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Shew,... I'm so glad!!! I thought maybe this was how he treated you. Believe me,.... I didnt used to have a backbone. And a six yr marriage to a man who made me walk behind him, sit at his feet, clean his home, raise kids while he partied with women, abused me both mentally and physically,..... I kicked him to the curb after I caught him with a day mom. I had had enough. Sorry for being so harsh before. I just cringe at how I used to be. So substandard. So low. No one deserves that. (((())))
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nope that's fine! sometimes it takes an outsider to point out the obvious.
He knows that I will not be treated like his step mom. I watched my dad (not physically abuse) mentally abuse my mom, always yelling, etc. I know his dad did the same. I see stuff all the time that makes me sick. So I told him off the hop, if I'm not happy i'm out!Comment
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Geez I'm jealous everyone seems to have a BF or Hubby. I divorced mine 6 years ago and I don't date. (as if I had time to anyway
) It's just me all day with 3 toddlers (soon to be 4) and my 9 yr old in the evenings. My Mom stops by for dinner usually M-F so I do get some adult time but even with that I still feel lonely.
What's worse is the overwhelmed feeling when I can't keep up with the house after daycare is closed. I want to spend time with my son but I have so much to do. Laundry, dishes, garbage out, sweep, mop, vaccume etc u girls know the drill. By the time I am done it's shower and bedtime. There are just not enough hours in the day. When my son is older I may have him help more but for now it's all on me.Comment
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oh yes i do feel this way sometimes. but to fight it off i call my step-mom everyday while i am cooking lunch and talk to her. My husband watches out kids every thursday night so i can go out an just relax. I also joined meet-up and meet other moms and do mom's night out when them.Comment
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sorry to hear that tyger, but you are lucky. I always say if dh and i split, i will never have another man again
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your son is 9? he is most definitely old enough to help out!.
my 6 yo helps fold and put away laundry, 6 and 5 yo do dishes, all 3 sweep and mop, etc.
they are helpful, but often not the greatest help as I have to redo.Comment
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Flylady says.
Housework done incorrectly still blesses your family!
Enlist those little mess makers!! LolComment
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I get lonely and dumb. Lol. I feel like I can only hold conversations through out my day that consist of one or two syllables.. Lol.
I have no family here and it's kinda hard to make friends in a new place when you work from home. I know you can relate.
I hope you start feeling better soon. We will all try to keep you company. Lol
Hang in there it will be hot before you know it!!!Comment
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Take a field trip to Walmart! It's acceptable to just walk up to strangers and have a conversation there! :: JUST KIDDING!
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hahahahaha.....loooooooooooooveeee it!!!!!!!!!!
it truly is acceptable. thats what I do.
I bumped into a gimped up daddy, his little girl, she was trying to pick flowers/trees for her bedroom. he clearly knew nothing about them, and she was talking about watering it everyday tons and tons so it will grow big and big. (she must've been about 4 yo).
I explained to the little girl which ones like lots of water, which ones will grow nut fruit in about 4 yrs from now, etc etc. he was a hot daddy he was very thankful for me! because he almost bought expensive plants and she would've drowned them
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Lol my husband works for the fire dept and when they have parties it's like Christmas for my eyes... LolComment
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I know the feeling too. Sometimes I like being by myself and other times, I would love to go out for a coffee to get away. I feel like my house is never clean and that cr@p is growing out of the closets. I think it also doesn't help that its still winter and we can't go outside (I'm still in florida on vacation but apparently it snowed yesteday) I love coming on here and reading what everyone is doing, its a great forum.Comment
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I didnt realize how lonley this career choice was until I did it. So now I have changed my focus and goals. Some people can handle it with, chatting on the phone, internet, watching fav shows, joining a child care association. I've tried them all but I really miss talking to people in person and intellectual stimulation so like I said my goals have changed.
Perhaps you could reassess what you want from a job/career and see if it is the best fit. What has helped me is just to simply keep my mind busy and occupied...whether it is planning the lesson for the next day or organizing my spice rack.
Good luck. It is very hard. I think SAHM feel that way alot too. Warmer weather is coming and hopefully that will lift spirits and bring people outside to chit chat. Also, lean on your hubby, I always destress on mine.Comment
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