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I Am Such A Bad Mom! :(
I know Moms are human and make mistakes but I made a bad 1 today. 
I had 3 DCKs here and my 9 yr old son who was doing homework. The kids all had a tool kit each and was playing with them when daycare mom ( a state paid client through welfare) came to pick up her 2 kids. I told the kids "Mommy is ready to take u home so please put the tool kits back". They ignored me and kept playing. The Mom waited a few minutes and told them to put them away. They again just ignored her. She laughed it off and said they don't listen very well and just sat there. I told her they are usually good listeners for me but then again they are new here. (3rd week)
She finally got up after a few more minutes of sitting and staring at the kids, and got the coats and told them again and this time they said no and kept playing. She ignored their response and sat down on the floor. I'm thinking OK??? Should I speak up? Then the brother (2yrs) took the sisters (3yrs) hard hat and they fought, literally. The Mom just held the boy on her lap with his feet still in reach of the sister he starts kicking her. The mom looked at and and laughed and said "stop it" with a giggle but was still allowing him to continue to kick. (personally i would remove him from reach) I sat there shocked and not knowing what to do as they are her children and once a daycare mom signs a child out I don't like to interfere. The girl threw the hat, Mom stood up let the boy go and he went and played more.
We are now going on the family sitting in the house 20-25 minutes after sign out (this is common for her as she likes to tell me gossip and such but, i dont like it unless we need to have a discussion about the children. I don't care to hear she said he said especially about people I don't even know??). I speak up and say "well guys I gotta go start dinner so let me help u clean up the toys." As I start to get up my son says no Mommy I will help them. He picks up all the boys toys and starts on the girls. He tries to take the kit to put it away and she grabs it and screams at him (she doesnt do this with me, shes usually sweet) he told her he was putting it away for her, she's screaming and pulling it. The mom just stands there. I told my son to let go and she will go put it away. He says he just wants to help. The Mother NOW speaks up and says "Hey let go she will put it away" Hmmmm I may have took it wrong but I don't like clients telling MY kid what to do especially when they can't say squat to thier own kids! My son let go and it fell dropping toys all over the floor. He starts helping pick them up and put them back in the kit. He gets to the hammer and the girl screams NO. He explains the hammer goes in that kit. I tell her to let him put it in the kit so we dont lose it she screms no and slams the lid on my sons fingers and pushes down with both hands. My son is screaming she wont let go and the whole time the mother is just standing literally right behind her just inches away! I jump up and run over and pull the kit away from her. I look at his fingers and dont see anything he is crying tears saying it burns. The mom, just standing there quiet, not a word still, with no emotion! I'm checking fingers telling him it's not that bad as I don't see anything.
I tell the kids it really is time to clean up now. My son still crying hard. Again I tell him it's not that bad thinking she must not have really had all her weight on it like it seemed. Then I see his thumb!! It's purple and indented with the shape of the box lid! I tell him to go get a boo boo pack and hold on it. I can't even look at the Mother I am so angry now! The mother STILL stands there doing NOTHING! Saying NOTHING! I look down at the DCG and she looks mad and is pouting because I pulled the box away. I still don't even look at the Mother because now I am so angry I may say something I regret. My son comes back in holding the ice pack still crying and i rub his thumb. It's getting better already but still indented purple skin from being indented so badly by the lid and DCG forcing it down. Luckily it's not a bruised purple, it had faded away by dinner time. Anyway, still not having ANYTHING to say to me my child or her own child regarding this whole issue the Mom simply tells DCG "come on" and walks in the play room to put the tool kit back and comes back in and says "come on guys lets go."
I'm in shock I can't even talk to her at this point. I want to tell her off sooo bad but I could lose my license through the state if she complains. I tell the kids I will see them tomorrow and to be good for Mommy. I don't know what to say as I am upset with both of them and just shocked at the Mother for not having a care in the world about my son. They get to my porch and play around stalling as always. I stand there in the door, the mom stands there telling them come on. I finally look her in the eye as she gets down my stairs and I tell her I will see her tomorrow. She smiles happily and says ok see ya in a cheery tone. What the heck??? After all that u smile and are cheery??? I give a fake smile and close the door.
My sons finger is fine now. He may have even been a little dramatic (his nature sometimes) but fact is she did smash it in there and hold the lid down with both hands while he screamed and cried. Fact is the Mother stood behind her and didn't flinch! Fact is the Mother didn't have a problem telling MY son what to do yet didn't see fit to stop her own child from hurting mine or even tell her that was wrong. I would have pulled my kid off and immediatley checked the childs hand apologizing the whole time! But that's me so here I am asking if I am wrong here and what u guys would have done. I am so ashamed I didn't speak up for my sons rights and correct DCG myself. I just thought the Mother would step in any moment here.... Nope!
I have apologized to my son many times this evening and told him we will have some extra mommy & me time.
I had 3 DCKs here and my 9 yr old son who was doing homework. The kids all had a tool kit each and was playing with them when daycare mom ( a state paid client through welfare) came to pick up her 2 kids. I told the kids "Mommy is ready to take u home so please put the tool kits back". They ignored me and kept playing. The Mom waited a few minutes and told them to put them away. They again just ignored her. She laughed it off and said they don't listen very well and just sat there. I told her they are usually good listeners for me but then again they are new here. (3rd week)
She finally got up after a few more minutes of sitting and staring at the kids, and got the coats and told them again and this time they said no and kept playing. She ignored their response and sat down on the floor. I'm thinking OK??? Should I speak up? Then the brother (2yrs) took the sisters (3yrs) hard hat and they fought, literally. The Mom just held the boy on her lap with his feet still in reach of the sister he starts kicking her. The mom looked at and and laughed and said "stop it" with a giggle but was still allowing him to continue to kick. (personally i would remove him from reach) I sat there shocked and not knowing what to do as they are her children and once a daycare mom signs a child out I don't like to interfere. The girl threw the hat, Mom stood up let the boy go and he went and played more.
We are now going on the family sitting in the house 20-25 minutes after sign out (this is common for her as she likes to tell me gossip and such but, i dont like it unless we need to have a discussion about the children. I don't care to hear she said he said especially about people I don't even know??). I speak up and say "well guys I gotta go start dinner so let me help u clean up the toys." As I start to get up my son says no Mommy I will help them. He picks up all the boys toys and starts on the girls. He tries to take the kit to put it away and she grabs it and screams at him (she doesnt do this with me, shes usually sweet) he told her he was putting it away for her, she's screaming and pulling it. The mom just stands there. I told my son to let go and she will go put it away. He says he just wants to help. The Mother NOW speaks up and says "Hey let go she will put it away" Hmmmm I may have took it wrong but I don't like clients telling MY kid what to do especially when they can't say squat to thier own kids! My son let go and it fell dropping toys all over the floor. He starts helping pick them up and put them back in the kit. He gets to the hammer and the girl screams NO. He explains the hammer goes in that kit. I tell her to let him put it in the kit so we dont lose it she screms no and slams the lid on my sons fingers and pushes down with both hands. My son is screaming she wont let go and the whole time the mother is just standing literally right behind her just inches away! I jump up and run over and pull the kit away from her. I look at his fingers and dont see anything he is crying tears saying it burns. The mom, just standing there quiet, not a word still, with no emotion! I'm checking fingers telling him it's not that bad as I don't see anything.
I tell the kids it really is time to clean up now. My son still crying hard. Again I tell him it's not that bad thinking she must not have really had all her weight on it like it seemed. Then I see his thumb!! It's purple and indented with the shape of the box lid! I tell him to go get a boo boo pack and hold on it. I can't even look at the Mother I am so angry now! The mother STILL stands there doing NOTHING! Saying NOTHING! I look down at the DCG and she looks mad and is pouting because I pulled the box away. I still don't even look at the Mother because now I am so angry I may say something I regret. My son comes back in holding the ice pack still crying and i rub his thumb. It's getting better already but still indented purple skin from being indented so badly by the lid and DCG forcing it down. Luckily it's not a bruised purple, it had faded away by dinner time. Anyway, still not having ANYTHING to say to me my child or her own child regarding this whole issue the Mom simply tells DCG "come on" and walks in the play room to put the tool kit back and comes back in and says "come on guys lets go."
I'm in shock I can't even talk to her at this point. I want to tell her off sooo bad but I could lose my license through the state if she complains. I tell the kids I will see them tomorrow and to be good for Mommy. I don't know what to say as I am upset with both of them and just shocked at the Mother for not having a care in the world about my son. They get to my porch and play around stalling as always. I stand there in the door, the mom stands there telling them come on. I finally look her in the eye as she gets down my stairs and I tell her I will see her tomorrow. She smiles happily and says ok see ya in a cheery tone. What the heck??? After all that u smile and are cheery??? I give a fake smile and close the door.
My sons finger is fine now. He may have even been a little dramatic (his nature sometimes) but fact is she did smash it in there and hold the lid down with both hands while he screamed and cried. Fact is the Mother stood behind her and didn't flinch! Fact is the Mother didn't have a problem telling MY son what to do yet didn't see fit to stop her own child from hurting mine or even tell her that was wrong. I would have pulled my kid off and immediatley checked the childs hand apologizing the whole time! But that's me so here I am asking if I am wrong here and what u guys would have done. I am so ashamed I didn't speak up for my sons rights and correct DCG myself. I just thought the Mother would step in any moment here.... Nope!
I have apologized to my son many times this evening and told him we will have some extra mommy & me time.
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