesnt make my day any shorter just LONGER.

CCR&R: Well if you can't get out of bed I'll tell them you just don't have a spot.

I tried to explain to her will no sucess that not taking the family had nothing to do with my inablity to 'get up' in the morning....but I donthtignk it ever really sank in. I ended the phone call even feelign a little lazy. Although I NEVER concider taking a family outside of my hours it now make me wonder hen I get call that are for earlier or later do the families think I am lazy for having set hours? Sorry people my 10 hour days are long enough.

[Stacy214]

:: I don't blame you one bit and geesh lady, wonder how long her days are...::

[TBird]

OMG, you have GOT to be kidding!!!! I would have been SO insulted!!!! The audacity of her to even "ass"ume that you'd be in BED!!!! I am "ass"uming that maybe you have a family of your own...maybe you iron clothes in the morning (um the hot iron is dangerous to the little ones), maybe you sign permission slips, maybe you wash your smallest child, maybe you wash yourself....there are so many things you could be doing in the morning besides lying in bed. I'm sorry but this lady was out of line and had a lot of nerve acting like she knows you like that. She would have gotten an EARFUL from me!!!!

WHOO WHEE....that hit a nerve, LOL!!!!

[nannyde]

I would do the really early arrival BUT the two p.m. departure would be smack dab in the middle of nap.

I don't mind the early arrivals because they just go back to bed. I'm already up so it's fine.

I do like the days when 7:30 is my first kid but for an early out kid... I'll open my doors.

Those "six a.m. to two p.m.'s" usually are 5:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. or 3 p.m.
When they hit you with those hours and you say... okay I'll do that .. then they hit you with.. "oh those are MY work hours. I have to drop off a half hour before that and pick up a half hour after."

It's rare to find someone that does their whole work day in eight hours unless you have one parent dropping off and the other picking up.

[MsMe]

OMG, you have GOT to be kidding!!!! I would have been SO insulted!!!! The audacity of her to even "ass"ume that you'd be in BED!!!! I am "ass"uming that maybe you have a family of your own...maybe you iron clothes in the morning (um the hot iron is dangerous to the little ones), maybe you sign permission slips, maybe you wash your smallest child, maybe you wash yourself....there are so many things you could be doing in the morning besides lying in bed. I'm sorry but this lady was out of line and had a lot of nerve acting like she knows you like that. She would have gotten an EARFUL from me!!!!

WHOO WHEE....that hit a nerve, LOL!!!!

Thanks that is exaclty the way I felt. I think maybe the reason she was talking this way is because I do not have a family of my own. My Mother(my partner), friends, and very rarely DC families have a hard time understanding that ANY TIME I have outside of daycare is my own and there should be NOTHING they can say about it. I do all of the paperwork and any after hours things that need to be finished bc my Mother still has my two brothers at home. Because I have no one at home it means more then half od teh work is mine?

Nearly all of my friends have children and try to give me a hard time about sleeping in on the weekends or spending the whole weeknd at my boyfriend house (30 minutes away from mine) going out to eat, to the movies, and spend our money on our hobbies. They make comments about how they would love to go out and do fun thigns all the time.. but they just don't get to do things like that all the time being a grown-up"

EXCUSE ME? You had a child and I did not. that does NOT make you anymore of a grown-up then me!!!!!!

I will also not watch your kids all weekend because you need a break and 'I know wht I'm doing.' I need a break from my week too. If you want to go to the movies hire a babysitter and stop knocking on my door. How I spend my childfree life is non of your business and I willnot let you make me feel bad about it!!!!

[MsMe]

I would do the really early arrival BUT the two p.m. departure would be smack dab in the middle of nap.

I don't mind the early arrivals because they just go back to bed. I'm already up so it's fine.

I do like the days when 7:30 is my first kid but for an early out kid... I'll open my doors.

Those "six a.m. to two p.m.'s" usually are 5:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. or 3 p.m.
When they hit you with those hours and you say... okay I'll do that .. then they hit you with.. "oh those are MY work hours. I have to drop off a half hour before that and pick up a half hour after."

It's rare to find someone that does their whole work day in eight hours unless you have one parent dropping off and the other picking up.

i don't allow pick up durring nap time either so it would have ahd to be 3pm and I also perfer that that parents wait untill 330 if possible so we can finish snack as well. if tehy come right when we are folding up mats and blankets, going potty, and sitting down to teh table it causes even more problems then if I have to wake a sleeping child.

[Evansmom]

I'd have said "no way! 6am is when I do my yoga and if I don't get that hour I am a mess. sorry!"

Which is true for me. The part where she assumed that you were still in bed at 6am is what got me. And even if you are SO WHAT??? I'm sure you, like me and every other daycare provider, are up early and on your feet all day. I was up still cleaning the kitchen last night at 9pm so that puts my day at 15 hours. It was rude of her to comment like that like you are some lazy person who won't get up a bit earlier. Jeesh!

[cheerfuldom]

I would never do those hours and that lady had no right to make you feel bad about not accommodating the family. 1 1/2 hours added to your day is A LOT, hello?! And the thing about early pickups is that the family normally feels that it is perfectly all right to leave their kids there until after 5 because you are open anyway. Unless they are a rare family, this WILL be a problem.

[MsMe]

I would never do those hours and that lady had no right to make you feel bad about not accommodating the family. 1 1/2 hours added to your day is A LOT, hello?! And the thing about early pickups is that the family normally feels that it is perfectly all right to leave their kids there until after 5 because you are open anyway. Unless they are a rare family, this WILL be a problem.

I learned this lesson the hard way. 5 years ago they signed on when expection their first. Dad was a school teacher and would 'always be here to get Jr. right after school'. After one month I never saw Dad again. The little girl is very difficult and now their is a second. They are here ever hour I am open NO MATTER WHAT.

I now have families that promise early pickups sign a contract that states early pick up is a requirement.

[TBird]

Thanks that is exaclty the way I felt. I think maybe the reason she was talking this way is because I do not have a family of my own. My Mother(my partner), friends, and very rarely DC families have a hard time understanding that ANY TIME I have outside of daycare is my own and there should be NOTHING they can say about it. I do all of the paperwork and any after hours things that need to be finished bc my Mother still has my two brothers at home. Because I have no one at home it means more then half od teh work is mine?

Nearly all of my friends have children and try to give me a hard time about sleeping in on the weekends or spending the whole weeknd at my boyfriend house (30 minutes away from mine) going out to eat, to the movies, and spend our money on our hobbies. They make comments about how they would love to go out and do fun thigns all the time.. but they just don't get to do things like that all the time being a grown-up"

EXCUSE ME? You had a child and I did not. that does NOT make you anymore of a grown-up then me!!!!!!

I will also not watch your kids all weekend because you need a break and 'I know wht I'm doing.' I need a break from my week too. If you want to go to the movies hire a babysitter and stop knocking on my door. How I spend my childfree life is non of your business and I willnot let you make me feel bad about it!!!!

OMG, your mom must be so proud of you!!! You're designing your life around what's comfortable for YOU and not anyone else. People always have these grandios ideas about what you should be doing with your life because it's convenient for THEM!!! You're gainfully employed, obviously mature, and in a noble profession. Now that sounds more "grown up" than a lot of people I know. I hope you're either sleeping, doing yoga, eating breakfast, washing your hair or at the gym at 6AM....and the next time that lady calls you PULEEZE be ready for her!!!

[cheerfuldom]

I like the "noble profession" part well said!

[jen]

So we are always talking about Parents and the crazy things they say but I got a call from CCR&R yesterday that I thought I would share. Keep in mind I know this women well. She helped put together the CDA classes I took and helped me a lot in the set up of my program. She knows my program very well.

She wanted to know if I hade a spot for new family that was moving to town. I asked her what their hours would be and replied 6am to 2pm. She knows that my hours are 7:30 to 5:15 I have told here this at least 100 times. I remind her that is much too early and that family won't work for me. Her responce floored me!

CCR&R Oh sweety, I know you like your sleep but the family leave at 2pm! So they will be gone early!!

ME: Um, ya but I still have all of my other families untill 5:15 so it doesnt make my day any shorter just LONGER.

CCR&R: Well if you can't get out of bed I'll tell them you just don't have a spot.

I tried to explain to her will no sucess that not taking the family had nothing to do with my inablity to 'get up' in the morning....but I donthtignk it ever really sank in. I ended the phone call even feelign a little lazy. Although I NEVER concider taking a family outside of my hours it now make me wonder hen I get call that are for earlier or later do the families think I am lazy for having set hours? Sorry people my 10 hour days are long enough.

LOL! She wants to be the HERO and she wants YOU to pay the price for it!

My guess is that she is finding it difficult to find daycare that works with this family's hours in the price range the family wants to pay. She doesn't want to be their savior, ie. Look how great I am...I found these folks daycare when they couldn't do it on their own! Aren't I fabulous!

By the way, that "oh sweetie" thing wouldn't play with me at ALL. Could she be any more condescending! Good Lord!

[missnikki]

Well if you thought you knew that lady, this just proves that she is one of those types that 'friends' everyone and blurs the professional line...so much that she she probably told this family"I know this one girl who isn't open that early, but I can get her to do it, we're friends." And didn't want to look bad to the family when you said 'no'.

If she tries this again, I would jokingly say, "I picked 7:00 because my hubby and I don't wear a stitch of clothes before 6:45, it's not gonna happen."

[Childminder]

CCR&R: Well if you can't get out of bed I'll tell them you just don't have a spot.

Tell her:
My husband and I practice Tantric Sex which takes forever and that is part of the time we have set aside just for that.

[SandeeAR]

Tell her:
My husband and I practice Tantric Sex which takes forever and that is part of the time we have set aside just for that.

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