Have You Ever Met With A Family You Just Did Not Mesh With?

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  • youretooloud
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Mar 2011
    • 1955

    Have You Ever Met With A Family You Just Did Not Mesh With?

    I just finished an interview with a mom, dad, and almost 2 yr old boy.

    UGH... They found me on Craigslist. We are not a good fit.

    First, they both smoke. In the car with the boy. So, he reeks. I don't want that smell all day... sure I'd overlook it if it weren't for the other problems.

    Dad works in a rough biker bar. We have TONS of great biker bars around here... really, awesome bars... but, this one is a bad place with bad people.

    Dad has a "White Power" tattoo on his forearm. Do people still do that??? I thought that was so 80s.

    They gave me a list of foods "He don't like"... which is almost everything. The list of foods "he do like" would have been much shorter. He basically doesn't eat anything I make, except Kraft Mac n CHeese, which is just an occasional side dish. He'll be hungry all day here.

    "He don't drink water.. only juice, pop, and chocolate milk" Oh great... not only will he not eat food, he won't drink anything either. Because I'm not serving juice pop or chocolate milk.

    He was a brute! He had huge bruises all over his forehead. He just barrels around the house slamming into whatever is in his way. (this alone would have made me turn him down)

    I LOVED LOVED LOVED the dad! In spite of his lifestyle choices, he was great. About my age (45), happy, likeable guy. Mom on the other hand is a mean little shrew. She's about 22 yrs old. And, the MEANEST most hateful woman i've ever seen. She was mean to her husband in front of my daycare kids, she cussed in front of my daycare kids, she was mean to her son, and she cussed AT her son. She called him a "little $hit" several times. It's even a pet name for the poor kid. What parenting books is this lady reading?

    I kept saying "You found my name where?"
  • jen
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Sep 2009
    • 1832

    #2
    I'm having a tough time reconciling the "white power" tattoo and him being a great guy. I've never met a nice white supremacist before...YIKES! Run!

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    • Christian Mother
      Advanced Daycare.com Member
      • Feb 2011
      • 875

      #3
      Nope, does not sound like a good fit!! I interviewed with a family who even on the phone I could tell we didn't mesh and it was even worse when we came to meet. He was 2 and they allowed him to jump all over the couches, kick the gate...he was a brute as well and I just had "off" vibes. I told them the next day I exspected another family. They where not at all happy but the other family was just so well matched not to mention I loved the parents!!

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      • juliebug
        Daycare.com Member
        • Jul 2010
        • 354

        #4
        oh i have had odd interview too just be happy you know now before they start!

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        • E Daycare
          Happy cause Im insane.
          • Dec 2010
          • 518

          #5
          I laughed out loud at this just because I couldn't believe it . My first reaction was to . Im so sorry you had a interview like this . Better you figured this out now instead of a few weeks from now and you become scared that youre the new "little $hit" the mom wants to pick on.

          Ugh.
          "Being a parent is wanting to hug and strangle your kid at the same time".

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          • youretooloud
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • Mar 2011
            • 1955

            #6
            LOL.. I haven't even thought of an excuse. I'm hoping they don't call. Mom hasn't found a job yet... she's still looking, so maybe I'll be full by the time she finds a job.

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            • youretooloud
              Advanced Daycare.com Member
              • Mar 2011
              • 1955

              #7
              Originally posted by jen
              I'm having a tough time reconciling the "white power" tattoo and him being a great guy. I've never met a nice white supremacist before...YIKES! Run!
              Me too. It's one of those tattoos you do in prison, then regret it and have it removed. So, I was telling myself, maybe he hasn't been out of prison very long? Or he expects to go back soon?

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              • jen
                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                • Sep 2009
                • 1832

                #8
                Originally posted by youretooloud
                Me too. It's one of those tattoos you do in prison, then regret it and have it removed. So, I was telling myself, maybe he hasn't been out of prison very long? Or he expects to go back soon?
                LOL!!!!

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                • Kaddidle Care
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Dec 2010
                  • 2090

                  #9
                  Oh wow! "sorry folks, opening is already filled." I'm afraid I would have asked her to leave after the first curse word in front of the Daycare Kids. Sorry, I wouldn't tolerate that. I feel bad for the child.

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                  • SilverSabre25
                    Senior Member
                    • Aug 2010
                    • 7585

                    #10
                    "I'm sorry, but I just don't think our program would suit his needs. Good luck with your child care search!"
                    Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!

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                    • daycare
                      Advanced Daycare.com *********
                      • Feb 2011
                      • 16259

                      #11
                      wow how sad for the kids...


                      I had a family once that stunk of cigs so bad that I had to keep leaving the room to catch my breath. Their child also destroyed my enitre house in under 30min flat. The mom gave me an actual LIST of demands.

                      When she pulled the list of demands out of her purse, I then handed her my PHB and said this is group daycare not individual care. Here is what I can offer you. She looked at me and said, I think we will just think about it and call you. I said right away yes please do and they left.


                      I also noticed that there is a huge age difference between mom and dad...Not that it has much to do with it, other than the mom sounds really immature....

                      Run for the hills....

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                      • happykidschildcare
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Apr 2010
                        • 147

                        #12
                        yowsa! run for the hills...sounds like a nightmare!

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                        • Angelwings36
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Feb 2011
                          • 436

                          #13
                          Originally posted by youretooloud
                          I just finished an interview with a mom, dad, and almost 2 yr old boy.

                          UGH... They found me on Craigslist. We are not a good fit.

                          First, they both smoke. In the car with the boy. So, he reeks. I don't want that smell all day... sure I'd overlook it if it weren't for the other problems.

                          Dad works in a rough biker bar. We have TONS of great biker bars around here... really, awesome bars... but, this one is a bad place with bad people.

                          Dad has a "White Power" tattoo on his forearm. Do people still do that??? I thought that was so 80s.

                          They gave me a list of foods "He don't like"... which is almost everything. The list of foods "he do like" would have been much shorter. He basically doesn't eat anything I make, except Kraft Mac n CHeese, which is just an occasional side dish. He'll be hungry all day here.

                          "He don't drink water.. only juice, pop, and chocolate milk" Oh great... not only will he not eat food, he won't drink anything either. Because I'm not serving juice pop or chocolate milk.

                          He was a brute! He had huge bruises all over his forehead. He just barrels around the house slamming into whatever is in his way. (this alone would have made me turn him down)

                          I LOVED LOVED LOVED the dad! In spite of his lifestyle choices, he was great. About my age (45), happy, likeable guy. Mom on the other hand is a mean little shrew. She's about 22 yrs old. And, the MEANEST most hateful woman i've ever seen. She was mean to her husband in front of my daycare kids, she cussed in front of my daycare kids, she was mean to her son, and she cussed AT her son. She called him a "little $hit" several times. It's even a pet name for the poor kid. What parenting books is this lady reading?

                          I kept saying "You found my name where?"
                          I hope you're not considering taking this family if they do decide that they would like to enrol their son???? I end up in interviews as well that I have a really hard time enduring...once they are gone though, they are gone and I know I will never have to deal with them again.

                          As far as the son's list of likes and don't likes for food...I would have told the mom I don't cater to specific likes and dislikes of children. If they don't care for what I serve they either eat it or don't eat at all. You could have also suggested that they pack his own lunch, snacks and beverages if this is something you allow.

                          What an interview!!!

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                          • youretooloud
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • Mar 2011
                            • 1955

                            #14
                            Originally posted by Angelwings36
                            I hope you're not considering taking this family if they do decide that they would like to enrol their son????
                            Noooo... I had made up my mind within five minutes. But, I'm just hoping they either don't call, or they don't call today so I can say "aww.. I filled that spot.. good luck though!"

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                            • daycare
                              Advanced Daycare.com *********
                              • Feb 2011
                              • 16259

                              #15
                              I had this happen where I thought I was off the hook and I just said oh I'm really sorry. One of my part time kids needed to swith to a full time spot so I no longer have an opening. I'm so sorry, but if an opening occurs I will be sure to add you to my mile long waiting list. So sorry and best of luck to you and your family.

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