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  • cheerfuldom
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Dec 2010
    • 7413

    #31
    I hope you get everything resolved! I don't think people were saying that you shouldn't tell mom, only that you need to think carefully about what is said and if there is any benefit to saying it. Some parents want to know, are proactive about curbing the behaviors, support your plan at daycare while others....not so much. Some parents will do nothing with the information you provide and will only see it as complaining because they feel it is not their problem or aren't planning to change what they do at home anyway. You know this family and your daycare set up best so its up to you to decide what is the best way to handle this. It sounds like you are very proactive and trying to make things work for all involved. The mom sounds like she could really use the support.

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    • daycare
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      • Feb 2011
      • 16259

      #32
      I do say he had an ok day and the DCM will asked well what happened....

      so yes, she is asking me waht happened, but then is complaining to me that she doesn't want to hear it....go figure..

      I will do my best to just say... he had an ok day and not elaborate on anything else..

      I do like countrymom's idea. I will sit and talk with mom today after DC and tell her that we need to rethink the plan we set before. Yes, one thing at a time......

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      • Blackcat31
        • Oct 2010
        • 36124

        #33
        Originally posted by daycare
        I do say he had an ok day and the DCM will asked well what happened....

        so yes, she is asking me waht happened, but then is complaining to me that she doesn't want to hear it....go figure..
        I will do my best to just say... he had an ok day and not elaborate on anything else..

        I do like countrymom's idea. I will sit and talk with mom today after DC and tell her that we need to rethink the plan we set before. Yes, one thing at a time......
        Sometimes the parents are just looking for attention the same way their kiddos are.....by having contradicting behaviors LOL!!!.....I guess you can't please everyone all of the time so bottom line is: Do what works for YOU and your business. When her poo gets too deep and the problems are multiplying....just say "Good-bye, nice knowing you" and smile as she leaves knowing you did your best and that she will not find greener grass on the other side but you will be undoubtedly relieved.... Hang in there!

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        • daycare
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          • Feb 2011
          • 16259

          #34
          ...very true...

          I am hanging in there like no other... just a little history on this DCK he has beek kicked out of 8 other daycars in less than 2 years. SO mom knows that she has it good here with me. He has been here almost a year.... Longest he has ever been in one daycare in his entire life...

          He will start school this year, so I am counting the days... BUT I am also using this as a learning experience. I want to better myself by being able to accomidate all children and parents. As well as learn how to give better reports......

          again thanks so much for all of your help..

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          • jen2651
            Daycare.com Member
            • Mar 2011
            • 230

            #35
            Originally posted by MN Mom
            You know, not to start a debate here but....

            I remember (waaaaaaay back) when I was 5 or 6. I said a few naughty words to my mother and you know what I got? A mouthful of soap. I never swore at her again. She also instructed my day care lady (and close family friend) to give me a bar of soap if I start getting sassy with her....It only took the threat of "giving me the soap" and I was a perfect angel!!

            I'm not saying that DCP should be able to do this, however...because in todays society it is probably considered cruel and unusual punishment. It's more of a flashback in time, hey I remember when moment

            Carry on!!
            My mom made me brush my teeth with dawn dish soap after I said naughty words...it was horrible! Not only that but the taste of the soap stayed on your toothbrush for a good week after that. That punishment in itself was enough!

            Not that we can do that, I was just remembering how things 'used to be'!

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            • daycare
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              • Feb 2011
              • 16259

              #36
              Originally posted by jen2651
              My mom made me brush my teeth with dawn dish soap after I said naughty words...it was horrible! Not only that but the taste of the soap stayed on your toothbrush for a good week after that. That punishment in itself was enough!

              Not that we can do that, I was just remembering how things 'used to be'!
              man how times have changed...I was joking with my mom about all the stuff she did to my sister and I as punishment growing up. I said wow do you know how many mothers would be behind bars today.........mom my didn't find that so funny......

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              • Kaddidle Care
                Daycare.com Member
                • Dec 2010
                • 2090

                #37
                Originally posted by daycare
                not that I have anything aganist miltary, but dad is in the marine core and I think that this is where DCB gets a lot of his potty mouth from..... DCM told me that DCD thinks it's funny
                Hilarious - especially when you bring the child to Church.

                Interestingly enough, a Marine told me he gives his son a spoonful of vinigar when he uses foul language. I can't imagine this boy ever using foul language - he's such a good kid.

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                • daycare
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                  • Feb 2011
                  • 16259

                  #38
                  Originally posted by Kaddidle Care
                  Hilarious - especially when you bring the child to Church.

                  Interestingly enough, a Marine told me he gives his son a spoonful of vinigar when he uses foul language. I can't imagine this boy ever using foul language - he's such a good kid.
                  my ex- was military and he is the same as your friend. If he said jump you didnt respond how high, you jumpped...

                  I guess this dck is very young and immature... the kid always walks around saying hoo-ya and boo-ya....I don't consider that potty mouth, but I know he gets that from dad.

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                  • countrymom
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Aug 2010
                    • 4874

                    #39
                    thats awesome that you have not terminated him. Acually I was telling my dc friend (she is my back up provider and lives next door to my sister) how I have this family that drive me crazy, lots of issues, not serious ones but enough somedays to drive me nuts. But I was telling her, that the kids missed me so much last week (remember I was in florida) that they couldn't wait to come back. the thing is, is that they love to come here because its a stable household, I have rules, I take care of their needs and the kids love that. I know that their household is messed up and that their are no rules, I think thats why I haven't terminated them, its because I know that no matter where they go they will never have it as good as in my house.

                    also, since my back up had my one dcb last week, well apparently all the boy did was talk about my house and how much he loved it here, heck even the dad kept saying it to her. So she was like, "what the heck are you doing at your house that the kids want to stay all the time there" I didn't want to tell her, but we do alot of stuff together (we are making jello molds this week that I got at meijers and mini donuts)

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                    • countrymom
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Aug 2010
                      • 4874

                      #40
                      hey, you know whats a good idea, when he swears go and make him brush his teeth. I think that would be a good idea. After a while I think he'll get tired of brushing them (use toothpaste)

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                      • daycare
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                        • Feb 2011
                        • 16259

                        #41
                        Hey that's perfect. Gonna start that tomorrow
                        Thanks so much!!
                        Hope you had a great trip

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                        • littlemissmuffet
                          Advanced Daycare.com Member
                          • Jan 2011
                          • 2194

                          #42
                          Originally posted by countrymom
                          hey, you know whats a good idea, when he swears go and make him brush his teeth. I think that would be a good idea. After a while I think he'll get tired of brushing them (use toothpaste)
                          Great idea! Love it. I am from the camp that got soap/tobasco sauce for using naughty words... and it's what I threaten my kids (MY OWN KIDS, !) with... but I like this idea better

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                          • daycare
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                            • Feb 2011
                            • 16259

                            #43
                            Originally posted by littlemissmuffet
                            Great idea! Love it. I am from the camp that got soap/tobasco sauce for using naughty words... and it's what I threaten my kids (MY OWN KIDS, !) with... but I like this idea better
                            should it be the adult spicy toothpate or his toothpaste? I think he has the bubble gum flavor which I know he loves...

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                            • littlemissmuffet
                              Advanced Daycare.com Member
                              • Jan 2011
                              • 2194

                              #44
                              Originally posted by daycare
                              should it be the adult spicy toothpate or his toothpaste? I think he has the bubble gum flavor which I know he loves...
                              Personally, I'd use adult toothpaste. He's 4.5... he's not going to swallow it!

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                              • daycare
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                                • Feb 2011
                                • 16259

                                #45
                                This is what I was thinking! I'll tell mom as well. Lol
                                Will there be peace at last?
                                Lol

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