Why Do Parents Let Their Kids....

**Unregistered** · 03-07-2011, 11:20 AM

Most kids behave better for anyone else but their parents. Just because they aren't angels for them on the weekend doesn't mean they dont have any kind of routine at home. Why is it lately on here, lots of providers think that other peoples children are better off when they are with them? There are other threads on here sayin you guys wish the parents had their kids more, but then turn around and say that they're better off with you? Not be a brat but not all providers are gods gift to parents.

**jen** · 03-07-2011, 11:33 AM

Originally posted by Unregistered

Most kids behave better for anyone else but their parents. Just because they aren't angels for them on the weekend doesn't mean they dont have any kind of routine at home. Why is it lately on here, lots of providers think that other peoples children are better off when they are with them? There are other threads on here sayin you guys wish the parents had their kids more, but then turn around and say that they're better off with you? Not be a brat but not all providers are gods gift to parents.

You lose the novelty thing with kids once they have been with you for awhile. In other words, once you have a child in care, especially ones that have been with you since infancy and are now 2 or 3 years old, they act the same for you as they would for their folks. Monday's are tough for those kids that get off schedule over the weekend.

**jen** · 03-07-2011, 11:34 AM

Originally posted by countrymom

be so bad on the weekend that when I get them on monday all I hear is how awful their weekend was because the kids were bad.
Out of 4 kids that came 3 of them complained that they had so many issues that they didn't know what to do. (funny thing is, is I don't allow that behavior here, not even with my own children)
2 of the kids apparently were beating and hitting and kicking their parents so much and neither had naps that they threatend to bring the kids to my house.The 1 other child apparently was whiney and into everything all weekend (this is my favorite child and she is so good that I would have 10 of her, so I have no idea what they are talking about)
Like seriously, how hard is it to have a routine, and punish the guilty, normal bed times and these kids are all under the age of 3. I just don't get it anymore.

Mine were a bit much this morning too. They were ALL asleep by 11:30 and they are still asleep.

**morgan24** · 03-07-2011, 11:47 AM

Originally posted by Unregistered

Most kids behave better for anyone else but their parents. Just because they aren't angels for them on the weekend doesn't mean they dont have any kind of routine at home. Why is it lately on here, lots of providers think that other peoples children are better off when they are with them? There are other threads on here sayin you guys wish the parents had their kids more, but then turn around and say that they're better off with you? Not be a brat but not all providers are gods gift to parents.

I don't think that providers are gods gift to parents, but I think if parents work with me and we stay to the same type of schedule the kids are well adjusted and Monday doesn't have to be rough day. I have one parent who tries to stay to the same schedule on the weekends and her child is not in a nasty mood like the one who admits that it is to much work to keep her child on a schedule. On weekends she doesn't nap (she is 3 and very much needs a nap) she eats when and what ever she likes and watches movies and tv all day if she feels like it. Mondays are a readjustment every week, she hits the door in a nasty mood cause she knows she can have everything her way. She gets sweeter as the week goes on and then bam weekend is here and we get to start over, had the schedule been the same she just may stay sweet and not be so nasty on Monday.

**sahm2three** · 03-07-2011, 11:58 AM

I treat the daycare kids the same as my own kids. Same rules. My kids are very well behaved (for the most part,

!) We were at an all day event on Saturday and we had quite a few comments about how well behaved our children were! Consistancy is key. It is hard for us to uphold rules here that are not upheld at home! I don't think that parents who have little or no rules in teh home are doing their kids ANY favors!

**countrymom** · 03-07-2011, 12:40 PM

Originally posted by Unregistered

Most kids behave better for anyone else but their parents. Just because they aren't angels for them on the weekend doesn't mean they dont have any kind of routine at home. Why is it lately on here, lots of providers think that other peoples children are better off when they are with them? There are other threads on here sayin you guys wish the parents had their kids more, but then turn around and say that they're better off with you? Not be a brat but not all providers are gods gift to parents.

then why are children falling asleep before nap time, running around hitting their parents, biting them, slaping them, throwing food on the floor for them, throwing themselves on the floor and then having parents complain monday morning what awful weekends they have, ya, its because they have a routine at home, ya ok. If parents would just keep to a schedual then their wouldn't be a problem. seriously how hard is it to put johnny down for a nap at 1pm not at 4pm because you were too busy. Or how hard is it for johnny clean up his toys after he threw them at you.

**Cat Herder** · 03-07-2011, 01:03 PM

I think some of it is Mothers Guilt. I have one DCM right now who about makes me cry every morning. She does not tell me much, but I see it.

She never planned to be as connected to this baby as she is and now that she HAS to go back to work (she carries the health insurance for her family) it is eating her alive. Her husband has gone back to school full-time; not working.

She had trouble bonding with her first due to PPD so going back at 5 weeks was much easier then, now she has guilt associated with BOTH of her kids... I can't imagine that.

Her oldest now has reverted back to 1 year...wont use a spoon, throws his food on the floor, expects a bottle....and she is giving in. Feels he must need it... From the outside she just looks like a lazy Mom....

I am just sad for her and really hope she figures something out for her family. I'd rather loose her as a client than this rip her marriage apart, YKWIM?

I know there is an exception for every rule and wanted parents reading here to know we DO know the difference between the ones who have just "checked out" and the ones who are "surviving".....

We come here to vent, just like you do with co-workers, but that does not mean we don't also care about "our" DK families, too..... YKWIM??

**E Daycare** · 03-07-2011, 01:04 PM

Originally posted by countrymom

then why are children falling asleep before nap time, running around hitting their parents, biting them, slaping them, throwing food on the floor for them, throwing themselves on the floor and then having parents complain monday morning what awful weekends they have, ya, its because they have a routine at home, ya ok. If parents would just keep to a schedual then their wouldn't be a problem. seriously how hard is it to put johnny down for a nap at 1pm not at 4pm because you were too busy. Or how hard is it for johnny clean up his toys after he threw them at you.

I agree!

I try and keep schedule as real outside daycare would and keep my DS on track with this on weekends too. If my husband is with him he knows its moms schedule and sticks to it. When we are out we work around the schedule. Oop lunch is at noon? OK, we will eat and be home before 1 for nap! My son is never with anyone else (we live no where around family) so I never worry about his schedule being off. Even when we visit family and stay with my MIL I still uphold his schedule. I dont care if aunt so and so and gma whoever wants to see my son. If hes off schedule hes cranky and lets everyone know it. I therefore am super crabby and also let everyone know it.

DH knows what I say goes. Works best for my DS and thats all that matters anyways.

**DCMomOf3** · 03-07-2011, 01:12 PM

Originally posted by Catherder

II know there is an exception for every rule and wanted parents reading here to know we DO know the difference between the ones who have just "checked out" and the ones who are "surviving".....

We come here to vent, just like you do with co-workers, but that does not mean we don't also care about "our" DK families, too..... YKWIM??

Well said catherder.

**Blackcat31** · 03-07-2011, 01:50 PM

Originally posted by Catherder

I think some of it is Mothers Guilt. I have one DCM right now who about makes me cry every morning. She does not tell me much, but I see it.

She never planned to be as connected to this baby as she is and now that she HAS to go back to work (she carries the health insurance for her family) it is eating her alive. Her husband has gone back to school full-time; not working.

She had trouble bonding with her first due to PPD so going back at 5 weeks was much easier then, now she has guilt associated with BOTH of her kids... I can't imagine that.

Her oldest now has reverted back to 1 year...wont use a spoon, throws his food on the floor, expects a bottle....and she is giving in. Feels he must need it... From the outside she just looks like a lazy Mom....

I am just sad for her and really hope she figures something out for her family. I'd rather loose her as a client than this rip her marriage apart, YKWIM?

I know there is an exception for every rule and wanted parents reading here to know we DO know the difference between the ones who have just "checked out" and the ones who are "surviving".....

We come here to vent, just like you do with co-workers, but that does not mean we don't also care about "our" DK families, too..... YKWIM??

Nicely said!

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