Irritated!!

[R&R]

I tell providers that parents should pay ahead for care on Fridays. If a parent repeatedly pays late there should be a late fee and you should consider requiring them to set up a pay pal account with you so they can pay right online. Some food programs also offer pay pnline options for child care fees that parents can utilize.

No matter how much you love this child you need to have the respect of the parents. They should respect you. You care for their child all day long! The effect you have on their child is unbelievable. You may need to remind them of that. Have them sign a new contract and make your policies regarding payment clear.

[R&R]

I would of told her she needed to go to the bank and get a check with her child in tote.

Sounds like she is going to skip out on payment. I would not take the child back without payment and late fees.

Sorry your going through this.

That would've been pretty traumatic for the child, would it not? Being turned away at the door and hustling to the bank?
How about just creating a policy to avoid thi sin the furture? Clear communication? The child shouldn't be brought into this.

[R&R]

There are people that I would bend over backwards for and people that if they sneeze wrong, I would drop them in a nano second.

I hope you treat the children fairly if not the parents. I can't imagine my provider saying this about me. I'd be afraid to leave my children with her if she'd let us go in a 'nano second'.
It's more than a business, it's most of a child's waking hours. If you don't care deeply about families or they aren't a good match, break it off so they can find someone who is.

[QualiTcare]

That would've been pretty traumatic for the child, would it not? Being turned away at the door and hustling to the bank?
How about just creating a policy to avoid thi sin the furture? Clear communication? The child shouldn't be brought into this.

my children love going to the bank - they get dum-dums there.

seriously - what would be traumatic to the CHILD about a provider telling the PARENT they had to "hustle to the bank" before the child could stay. i think you're digging a little deep on this one.

[jen]

You've never actually done daycare have you????

Let's just say payday is Friday for the following week. Friday comes, the daycare parent "forgets" the check book. Monday comes, Dad drops off, "Oh, Mom didn't pay? I don't have a checkbook, she'll bring it at pick up."

Dad picks up, "Mom's running late, she'll pay you in the morning."

Tuesday comes, not check. A provider has the following choices:

1. No play, no play...parent goes to the bank
2. Go without pay, again. Risking that they are just going to find alternative care to avoid the late fees that are piling up.
3. Terminate

Let's eliminate option 2, we deserver to get paid. That leaves options 1 & 2...which do you think is more "traumatic" to the child.

By the way, since when is it traumatic to a child to have to run to the bank with Mom. No one said anything about being hostile to the parent.

"Hi Mom and Baby! Oh, you forgot your check? I'm sorry, but I won't be able to provide service without payment. Your total is $X, there is an ATM at ____. See you in a few!"

All smiles, all the time.

And, before you say it, YES there are parents who will come on Tuesday without payment even if you told them on Monday you wouldn't provide care without payment on Tuesday. They bank on you NOT turning them away at the door. By the way, the kids with parents like these need the stability of our care more than most. Terminating what may be the most stable situation they have in life is whats really traumatic.

[Michelle]

There are people that I would bend over backwards for and people that if they sneeze wrong, I would drop them in a nano second.

I hope you treat the children fairly if not the parents. I can't imagine my provider saying this about me. I'd be afraid to leave my children with her if she'd let us go in a 'nano second'.
It's more than a business, it's most of a child's waking hours. If you don't care deeply about families or they aren't a good match, break it off so they can find someone who is.

are you the"higher degree , unregistered, poster who has never had a home daycare before?"

[daycare]

are you the"higher degree , unregistered, poster who has never had a home daycare before?"

.... the troll returns....
They are probably the problem family that would get dropped in a nano second...

[daycare]

There are people that I would bend over backwards for and people that if they sneeze wrong, I would drop them in a nano second.

I hope you treat the children fairly if not the parents. I can't imagine my provider saying this about me. I'd be afraid to leave my children with her if she'd let us go in a 'nano second'.
It's more than a business, it's most of a child's waking hours. If you don't care deeply about families or they aren't a good match, break it off so they can find someone who is.

R&R

It is sad when you have children that are as sweet as can be, but then their parents don't pay on time, they dont respect your house, your rules, your neighbors, or have any ounce of respect period.

Yes it is not the childs fault, and I do feel horrible for any child that has parents like this. It does not change the love that I have for the children, however, I don't offer free daycare or flexibility to anyone that can't respect me and my business.

Maybe you are a "BIGGER" person than me and can afford to offer free child care to disrespectful, dishonest parents....

hmmmmm

Happy Monday!!!

[SilverSabre25]

That would've been pretty traumatic for the child, would it not? Being turned away at the door and hustling to the bank?
How about just creating a policy to avoid thi sin the furture? Clear communication? The child shouldn't be brought into this.

All the policies in the world don't stop parents from ignoring them. Maybe you should do daycare for a few years before trying to preach, oh sorry, "teach", about how to do daycare.

And I agree with the others...that it wouldn't be traumatic for a child to be turned away at the door because the parent didn't bring money. And even if the child was upset by it...ten minutes of being upset about something won't scar the poor kid for life. Maybe they'll learn an important lesson about paying bills when they're due...

[JenNJ]

I fail to see a trip to the bank as a traumatic experience for a child. It sounds like her communication with this parent was crystal clear. She has been more than patient and given TWO WEEKS of childcare to this client without pay. This client is giving her the runaround.

I can see how it could be potentially upsetting for the child to not be allowed into the providers home. But this is not the fault of the provider. This is 100% the fault of the parent who is refusing to pay for services already rendered. Ultimately, the child is brought into this situation bc of the parents irresponsibility.

I highly doubt that these parents can go to WalMart and put whatever they choose in the cart and kindly tell the cashier on the way out the door that they will be back next Tuesday to pay for it

Businesses need to be paid for services rendered. No matter how small the business. Anything else is STEALING. I personally think that a "no pay, no play" policy is the most effective for small home daycare.

[Unregistered]

She can always go to her bank and withdrawl cash, or ask her bank for temporary checks for her acct. She is avoiding you. I hate to say it but have you considered taking her to court?
Debbie

[dEHmom]

R&R- you posted about how you "advise" providers to have the payments on the fridays for the following week or do not provide any additional childcare until paid in full.

Then you post that it is traumatic to turn away a parent with child in hand to make a trip to the bank before dropping them off.

Example:
DCM doesn't pay friday...

Monday morning shows up, you open door, dcm say "sorry I forgot to go to bank this morning"..

What do you do?

You contradict yourself. It's obvious you do not have much if any experience in this "business".

tick tick tick

[Cat Herder]

She can always go to her bank and withdrawl cash, or ask her bank for temporary checks for her acct. She is avoiding you. I hate to say it but have you considered taking her to court?
Debbie

The provider was already paid. Someone pulled the post back up...

I am only telling you this so I can ask you to register and stick around. I enjoy your posts and suspect you have alot of experience to offer...

It's just a hunch....

[Little People]

That would've been pretty traumatic for the child, would it not? Being turned away at the door and hustling to the bank?
How about just creating a policy to avoid thi sin the furture? Clear communication? The child shouldn't be brought into this.

I stand by my post!! Then the PARENT should of had enough RESPECT to had the MONEY to pay the PROVIDER!! Then the child would not as you state have to be hustled to the bank. :::::: So it would be the PARENT that caused trauma for the child. And you are CORRECT the child should not be brought into this, and it was the PARENT who BROKE the rule, it would be the PARENT who would be at fault for causing trauma to the child for not paying the provider for HER WONDERFUL SERVICE to the parents child!!

Providers are not BABYSITTERS for parents!


As some of the other posters on here have said...you must be really young and have NO experience in childcare. I also like how you on almost every post re-word someones post.

[daycare]

I stand by my post!! Then the PARENT should of had enough RESPECT to had the MONEY to pay the PROVIDER!! Then the child would not as you state have to be hustled to the bank. :::::: So it would be the PARENT that caused trauma for the child. And you are CORRECT the child should not be brought into this, and it was the PARENT who BROKE the rule, it would be the PARENT who would be at fault for causing trauma to the child for not paying the provider for HER WONDERFUL SERVICE to the parents child!!

Providers are not BABYSITTERS for parents!


As some of the other posters on here have said...you must be really young and have NO experience in childcare. I also like how you on almost every post re-word someones post.

you go sister...
I agree with you %... It is the parent who caused this.