Unbelieveable, Why Nosy People and Gov't Need to Stay Out of Our Business

[mac60]

http://www.rr.com/news/topic/article/rr/9000/9075957/State_to_mom_Stop_baby-sitting_neighbors_kids/1

In my opinion.....this is a perfect example of why government needs to butt out, and people need to mind their own business. \

I don't understand why some people think everything is "their" business. Who ever reported her, probably "thought" she was making a few dollars, and was jealous of her....MYOB

[jen]

Oh good grief! People are ridiculous!!! Why???

[Former Teacher]

Oh good grief! People are ridiculous!!! Why???

Because obviously they have nothing else better to do! I left my former center for a LOT of reasons but I will be honest and tell you that one of the minor reasons was because of licensing. They are a bunch of hypocrites who don't know their blank blank from a hole in the ground. I have NO respect for licensing at all.

On a personal note (and off the subject), my husband and I can not have children of own. So naturally we want to adopt. We were going to go through the state (against my better judgement) of TX. They basically follow minimum standards as well. The "deal breaker" for me was when we went to informational meeting. We were told that the ultimate goal of CPS is to reunite children with their families. I asked them that so if I had a newborn taken from their parents at birth and this child was with us for 2 years and their parents made a miraculous change of life, there is a chance that the baby would be returned? Yes because they feel all children should be at home with blood relatives. Adoption in "their" eyes are a last resort.

Long story short, my husband and I decided on a private agency, one that doesn't have so many stupid rules and meaningless regulations

P.S. thanks for letting me vent...it was a heart breaker that day, now I am just angry at the system haha

[mac60]

So sorry you had to go thru that Former Teacher. I have a friend, her husbands brother and wife are fostering 3 children, ages 2,3, and 4, they have had the kids for over a year now. They have been handed back to the mother several times over the past couple years because mom claims she has it together and can take care of them, only to be put back into the system again. The couple have started the paperwork to adopt them, but, the kids are still going on weekly unsupervised visits to their real mom. My friend says the kids are so mixed up and confused, they still go to mommies, are being told they are going to have a new mom and dad, and the saga goes on.

While I do agree that sometimes a mom/dad/or couple, just has hard times and needs a chance to get things sorted out. Just how many times does a young child have to be drug in and out of the system and at such a young age that they don't really understand. I guess my point is the system is so screwed up, whether it is fostering children, adoption, daycare regs, etc. What is the problem.......?????? The one thing in common they all have is the Government, whether it is state, federal, or local. Thanks for letting me vent too.

So, Former Teacher, were you and your husband ever able to adopt?

[jen]

So much for BEST INTEREST of the child!

[ConcernedMotherof2]

Thank you for posting this article. IMO, this is an example of taking rights away from parents (on deciding who can care for our children and on what terms) and punishing someone who was simply being helpful. What business is it of the government? grrrrr....

[mac60]

This actually made the local tv news this morning. Instead of praising someone for doing something good......they get beaten down.

[Former Teacher]

So sorry you had to go thru that Former Teacher. I have a friend, her husbands brother and wife are fostering 3 children, ages 2,3, and 4, they have had the kids for over a year now. They have been handed back to the mother several times over the past couple years because mom claims she has it together and can take care of them, only to be put back into the system again. The couple have started the paperwork to adopt them, but, the kids are still going on weekly unsupervised visits to their real mom. My friend says the kids are so mixed up and confused, they still go to mommies, are being told they are going to have a new mom and dad, and the saga goes on.

While I do agree that sometimes a mom/dad/or couple, just has hard times and needs a chance to get things sorted out. Just how many times does a young child have to be drug in and out of the system and at such a young age that they don't really understand. I guess my point is the system is so screwed up, whether it is fostering children, adoption, daycare regs, etc. What is the problem.......?????? The one thing in common they all have is the Government, whether it is state, federal, or local. Thanks for letting me vent too.

So, Former Teacher, were you and your husband ever able to adopt?

Thank you for your kind words. No we haven't been able to adopt yet. We will be going through a private adoption agency instead of the state. I wanted a child from the state because like with a private agency, I (we) want to give an underprivileged child a good home. Like I said, it was against my better judgement though because I know how the system works. Again thank you for your kind words

[Unregistered]

HHHHMMMMMM just a thought her but if SHE really wants to just help her bff's out of the goodness of her heart then why doesn't she have them help her pay the fees and just get licensed?

[Unregistered]

I'm a little bit surprised that you all feel that way. I see this from a Licensed Daycare Provider's perspective. Here in Oregon, we have to have 8 hours of continuing education per 2-year licensing cycle. In addition to that, we have to re-take a Child & Infant First Aid & CPR course every 2 years, get re-certified as Food Handlers the same way someone working in a restaurant would, and we have a Home Health & Safety Inspection during the licensing year, and a "casual visit" in the non-licensing year. Therefore, in theory, a child coming to my home is safe from hazards - whether they be for physical injury or foodborne issues - that the average parents wouldn't even think of, and he is also in good hands if he has a medical issue. We were also trained, when we first applied to be Licensed Daycare Providers, on how to recognize Child Abuse & Neglect, and what processes to follow if it becomes necessary to report a case. That's a lot of time, effort, and expense that we have to go through. It's worth it, don't get me wrong. So when someone does this important job without the benefit of all that I have listed above, it's unfair to me, to the parents, and to the kids. JMHO.

[Michael]

unregistered; I corrected the spelling for you. If you register as a member you can make corrections and updates to your posts as needed.

[jen]

I'm a licensed provider as well...but this is a Mom watching kids at the bus stop, not daycare.

[ecemom]

I'm a licensed provider as well...but this is a Mom watching kids at the bus stop, not daycare.

I totally agree! What are they going to regulate next, sleepovers? That's just nuts! It is AN HOUR!

[AmandasFCC]

I'm a licensed provider as well...but this is a Mom watching kids at the bus stop, not daycare.

Exactly. I have issues with people that watch a ton of kids unlicensed all day long - and even then I wouldn't report unless I witnessed something abusive or otherwise shocking. I'm licensed as well and I don't see ANY problem with an hour before school whatsoever. Why can't people help their neighbours out? Unreal.

[melissa ann]

This is crazy. It's one hour/day before school. As long as the parents are okay, what's the big deal? It's not a daycare. Teens who babysit in the evenings aren't required to be licensed so why does this lady need to be for 1 hour/day. People need to mind their own business.