Lonely Sometimes

[blueclouds29]

Do any of you get this feeling sometimes? I have 4 kids totally all 2 and under. Today I just feel so lonely. No one to talk to. I just moved here 4 years ago from NJ so i don't have family here. My Husband works so i call and talk to him. Its not the help/aid that i need its just someone to talk to. My mom and i are really close but when i called her this am to talk, she was still in bed and not wanting to talk.. I don't know... just wanted to see if it was me.. LOL
MAYBE is just this cold weather in the spring where we are STILL stuck inside all day in these 4 walls in this small house!!!! Who know... its not PMS i just had that last week!!!! ::

[dEHmom]

sorry you are feeling like this... and you are not alone.

I wish I had someone to come for coffee but then now I've got to entertain while the kids are around. So doesn't quite work.

I find often, even when hubby is home in the evening, I am more lonely than I am during the day with tthe kids.

All I want is alone time, but I want some friendship as well. LOL!


I had a little breakdown last night. I was trying to do dishes, and had to stop because hubs told me there was a sitch in the bathroom. DS tried to get to potty but didn't get there fast enough, and had a double accident. EW.

By the time I get dinner made, eaten, cleaned up, have a shower, it's bedtime, and I'm really tired, been working extra hard to keep house clean and I feel it's still not good enough. I'm having some issues right now. But hubs told me not to be sad, and I'm sure today he will help me out more.

[boysx5]

Thank God I have a neighbor who does daycare and we chat each day or take our kids outside with each other so we can have an adult to talk with. I know the feeling all too well about moving to a new place and not having many friends did that five years ago.

[Meyou]

The end of the winter gets to me and I always feel lonely. The rest of the year isn't nearly so bad because we're outside at least 1/2 the day and I'm busy. I talk my bf's ear off when he gets home at night though!! Poor guy.

[missnikki]

I totally get the 'haven't talked to an adult all day' sads. My poor hubs comes home from a hard day's long hours to me going "So Davey hits Robbie with an eraser and Robbie told Melissa that Shannon wrote all over her watercolor with his marker so I had to take the marker and give it to Davey to write Robbie a sorry note".....

(any resemblance to persons/ events is purely circumstantial)

I need to find a group of ladies to live a vicarious 'Sex and the City' side-life with.

[cheerfuldom]

find some hobbies to keep you interested during the day. Right now I am taking some online college courses and the reading and stuff keep my mind occupied for small parts of the day. It does depend on how many kids you have but definitely find something to look forward to to keep you from going crazy!

[SandeeAR]

I understand, that is why I like this forum so much. It is my ADULT link during the day :: Due to the loss of his assistant and trying 3 times to replace her, my DH has worked 7 days a week since July 4th, about 12 hours a day. I understand the lonely. I see my DD often and attend church, but I'm still lonely at times. I fully understand. You aren't alone.

[Meyou]

I totally get the 'haven't talked to an adult all day' sads. My poor hubs comes home from a hard day's long hours to me going "So Davey hits Robbie with an eraser and Robbie told Melissa that Shannon wrote all over her watercolor with his marker so I had to take the marker and give it to Davey to write Robbie a sorry note".....

(any resemblance to persons/ events is purely circumstantial)

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:::::::: I do this too. At this point he comes in and says, "Ok tell me about all the timeouts today and all the rest of the dirt" He treats the kids like characters in a soap opera. These are the days of their little lives.... ::

[My Lil' Monkeys]

Thank God I have a neighbor who does daycare and we chat each day or take our kids outside with each other so we can have an adult to talk with. I know the feeling all too well about moving to a new place and not having many friends did that five years ago.

I have a awesome neighbor who does daycare, too!! I don't know sometimes what I would do without her. I moved to 4 yrs ago and didn't have anyone. But, once I discovered my neighbor (who lives behind me and our fences open to each others yards) has been so much help. I know the feeling of being alone during the day with no one to talk, too. But, you have us I know that doesn't make up for conversation face to face... but I'm here to chit chat if you want

[dEHmom]

my dh isn't interested in hearing anything. He says it's me "bit****" or complaining. I've said it before, I don't have a great support team, and he really just doesn't care. So I don't really have any one to vent to. It often becomes a competition of who had the worst day.

[laundrymom]

my dh isn't interested in hearing anything. He says it's me "bit****" or complaining. I've said it before, I don't have a great support team, and he really just doesn't care. So I don't really have any one to vent to. It often becomes a competition of who had the worst day.

Wow,... I'm so sorry. I feel for you. If my dh talked to me like that ..... Well,... To be honest if he treated me that way he would be gone.

[Lilbutterflie]

Yup, I get lonely too! I moved here out of state almost two years ago; so all of my friends and family are back in CA where I'm from. I've made some friends here, but none really available to chat during the day. My DH is not the greatest listener about daycare stuff either; so this forum is my outlet.

[dEHmom]

Wow,... I'm so sorry. I feel for you. If my dh talked to me like that ..... Well,... To be honest if he treated me that way he would be gone.

I dont' mean to sound like he's a jerk. He can be sometimes, but usually it's just because he's been up since 330 am, and worked till 330 gets home at 4 pm, and he's just beat. If I complain about my day, he complains about his, and neither of us feel better. It's not much of a vent, as it is a "i'm too tired to do dishes, clean up, cook" etc.

[Lilbutterflie]

I dont' mean to sound like he's a jerk. He can be sometimes, but usually it's just because he's been up since 330 am, and worked till 330 gets home at 4 pm, and he's just beat. If I complain about my day, he complains about his, and neither of us feel better. It's not much of a vent, as it is a "i'm too tired to do dishes, clean up, cook" etc.

I can understand. My DH is already a little bitter about me starting the daycare two years ago. I used to work full time and I made fairly decent money plus benefits, insurance and 401K. I think deep down he doesn't really see the value in my staying home with our children. He would rather me go back to work. That and the fact that he sees faults in every child who is not his own.

So when I go to him to vent, his response is "If you don't like what you are doing, go back to work" Or "If you are having issues with them, post ads for new children and give them notice" He is NO help.

It's also a guy thing to not really lend a sympathetic ear, just to tell you how to fix it. An episode of Modern Family totally depicted this. When Phil went to the spa because Claire was too busy to use her certificate on the last before it expired. Anyone see this?

Anyway, he is not a jerk, he is actually a very kind and generous man; not to mention a wonderful father. I just know that I can't vent to him about daycare!

[dEHmom]

I can understand. My DH is already a little bitter about me starting the daycare two years ago. I used to work full time and I made fairly decent money plus benefits, insurance and 401K. I think deep down he doesn't really see the value in my staying home with our children. He would rather me go back to work. That and the fact that he sees faults in every child who is not his own.

So when I go to him to vent, his response is "If you don't like what you are doing, go back to work" Or "If you are having issues with them, post ads for new children and give them notice" He is NO help.

It's also a guy thing to not really lend a sympathetic ear, just to tell you how to fix it. An episode of Modern Family totally depicted this. When Phil went to the spa because Claire was too busy to use her certificate on the last before it expired. Anyone see this?

Anyway, he is not a jerk, he is actually a very kind and generous man; not to mention a wonderful father. I just know that I can't vent to him about daycare!

no i've never seen that show but it sounds funny.

and yep, it took my husband a few months to warm up to the kids, and then they left, then a new kid came, and it took a few months for them to warm up to each other, she was totally scared of him. now they are like best buddies when he gets home, and she's done next week and the new guy is stilll a little bit scared of him, but doesn't cry anymore.

Hubs doesn't have the best father figure in the world, he gets home demands his food, etc. kind of old school ish. so hubs is trying HARD not to act like that, but sometimes it comes out. I told him I will not put up with it. If he turns out like his dad i'm outs. I'm not the "perfect" wife hahahahaha. I won't be your slave.