Overreacting??

[Live and Learn]

Under the "user cp" (upper left hand corner on the blue bar) scroll down to settings and options ....see where it says "edit ignore list"?....click on that and then you can enter the user name of the person whose opinions you could live without.::

.....edited to add that if the person that irritates you is a moderator ....ironically, you can't block them......hmmmmm....good luck!

[Unregistered]

Oh cool thank u very much!! I haven't had any problems until now. Everyone has been very nice here even when they didn't agree with me. That's why I came here, to learn from others but in a respectful way.

I'm still learning my way around here. I try to stay logged in as I have forgotten my new password once already. Could u tell me how to go about using that feature please? TIA!

I used to log on all the time but now as of the last week I don't because I have found many unfriendly comments pointing the finger. I have asked for advice and all I get is what I did wrong. Ok. Fine, I was wrong but I am asking for advice not for you to condemn me and point fingers. Just get off your high horses and answer a persons questions. Jeesh.

[QualiTcare]

I used to log on all the time but now as of the last week I don't because I have found many unfriendly comments pointing the finger. I have asked for advice and all I get is what I did wrong. Ok. Fine, I was wrong but I am asking for advice not for you to condemn me and point fingers. Just get off your high horses and answer a persons questions. Jeesh.

i cant speak on that because i don't know what threads you're referring to.

as to this situation there's no "finger pointing" because there was no wrong doing.

there was a simple question - "am i overreacting?"

let me rephrase my answer - "yes."

[QualiTcare]

Nope, most dentists will ask parents to leave if the kid is freaking out, because the kid quits putting on a show for the parents. Once the parents leave, the dentist has a gentle way of letting kids help, etc, and calms them down. It's not so he can jerk the kids around and be mean. Some people just don't have any idea how to handle kids.

I would have spoken up and I would be calling the manager in the morning. If the manager doesn't deal with it, I would also tell everyone I know what bad service you got.

i've always let my husband go back with the kids to the dentist because i know i wouldn't like watching what they HAVE to do to get the job done. i didn't say they "jerk them around" or be mean, but they DO have to be forceful so they can do their job and the kid doesn't get hurt by moving around.

it's perfectly fine to admit you don't like seeing it, can't handle it, don't like it, etc.

but it's necessary for SOMEONE to take control in certain situations -such as when there's a drill in a child's mouth or a blade on their head.

[Stacy214]

I think something needs to be said to the woman, she just handled it very inappropriately...she may have been having a bad day, who knows .... Let us know how the manager handles it.

[mac60]

I don't understand why certain people feel the need to be so rude on this forum, and the fact that they are a moderator, and continue to be, and continue to be rude, is unacceptable. There are ways to say things and be kind about it. It continues to happen all the time and nothing is ever done about it. Michael, why do you continue to let it happen. It causes a lot of hard feelings here. There are much better qualified people here that could be a moderator. It is situations like this that causes people to post unregistered, or to just no longer come here. Posting in this "tone" comes across very negative.

[QualiTcare]

i simply answered a question.

just because my response to the question (which wasn't really a question at all) was different doesn't mean there was any "negative tone" about it.

mac, i will gladly nominate you to be a moderator. trust me - if it comes down to deleting TRULY offensive/inappropriate posts or saying what i think then i will gladly give up the "honor" of deleting posts.

delete spam? say what i think? delete spam? say what i think?

i vote freedom of speech. you do the honors.

[momofboys]

I don't think you overreacted. I would have been equally upset if someone treated my child that way. There are more appropriate ways to get kids to do the things they need to do & it sounds like this lady needed to learn some basic skills before she works with children.

[PitterPatter]

Update

I called and spoke with the manager of the salon and explained what happened. She was very apologetic to me and promised to have a serious talk with the hairdresser because this was completely unacceptable. I told her I'm not trying to cause problems and I certainly don't want to see her fired just that she needed to learn how to talk to people and not be so rude and for no reason. The manager said the hairdresser probably had a bad day and unfortunately she is the type that allows it to carry into her work. Last time it was an elderly lady, now a child what next? She said she probably won't fire her but her attitude will change she guarantees it! She couldn't apologize enough and is mailing me a gift card that I can use at any of their branches but that she hoped she would have the pleasure of having my return business. She also said my son deserves a whole bag of ****ers for being treated so poorly and not given a ****er when he was done. I assume she was joking about the bag of ****ers but that would be cool!

I'm so glad I called in! Obviously she has been reported before so I wonder how many times she has been rude to people and gotten away with it. I thought me wanting to pull her head off was overreacting but I guess not. Thanks everyone for all the great advise!

[PitterPatter]

Under the "user cp" (upper left hand corner on the blue bar) scroll down to settings and options ....see where it says "edit ignore list"?....click on that and then you can enter the user name of the person whose opinions you could live without.::

.....edited to add that if the person that irritates you is a moderator ....ironically, you can't block them......hmmmmm....good luck!

That's ok I will just skip such posts. Thank u again though in case I ever need it in the future.

[daycare]

I called and spoke with the manager of the salon and explained what happened. She was very apologetic to me and promised to have a serious talk with the hairdresser because this was completely unacceptable. I told her I'm not trying to cause problems and I certainly don't want to see her fired just that she needed to learn how to talk to people and not be so rude and for no reason. The manager said the hairdresser probably had a bad day and unfortunately she is the type that allows it to carry into her work. Last time it was an elderly lady, now a child what next? She said she probably won't fire her but her attitude will change she guarantees it! She couldn't apologize enough and is mailing me a gift card that I can use at any of their branches but that she hoped she would have the pleasure of having my return business. She also said my son deserves a whole bag of ****ers for being treated so poorly and not given a ****er when he was done. I assume she was joking about the bag of ****ers but that would be cool!

I'm so glad I called in! Obviously she has been reported before so I wonder how many times she has been rude to people and gotten away with it. I thought me wanting to pull her head off was overreacting but I guess not. Thanks everyone for all the great advise!

So glad that it was taken care of the Right way... I still feel bad that your son had to be mistreated by an adult and he is old enough to understand that the woman was being mean.

It was good of you to stand up for your son and I know that he will appreciate that you stood up for him, just like mommy should..

I was going to ask you if the lady was foreign. I am from a different country and I run into a lot of "lost in translation" conversations. Not that I am saying it is ok, but I find it common. EX: the lady at the nail shop is foreign and she will tell me, I think you need to wax your upper lip...." WTH excuse me, I don't have any hair on my upper lip.....
It's a rude way to ask, but I think it's the only way she knows how...

But this lady just sounded RUDE and I would have reacted just like you did...

[PitterPatter]

So glad that it was taken care of the Right way... I still feel bad that your son had to be mistreated by an adult and he is old enough to understand that the woman was being mean.

It was good of you to stand up for your son and I know that he will appreciate that you stood up for him, just like mommy should..

I was going to ask you if the lady was foreign. I am from a different country and I run into a lot of "lost in translation" conversations. Not that I am saying it is ok, but I find it common. EX: the lady at the nail shop is foreign and she will tell me, I think you need to wax your upper lip...." WTH excuse me, I don't have any hair on my upper lip.....
It's a rude way to ask, but I think it's the only way she knows how...

But this lady just sounded RUDE and I would have reacted just like you did...

No she was american, bleach blonde type. Just had a chip on her shoulder I guess. Maybe it was close to closing time and she didn't want that last client in her chair who knows.

I try really hard not to overreact in situations like that but I wanted to tell her off sooo bad. I just kept telling myself, let it go she's just rude don't stoop to her level. I have tried to defend a family member before and it ended up in a VERY heated discussion to say the least and had that woman started name calling or getting in my face... I just don't want my child to witness that.

All is well now I can't wait to pass on the apology to my son when he gets home. I won't mention the ****ers of course

[Crystal]

Personally, I think you UNDEREACTED when she called your son a liar. I would have been all over her for that Nah....you didn't overreact

[Kaddidle Care]

I don't think you overreacted and I give you credit for letting her finish the hair cut.

Good for you that you complained to the manager. That gal might give great hair cuts to adults but she shouldn't be exposed to children talking like that.

It's a shame - some folks are really gifted with kids. We had a guy that did portraits at our Walmart and I went 30 miles out of my way to have my child photographed by him when he moved to a different store.

BTW - they don't do haircuts at the Walmarts around here so we're safe.

[MaryPoppins]

Giving a clipper haircut is very easy. You could save yourself a LOT of money and hassle by buying a good Wahl clipper set and doing it yourself next time.