i'm wondering your thoughts on this.....
i have an almost three year old, and this new behavior started about three weeks ago. he has been with me since birth, and was a wonderful baby. by the time he was two, he would display your normal two yr old behaviors. some temper tantrums, etc. no big deal, really. redirection has always worked, or just ignoring the tantrum until he calmed down.
recently he has become aggressive. but not with the other kids. with the adults!!!! anytime someone comes in to the house, he turns into jekyll and hyde.
three weeks ago my licensor came, with her boss. he completely became a little monster. he was ripping my house apart, literally. he bit my licensors' boss!!! i was soo embarrassed to say the least. (i did post about this incident previously)
i thought it was a one time thing. but now, every time an adult comes into the house, he does this. whenever another parent comes in, he does it. everytime. yesterday, my computer guy stopped by to fix something, and he walked right up and hit him.
what do you think his deal is?
i try to limit the amount of people who are here daily. i mean, we hardly ever have "guests", but it is gonna happen. people are going to come in and out, kwim?
he doesnt behave like this when no other adults are here. his aggression is only directed to the adults. occasionally, after someone comes in, he may push or hit another child, after he's been wound up.
and he never does it to me, ever.
a little backround.....
mom just had a new baby and started a new job. her boyfriend (not this childs father) drops off and picks up, and sometimes dad does too, or his girlfriend. so he has a lot of transitions going on, with different adults in his life. i know they have behavior issues with him at home too.
do you think hes just having a super hard time figuring out who is supposed to be in charge? is he not adjusting to how many adults are in his life? craving attention?
and what do i do here when someone comes over? i cant have him beating up everyone that walks through my door
redirection doesnt work when he is in this mindset, and time out is a joke to him. i'm thinking i will literally have to hang
on to him, or at least hold his hand while someone is here picking up/dropping off?
i have an almost three year old, and this new behavior started about three weeks ago. he has been with me since birth, and was a wonderful baby. by the time he was two, he would display your normal two yr old behaviors. some temper tantrums, etc. no big deal, really. redirection has always worked, or just ignoring the tantrum until he calmed down.
recently he has become aggressive. but not with the other kids. with the adults!!!! anytime someone comes in to the house, he turns into jekyll and hyde.

i thought it was a one time thing. but now, every time an adult comes into the house, he does this. whenever another parent comes in, he does it. everytime. yesterday, my computer guy stopped by to fix something, and he walked right up and hit him.
what do you think his deal is?

i try to limit the amount of people who are here daily. i mean, we hardly ever have "guests", but it is gonna happen. people are going to come in and out, kwim?
he doesnt behave like this when no other adults are here. his aggression is only directed to the adults. occasionally, after someone comes in, he may push or hit another child, after he's been wound up.
and he never does it to me, ever.
a little backround.....
mom just had a new baby and started a new job. her boyfriend (not this childs father) drops off and picks up, and sometimes dad does too, or his girlfriend. so he has a lot of transitions going on, with different adults in his life. i know they have behavior issues with him at home too.
do you think hes just having a super hard time figuring out who is supposed to be in charge? is he not adjusting to how many adults are in his life? craving attention?
and what do i do here when someone comes over? i cant have him beating up everyone that walks through my door

redirection doesnt work when he is in this mindset, and time out is a joke to him. i'm thinking i will literally have to hang
on to him, or at least hold his hand while someone is here picking up/dropping off?
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