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I have a 3 year old dcg girl, who likes to twist my words or she tells the part she likes. She brings a yogurt every day, I don't care that she does, but when I give my other dcg girl snack I ask her if she wants her yogurt or the other snack. When she picks the other snack, she tells her Mom that I didn't give her the yogurt. She does the same thing to her Mom. If she tells her Mom something that doesn't make any sense her Mom asks me and I fill in the blanks. When I serve something she doesn't want to eat, she tells her that I didn't feed her. This goes on and on about whatever doesn't go her way. Any thoughts on how to get her to stop.
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First of all, she would not have a choice of snack if her mom packed yogurt. When her mom asks you why you didn't feed her snack, explain that she sat down with everyone, with yogurt and spoon, and sat for the duration. You aren't going to force her to eat, but you certainly offered at snacktime. The same goes for lunch, but (I think this is Nan's?) snap a pic of her with the plate of food. -
Is this something you feel she is doing intentionally or could she possibly not have all of her language/communication skills mastered yet??
In her little mind you didn't give her her yogurt....just keep correcting her by saying "You picked X instead of yogurt" Both you and mom are dealing with the same thing.... just keep filling in the blanks for each other.Comment
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First off....PULEEZE tell me that mom isn't buying into this. If mom is sensible, I wouldn't even worry about it. BUT if mom is buying into this, your issue is more with her than the 3 year old.
Either way, I'd probably always be one step ahead of the DCG. If I gave her the other snack and not the yogurt, I would greet mom at pick up and give her an update...."X picked another snack instead of her yogurt today....I didn't want you to think she didn't get a snack." Or something to that affect. After you say that, I'm hoping that mom will let you know that she's not buying into the 3 year old's manipulation tactics!!!
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Yeah, both of these answers are better than mine
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Mom doesn't buy into it all. She is intentionally doing this. Dcg is one of the most stubborn, spoiled kids I have ever had. She does behave for me but some mornings she arrives crying and having a huge temper. I send her to the bedroom to gain control of herself. While she is in there she recites every single thing that did not go her way for the past couple of weeks all the while crying and pitching a fit. I ignore her, but it does get tiresome to hear, what I didn't do or did that she didn't like. I didn't feed her what she wanted for lunch, I made her take a nap, I wouldn't let her watch cartoons, etc.... then she moves on to her brother, then her Mom. I never had a kid this young who blames everyone else for when she is the one being a stinker. She seldom throws a fit during the day because she knows that I won't tolerate it. I think that is why she has moved on to trying to get me trouble with Mom.Comment
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You might make a point of having a brief conversation with mom at pick up one day soon. Pointing out, that "you know she is doing this on purpose to try and get me in trouble with you, right?" Make sure Mom agrees with you and then point out, that you hope DKG never succeeds in getting you in trouble with Mom, b/c that would be the end of your being able to care for her. That puts Mom on notice, that she had not ever side with the kid over you, or she will lose you as a care giver.
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It would bother me if the Mom was worried that you didn't feed her... or you excluded her from snack. If Mom was coming in every day and saying "she said you didn't let her have snack yesterday" and using an accusing tone, i'd be mad.
But, it sounds like Mom doesn't believe it anyway. So, I'd not let it get to me.
I had a child yesterday that told me "Big boys chased me... and daddy throwed them in the trash can realllllly hard and closed it" Bahaha! I absolutely asked Daddy if he's been throwing large boys in the trash. :
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As long as Mom knows the real deal I wouldn't worry too much about it either. Just make sure you keep open communication with Mom and you should be all good!Comment
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Wow she sounds BRILLIANT. Send her to me please.
Her ability to recite all of what ails her one after another is amazing for her age.
Time to put her powers into good and not evil.
Don't take it personally ... ENJOY it. When she says "morgan wouldn't let me have my snack" you answer "that's cuz I'm the MEANEST morgan of them all.
When she does a diatribe of one after another tell her "you forgot to say I'm the meanest Morgan of them all"
When she doesn't say you are the meanest morgan of them all tell her you really WANT her to say that. Pout and say "what about me being the meanest Morgan? Now I'm sad. 
If she misses anything in her list of complaints remind her of it. "Oh and you didn't get to be first in life yesterday either. Don't forget that one.
You don't have to use "meanest morgan"... pick a phrase and stick to it. Try to have it have double letters like the M in meanest morgan... something Dr Suessish.
What that trick does is divert all her energy into ONE thing. One thing that you say is okay and cool. It minimizes what she is complaining about and CHANGES THE SUBJECT.
It's a distraction technique that works great for the smartie pants. If she's as smart as I think she is she will get the humor of it and eventually run with it with you. ::
Once she knows her version of stuff or her complaints weigh as much as "meanest morgan" she will tire quickly of it.
Then her energy has to go elsewhere... put that to good work...Comment
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Another good suggestion is to buy a dry erase board and list the day and what you are serving for breakfast, lunch and snack. Then DCM can see what was served. If DCG chose not to eat, that's her dilemma to deal with. You offered and that's all you can do.
As for outside snack. I'd stop that right away. You eat what is offered or you don't. If the other kids don't have a choice, neither should she!Comment
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If a parent brings a food, that's what the kid gets. I had one 7 yr old bring a yogurt yesterday, and when he looked at it he said "I don't really want this", I said "well that's what your mom packed for you, sorry". He ate the whole thing.Comment
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