Children Getting Hurt In Your Care

[Blackcat31]

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I told the father to have his wife text my later in the evening to let me know how her son was doing because I was worried about the bruise and his nose...She just texted me saying he was "Doing Okay" I texted her back saying Thank you for letting me know, I feel so bad and then she wrote Yes, we weren't very happy seeing it. We know it wasn't intentional....

I feel like they are still upset with me...I wasn't happy that it happen either but I don't want them to be upset with me where their is nothing I could have done to prevent it....

I honestly had to roll my eyes at her response. I can tell he is an only child.
I am impressed that you went 2 years without any bruises or bumps! I write AT LEAST one incident report each week, sometimes as many as 5! I don't put these 3 to 5-year-olds in bubbles nor do I prevent them from running when we are outside at the playground. That is where most of the incidents here occur. The parents know that I let them run, jump, skip, walk, etc. and that I won't be shadowing all 9 children with my arms around them saying, "Be caaaaaareful!" as they swing on a monkey bar, climb up the jungle gym, or bounce on the see saw. I've had children go home with a dark bruise on their noggin and one on their eye (from them losing their balance and their face hitting the jungle gym bars), skinned knees, ant bites due to sticking their hand in the ant pile, etc. I have never had a parent have an issue. They might say, "Oh no! Are you okay?" but that's it. The funniest responses are when the parent teaches the child that it's a "battle wound" or when they say, "Oh, that's the best he could do today? ::"

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Childcare Center Director

I'm searching the "net" for forums as this...I am developing a advocacy group concerning children, particularly those in childcare whether it be family care or facility care.

I want to just address the "hurts" in childcare. Certainly it depends on whether the child is the first (only) child of the family. But, be that as it may, our childcare centers and family homes must be as child-proof as we can make them. But, what we share with parents is that the children get their "hurts" here; this is where they grow up; nothing is perfect. But there is a sincere reassurance that it is not routine that children get hurt. We have to look deep into the heart of a parent and let them know we are empathetic and that, at the end of the day, we only have their children's best interest at heart.

I know that we cry, etc., but really -- you will never ever get a parent to not be angry. It's their flesh and blood and anger is their choice. When you know that you have done all of that you can do; you have given all that you could; you have prepared a safe, sanitized and appropriate place for their children to be during any day, then you will learn that childcare is not for cowards. But for true, sincere, caring people who will support families!!!

[nannyde]

I'm searching the "net" for forums as this...I am developing a advocacy group concerning children, particularly those in childcare whether it be family care or facility care.

I want to just address the "hurts" in childcare. Certainly it depends on whether the child is the first (only) child of the family. But, be that as it may, our childcare centers and family homes must be as child-proof as we can make them. But, what we share with parents is that the children get their "hurts" here; this is where they grow up; nothing is perfect. But there is a sincere reassurance that it is not routine that children get hurt. We have to look deep into the heart of a parent and let them know we are empathetic and that, at the end of the day, we only have their children's best interest at heart.

I know that we cry, etc., but really -- you will never ever get a parent to not be angry. It's their flesh and blood and anger is their choice. When you know that you have done all of that you can do; you have given all that you could; you have prepared a safe, sanitized and appropriate place for their children to be during any day, then you will learn that childcare is not for cowards. But for true, sincere, caring people who will support families!!!

Children are injured way more with their parents than in child.care. Mothers are the number one abuser of children and the number one cause of intentional injury.

Why would you focus on child care. We aren't even close to the top when it comes to injury of children. Mom, Dad, MOMS BOYFRIEND, relatives etc should be your concern if safety of children is your concern.

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I'm thinking maybe I should remove all board books from my toddler areas On his very first day, 21 month old fell face-first on the corner of a board book he was carrying and got a big bruise right next to his eye.
Not sure if I should tape cotton balls on all the corners of the board book pages, or only make paperback books available to toddlers (: or perhaps just read *to* them and not allow them to handle those dangerous books at all.

I do understand a parent's concern with a pre-verbal child. They may feel that they need to be on the look-out for any signs of possible abuse, if they don't know the provider well, and their child has just begun in care. But once trust has been established, I have never feared telling a parent how an injury occurred.

Added: and yes, I noticed that it's a recently-revived thread.

[Heidi]

NM....I just saw the "old thread" note.

[nanglgrl]

I'm thinking maybe I should remove all board books from my toddler areas On his very first day, 21 month old fell face-first on the corner of a board book he was carrying and got a big bruise right next to his eye.
Not sure if I should tape cotton balls on all the corners of the board book pages, or only make paperback books available to toddlers (: or perhaps just read *to* them and not allow them to handle those dangerous books at all.

I do understand a parent's concern with a pre-verbal child. They may feel that they need to be on the look-out for any signs of possible abuse, if they don't know the provider well, and their child has just begun in care. But once trust has been established, I have never feared telling a parent how an injury occurred.

Added: and yes, I noticed that it's a recently-revived thread.

Eww..I don't know if you should go the paperback book route, don't you know papercuts can really hurt?! ::::::

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Eww..I don't know if you should go the paperback book route, don't you know papercuts can really hurt?! ::::::

Bummer Hadn't thought of the papercuts