So I Guess We At Daycare Don't Count

[Unregistered]

In my small home daycare I do the treats myself, but a gift and make a birthday crown for the child to wear. Noone is left out Oh, and the treats are for afternoon snack so as not to hype them out before nap..........

[nannyde]

The difference is that at Pre-school there are more adults to see them being the best parents in the room...

Sorry, if that comes off as jaded....it is just what I have seen over and over and over......

True story... At the B-day parties I throw parents were welcomed to bring gifts up to $10, no gift tags please, in case someone cannot participate no one will know the difference or be humiliated. It is all in fun, after all.

I keep a few extra wrapped toys that I fill in in case someone simply can't do it. I take lot's of photos for the daycare facebook page that the Grandparents live for and each child always gets 5 gifts regardless (6 kids in care).

Well, it never fails someone buys the big $35-$50 gift and puts a huge gift tag on it.

I started removing all gift tags and simply send them home as "group gifts" so there is no benefit to out do another, and nobody feels embarrassed....so they started writing it on the gift packaging, under the wrapping paper.

I then started opening all toys and sending them home in one big gift bag.....then they started "tagging" themselves on the gifts on the facebook page.... I kid you not!!!!

Parents are no longer allowed to send gifts, I will however be glad to pass out invitations to their children's birthday parties to the other parents... and I regretfully have plans that weekend.....

Wow I've never done gifts but now I know why.

We celebrate bdays monthly and have a really great meal and a desert I know the little one likes a lot. We don't do gifts but a celebration.

I say forget the expensive kiddy gifts and give a bonus to the Nan. I'll buy something great for the group... I promise.

[Cat Herder]

I hear you, Nan!!! ::::

I started doing the birthday parties because so many parents in the past had been disappointed in the photos from the big parties they threw at the park, restaurants, etc...

The kids act out or cry because of the over stimulation or fear of strangers, huge cartoon mice/clowns etc. YKWIM??

So I do them here, with the kids they are with all the time and give the parents cute, happy "Classic" Birthday photos with the hats, blowing out the candle and opening presents... Just simple and priceless, IMHO....

It used to be something the parents were so appreciative of. Luckily with my current group, it is going better than the last few groups...

It just has seemed to changed so much over the last 10 years, it breaks my heart when I stop to think on it....

[mac60]

Really a parent doesn't bring a treat, and it must make them an unstable parent...WOW. Poor timmy I bet wont even get a birthday party at home, if his parents are horrible enough to flake on the daycare treat, I bet he won't get a cake or anything at home with his family where his birthday is the MOST important.

Serioudly, are snide comments like this necessary.
I can assure you that "Poor Timmy" was quite upset at Valentine's Day when all his friends here had Valentines and treats to hand out but him......and he kept asking where are mine to pass out? So yes, young children do notice these things.